you had sex with (but you didn't really get much out of it because it was her first time and she was in pain) but when you ask her to do it again, she said no and wouldn't not budge no matter how many temper tantrums you had? Would you lose respect for that girl?
2007-09-24 06:36:29 · 19 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No...I'd lose respect for the chooch who has 'tantrums' because he can't get laid.
Get real man. If anything she should lose all respect for you.
2007-09-24 06:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are throwing "temper tantrums" you are not a man, you are still a boy. As a Dad I would advise her (if she has reached the age-of-consent) to avoid you like the plague. First time sex for a woman can be physically very painful. If you were a considerate lover you would have stopped penetration. Then mutual manual stimulation could have been used as a route to physical satisfaction. A considerate lover would also be discussing the situation w/ her not having temper tantrums. Since it was her first time she may have been frightened or at least apprehensive and may not have been properly lubricated. This leads to tearing of the vaginal wall. The hymen could have been especially resilient. It is sometimes so resilient that a minor doctor's office procedure is required to cut the hymen. A real man; would be willing to allow time for her body to heal, would not be trying to hang a guilt trip on her via temper tantrums. And she should be discussing the situation w/ you and not making a blunt refusal. All-in-all it sounds like neither of you a mentally mature enough to be having sex, despite what your chronological ages might be. The capper to this minor treatise - you are misusing the word "respect". "Interest" or "Desire" is more appropriate.
Respect:
Pronunciation: ri-'spekt
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin respectus, literally, act of looking back, from respicere to look back, regard, from re- + specere to look -- more at SPY
1 : a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation
2 : an act of giving particular attention : CONSIDERATION
3 a : high or special regard : ESTEEM
b : the quality or state of being esteemed
c plural : expressions of respect or deference
4 : PARTICULAR, DETAIL
- in respect of chiefly British : with respect to : CONCERNING
- in respect to : with respect to : CONCERNING
- with respect to : with reference to : in relation to
2007-09-24 14:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by wry humor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, you guys obviously were wigging out on a sex escapade. I would only say you've lost respect for her because she doesn't have what you are interested in.
She probably realized what just happened, which lead her to believe maybe, it wasn't such a great idea after all.
If you have made all points by throwing random temper tantrums then she probably got the point.
2007-09-24 13:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Little big brains 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't lose respect for her, but I might question why you insist on having sex when she has made it clear she doesn't want to. The first time is not great. Not for anybody. It is down right scary. If you like this girl, tell her. If you are just looking for a good time, she probably just isn't into that. Respect her wishes.
2007-09-24 13:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by thebooksherpa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Such closed-minded refusal to learn and grow sexually can not be rewarded with continued attention. Ditch the ***ch.
However, you must be totally inept, sexually speaking. You hurt her so bad that she doesn't want to try it again? Wow, dude. Just got so excited that you didn't care if she was moaning out of passion or pain, huh? Imbecile. Stay away from the ladies until you can control yourself, learn how to properly prepare the female body for intercourse, and maybe gain a little empathy.
2007-09-24 14:31:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with that girl near the top; this is a really weird question.
Why are you worried about losing his respect again? I don't get it. He sounds selfish and immature, and I don't think that he ever respected you in the first place. Sorry if that sounds harsh.
Why are you still dating this guy anyway?
2007-09-24 13:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are throwing temper tantrums. Do the girl a favor. Dump her so she can find someone who is grown up and knows how to act like a man and not a child.
2007-09-24 13:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if I'd call it loosing respect for her. First off I'd expect her to be in pain the first time so I'm prepared to deal with that part of it. Her refusal to do it again would result in me breaking it off with her. She's repressed and I'm not interested in fixing someone who is broken.
2007-09-24 13:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
OH Yeah. I'd dump her like a hot rock if she didn't want to play any more. Of course, I prefer relationships with women who know what they want, not freaky little girls who are liable to be flaky in other ways. If she isn't willing to put out, I've got better things to do.
2007-09-24 13:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by terry m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt lose respect but I would probably lose patients and interest though but Plus it depends upon how young or old you are and at what stage of you life you are in too.
2007-09-24 13:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Obama2009 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋