Can I be cheating? If my 2 year girlfriend, 8 years older than me, insults me all the time and humilliated me.

Question

If my 2 year girlfriend, 8 years older than me, insults me all the time and humilliated me. She does things that makes me feel disrespected but in her world are acceptable.... she does not give me 100% attection or respect as a man. And a day like today I could not take it anymore and I decide to go out tonite and meet a woman for a personal encounter.. would I be chetting? I dont feel like cheatting... I just need a break from this woman cause I am not able to even say or express myself to her... If she comes to me like yestarday and ask me what's wrong? and I tell her that myheart is broken cause her acctions.. she transform herself into a devil, loose patience and will tell me that that is my problem and will insult me to make shut my mouth. So basically she gets mad .if I even say that I am sufering..
So tonite I am meeting this other woman.. I dont know I dont know but I dont feel like cheatting.... or am I?

2 year relationship.. she is 38 I am 31

Answer 1

I would tell you to break it off with her cause its clear she doesnt care how you feel if she is only gonna flip on you for expressing what you are going through. Nobody deserves to feel like they are worthless especially when your in a relationship with someone who is susposed to build you up, not knock you down. Rather than decide to meet someone else for a casual encounter, i would tell you to tell the girlfriend you need to take a break for a while cause youre not sure where you stand in yuor relationship, goodluck!

Answer 2

Omg! 8 years and all you got is a terrible break up.. am sorry ! I believe the reason she cheated is she might have needed a change, I can't really jump to conclusions out of this, I really wonder why would someone leave all this behind but the thing is you need to move on and you need to take revenge to, she is not worth a moment of thinking, she lost alot really, I can't believe they are staying in the same building too ! That sucks big time :(

Answer 3

I understand where your coming from. And know ones needs that kinda life. It's to short. If I were you I'd get out. You don't need a break no matter how much you love her she is not going to change. She is just going to slowly chisel away your self esteem She never going to change. And yes it is cheating. Also she should be at the curb. What you should do is act like you don't give a damn and when she starts running off at the mouth. Just turn around don't say anything and leave for a while. There is someone out there who will treat you with respect and decency. Good Luck!

Answer 4

If you are done with your girlfriend, have the balls to break up with her. Yes, you are cheating to go on a date with another woman when you have been dating each other for two years--I don't even have to ask about your committment.

Trying to get back at her will do you no good, and shopping for another woman before you break up a relationship that is bad and over just shows that you are weak and spiteful, and to afraid to be alone for a while. Put off your date, break up with your girlfriend, and then see how things turn out. Don't use her actions as an excuse for you to behave badly.

Answer 5

Yes, it would be cheating. This sounds like an awful relationship and you need to get out of it immediately. I've had a lot of experience with this... Your current girlfriend will try and get you back by saying that she has changed and will treat you better, but it is not true. Women are conniving and you will have to see past that and know that you are both better off not together. Once you and her are broken up, you should see other women, but not before then.

Answer 6

Yes, you'll be cheating, & you also will be taking the coward's way out by not facing the real issue: it's time to dump this woman like a bad habit. Instead of cheating on her, tell her it's over. If you're living in her place, leave. If she's living in yours, tell her to pack up & get out now. Basically, there's no love in this situation, & no respect, & you two aren't compatible. Grow a spine, be a man, & move on with your life.

Answer 7

The short answer is that cheating is cheating. It sounds like this is not a good relationship for you and that your needs are not getting met. Instead of sneaking around behind her back, I'd tell her up front. Let her get mad, rant and rave. It doesn't matter. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and dignity.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Ok, you can't add or subtract...this we know, you can't spell very well either....but that's ok, ask yourself....what the heck are you doing with this woman in the first place, especially considering that she treats you badly. So number 1, get out of that relationship, then number 2 , go meet someone else....then number 3, invest in a healthy relationship. It's that easy as 1, 2, 3

Answer 9

Your an idiot. Of course its cheating. You think that your automatically "not cheating" if you CHEAT on someone who treats you madly? How on earth did you get that rationalization?

I real man when have the guts and respect to break up with her.. and then proceed to have "personal encounters"

Your just as bad as your girlfriend. I hope you both have a miserable life together.. cuz that seems like whats your going to do. I CANT BELIVE YOU WOULD EVEN THINK YOU WERENT CHEATING!

Answer 10

Well you would be cheating, but why don't you leave her if she treats you this way?? Make her read Love and respect ( by Emmerson Eggrich) she needs to understand you need respect like she needs love maybe your not loveing her enough. Ask her how she would feel if u did'nt show her love by hugging her, kissing her , holding her hand etc..?