We are both educated, of sound mind, no family dysfunction. We do not have a history of dating out of our age range. This is our only exp. with age gap dating. We have always dated within our age group. So we dont have "mother/father issues". People who dont know us cant tell by looking at us so we dont get weird looks. Only my family has disowned me. Hes not a thug or lowlife or freak. He's prior military and now has a very good job and is supporting us. He is by far the nicest, most loving, normal, stable minded person I have ever met. They just cant accept it. I dont care and am not trying to change it but it would be nice to hear from others some encouragement and acceptance of our "non traditional, socially unacceptable" life style.
2007-09-24 06:30:27 · 19 answers · asked by mrsbarrett10607 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 32 and mine is 24. If you are happy then that is all that matters. If family loves you they will learn to accept it. If you and he are happy then just embrace that. Some people wait a lifetime for happiness.
2007-09-24 06:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by dazednconfused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In 26 years you will be 65 and he will be 48. You will be ready to travel and he...will still be working (unless he's a rich tycoon by then).
That being said, the only thing that matters is what goes on between you and him and your kids. It sounds like you have children (possibly from another marriage) because you said he is supporting "us".
Your family can be looked at in two ways and you need to decide which way to go:
You are an adult and it doesn't matter what your family says because right now, right at this moment, you love your guy dearly. You can create your own community of people around you who love you and respect the decisions that both of you make.
Or
You can value your family and their opinion and try to please them as you have all these years. Even when this guy dumps you your family will be there telling you "we told you so".
Food for thought.
Life is too short to be worrying about what other people think or say. Create the life you want and stick to it. If he is giving you happiness then stick with it.
2007-09-24 07:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! I wouldnt want to have that much of gap for a women being that much older than me. I could have a girl that much younger. I am not saying this is what happened but it seem as if you turned him out or took advantage of his inexperience. Thats why the family is so mad. I wonder has he thought about 10 or 20 years from now when he is 32 or 42 and you are 49 or 59. That could be difficult I would imagine but only you guys know best!
2007-09-24 06:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by Obama2009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 years older than my wife but to be honest both her family and mine are very happy for us. My step-dad is 10 years younger than my mother and my cousin is with a woman about 17 years his senior and they have been together for some time so it can work. That is the good news the bad news is that the statistics on men in their 20's that marry women 15 years or more their senior usually end up divorcing them within 10 years... this is true in about 85% of these marriages. Since you are both educated and mature hopefully you will be in the 15% that are very happy together.
2007-09-24 06:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweets, it ain't ever the years, it's the mileage.... and no one would look a second time if you were 22 and he 39. In reality, at this point, all things being equal, he will die 7-9 years before you do, so it is not as if he were going to be alone 17 years after your death. No one can predict the future anyway... young people die, and old ones live healthily forever........ for you, stay healthy, trim fit, eat wisely (and no one really tells you what that means, so do some reading by Andrew Weil MD... the real deal in diet, exercise, Harvard trained, smart guy. The Book Healthy Aging is great for anyone, as well as The Non-Inflammatory Diet, or something akin to it. paperback anywhere, and cheap. As well, sign on to his website.... anything you order from him (you for sure don't have to, and I for sure, don't) goes to his foundation....... He's no dummy, sweets....) and exercise...I hate the gym too, but go anyway Stay fit for yourself, and stay fit for him, and he as well, for you.
2007-09-24 06:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the infamous 22 yr old. My mom knows, and has not disowned me, but I haven't told my dad. I don't care what people think anymore. If people don't like my..... I mean OUR life choices....GET OVER IT ITS OUR LIFE NOT YOURS! STOP TRYING TO GET US TO CHANGE OUR MINDS! LOVE AND THE HEART KNOWS NO BOUNDS!
Yes mrsbarrett10607 has kids and I will be taking them on and will be adopting her youngest daughter as my own. I love her and her kids. I don't have any kids of my own (yet) and I stayed as a roommate for 9 months. We had no personal relationship we were only friends. When I left on June 26 it took me to ruffly till July 17 to realize that I loved this woman and could' t go another day without her in my life.
2007-09-24 12:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kyle B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get fed up with people say how bad age gaps are im 55 and my girlfriend(from the phillipines)is 25 ive been told shes a gold digger etc from people on this site,only one person has said anything about love . i say if you are both in love then get on with it ,the people who are against it are living in the 19th century,we are always on about promoting loving relationships yet there so many people trying to spoil a good thing i wish you both happiness and while there is love then age gap dosent even get out of the starting blocks
2007-09-24 23:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by joe1952 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are married or just dating?
Either is fine... your family has narrow minds...
There have been many fameous people where the wife was older than the husband... Kathryn Helmond is much older than her husband. Ruth Gordan was much older as well....
Look at some of the other celeberties today. They are out there.
As long as you are happy and the relationship "works" it doesn't matter what your ages are.
2007-09-24 06:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what there problems are ...my only guess is they are worried about what "others think" because in that situation there is nothing wrong with it- its not like you are 12 and 30..you are 22 and 39. Just go on living your lives..be happy- eventually when they see you are together..for good and for bad..forever..they will come around.
their losses ... for time loss.
2007-09-24 07:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no bounds. If you love him and he loves you there can be no one strong enough to pull you apart. A marriage is a union between two individuals not to families. It only took the two of you to make the decision.
2007-09-24 06:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jason G. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋