Family & Relationships - 12 September 2007

Well I lost the girl I as always loved, cause I thought my actions spoke louder then word, but oh I was so wrong. Yet I know I'll heal in time, so I wanna know should I tell my lover I love you, cause when I fall in love I swear my words are true

2007-09-12 15:42:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been married for 10 years and we have 6 kids together. We are both members of the same church, but I live the standards and he doesn't. He comes to church once in a while, but comes back home and sets a poor example for the kids. My oldest daughter knows right from wrong and she sees what he is doing.

He is a good dad other than the example he sets, but our marriage is really not very good. He has no respect for me and the amount of work I do. He even uses my toothbrush and razor! I have asked him several times not to, but he just doesn't care. I am starting to realize that the way that he treats me is the ways my sons will treat their wives and what my daughters will expect from their husbands.

We've been through counseling and it works temporarily, but he always goes back to his old ways. Is this just who he is and he pretends to be someone else for awhile? Am I crazy to think that it's better to seperate than keep fighting?

2007-09-12 15:42:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

One wife is just too boring.

2007-09-12 15:42:13 · 21 answers · asked by gregdean 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-09-12 15:39:10 · 9 answers · asked by MS. DC 2 in Weddings

I suffer from major clinical depression and so I have low energy...plus a weight problem that keeps me from feeling very attractive if you know what I mean. Well, many times in our marriage, my hubby has been asked to go places, and will be hoping I will accompany him, but I rarely do because I just feel so uncomfortable around people I don't know. Shoot, I sometimes feel uncomfortable around my "own" family gatherings...so it's hard even then. Well, this may sound small to those of you who are outgoing and don't concern yourself with what others think, but my hubby was asked by some 1 at work if he would like to attend a wedding. I would only know one person there besides my husband and kids and I just keep thinking...Oh, I just can't. But last time I told him no, he was disappointed and I really hate doing that!! My question is, should I go even though I know I won't enjoy it with my nerves in a bundle,....it's not like I know these people, so sure he is comfortable. Thanks.

2007-09-12 15:33:26 · 24 answers · asked by ShineOn 4 in Marriage & Divorce

In a situation where you know, you will always be in love with special someone for the rest of your life but you may never get to work out misunderstandings with her, and never get to work out things you have no clue about what she was mad about in the first place because she will probably stay mad at you for life because she doesn't even want talk anymore despite knowing her for years and having friendship before. Anyway so a guy has to go on with life or go through the motions of it, but doesn't want to live single and someday have a lasting marriage with kids, grandkids later, etc. The questions is though, has anybody ever just to have a married life, and at least found who they would consider their no. 2 in the world aside from the no. 1 they will never stop loving more than anyone, went ahead and married someone like a number 2 they know they will never love as much as the one they truly love? If so how does one find happiness despite being in love with no 1? (this is my doom)

2007-09-12 15:32:30 · 3 answers · asked by ? 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, my husband and I were on our way home from a bday party tonight, and we were discussing intimacy... so I'm wanting to know whats your opinion of foreplay in the bedroom. What's your suggestions to making things more intimate and not duty-like, how can you get things a little spiced up romanticly with someone (not kinky) who was raised SO conservative?
Thanks...

2007-09-12 15:29:31 · 21 answers · asked by marcie1997 3 in Marriage & Divorce

he should be home by now

2007-09-12 15:23:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

3 of my friends r ignoring me... i do not know what i did wrong but apparently my other friends say i did... i dont remember waht i did... i tried to ask them but it made things worse... i just want things to go back to normal because\e these r not just friends they r close friends that i really care about... so how do i go about doin this?

2007-09-12 15:21:23 · 1 answers · asked by spontanious 1 in Friends

I met my best guy friend 2 years ago. We started out just buddies. We live in different states now and we've been talking every day for the past month or so. I guess we flirt a lot and he tells me he loves me all of the time, and I tell him the same. Here comes the drama. He and his wife separated a year ago (she and I are also friends) and six months into their separation, he got a girl pregnant. He was dating this girl but she left him and went back to her fiance. I know, huge soap opera. My dilemma is, if I tell him how I feel and he doesn't feel the same it might make things awkward. Another issue for me is adding to the already continually increasing drama that is his life. An estranged wife, baby's momma, and a girlfriend? So, do I keep my mouth shut and just keep telling myself that this too shall pass or do I jump in head first and pray I float?

2007-09-12 15:21:19 · 3 answers · asked by naenaehasheart 1 in Friends

I called my mom today to discuss my wedding. She lives in Mystic, CT I live in LA. She said she had picked out what she was wearing to my wedding and I'm like "Mom it's in June, don't worry, you don't need to chose just yet." But she insisted that she knew what she was going to wear and e-mailed me a picutre of her wearing an ALL WHITE dress, white tights, white shoes, a white top hat with a tiny white vail. Now my mom knows my wedding dress is all white. How can I tell her she can't wear all white because it's disrespectful to me!

2007-09-12 15:16:43 · 33 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Weddings

2007-09-12 15:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by exwife! 4 in Marriage & Divorce

it keeps going higher and higher.
what was your budget for your wedding?

me and my fiance are going to pay for this wedding. Our initial budget was $90,000. The venue, The Bellagio in Vegas, is charging us $25,000 for the ballroom itself. The main thing that blows up our budget is the guests (price per head for food and drink is $180). We initially had 350 guests but now the list is getting bigger and were at 500. the cost is now up to $115,000. I don't think i want to go much higher than that. im estimating its going to be somewhere from $115,000--$125,000. I just keep feeling its rude to invite some people and not others. I cant say no. What should we do to cut the guest list?? please help...

2007-09-12 15:12:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My mother is very emotional and sensitive. Then, she has a big ego and thinks that she is always right.

My daughter (age 15) and I are staying with her temporarily. She asked me to move out and says "the sooner, the better" on Sunday.

She told my daughter today that she is tired of my "attitude." I don't know what I have done to her.

She cries for no reason and is rude and snappy with me. Then, she blames me for everything.

I know that my daughter and I have to move out soon. My daughter sees that she "uses and abuses" me.

I feel bad that she said negative things about me to my daughter.

How should I handle her in the meantime?

2007-09-12 15:11:22 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family

my boyfriend told me he will not be able to call me this whole week cuz he has this MAJOR exam on sat (he said he will call once maybe and email a few times..he did the email but hasnt called yet)...I know that his exam is v.imp and that he has 2 jobs plus school along with this test but somehow i felt like he could take out 10 mins to call me....
i thought hes reluctant to call cuz i dont call him (im reluctant to call him and he calls 99% of the time)...i dont call him cuz whenever I do hes been busy studying with someone..but he has always talked or called back... yesterday i finally called him and we spoke for a few mins...
would a guy do that if he were so busy or does he not care enough about me???

2007-09-12 15:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by cassy 2 in Singles & Dating

i just married my husband june 15 2007 and its like i never want to be anywhere without him..i am 18 and he is 23... i have had feelings for him since i was 14...so can someone please help me...and give tell me thing to keep our marrige alive

2007-09-12 15:04:02 · 14 answers · asked by Stephanie Bryant 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my mom n dad jus got divorced and i dont know wat to do because he was the perfect father figure until recently when i found out he was into addictions and women n we r about to move out far away, my mom n me, n i dont know wat to think of him because he is my dad n i love him but i hate him for wat he did..how should i tell him how i feel without hurting him..

2007-09-12 15:01:29 · 25 answers · asked by crucita 2 in Family

2007-09-12 15:01:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-09-12 14:52:41 · 6 answers · asked by alex m 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm getting married in a year and I've been planning and taking my time planning it and just enjoying the experience with my fiancie. Well my mom any time I make a desision she goes behind my back and change it. Like I wanted a dark blue/white theme, but she turned it into black/white. Every time she changes a singel thing it makes me mad at her to the point I can't stand to be around her any more... I know she just wants me to have a perfect wedding but we're paying for it and it's costing us money to keep changing it. She even called the catter and changed the menue, I just left that alone because I admitt what she picked out was better and less expensive. I'm tired of this, my fiancie is tired of breaking up arguements between us, and so am I. We didn't even argue this much back when I went through my "bad girl" faze!!! I'm tired of this!! When I was at the alter trying to pick a preist she through a fit when she didn't like the speach he gave and I hired him anyways. She tried to

2007-09-12 14:50:38 · 16 answers · asked by Jess 2 in Weddings

What is wrong with not joining family gathering? Teenagers need space from their families. Also, everyone is different. Some people like family gatherings and some don't. We all like different things. It is the same as some people like baseball, some don't. Some people like boxing and some people don't. What is wrong with us liking to do different things? If the teenagers are 15, shouldn't parents give that choice to the teenagers. They are 15 not 5.

2007-09-12 14:50:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

that their husbands are children? I am an enlisted sailor in the US Navy. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and we have two children. She dropped out of school when we first got married and during the past 6 years she has done nothing to get her GED. Now shes calling me a child because of miniscule things I do around the house, yet she does not work to support our income. We have talked about this allot, but it just ends in a large argument. Now getting upset about being called a child is well...childish. When your called a child almost everyday while the person calling you a child has done nothing to further their education or assist with the income of the house then it gets on your nerves. Talking about it doesnt work.. WHAT SHOULD I DO!

She is good woman she takes care of the house shes just verbaly abusive.

2007-09-12 14:50:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband and I are at a standstill on this one- help us out, and let us know what your household does :)

2007-09-12 14:48:56 · 13 answers · asked by MiMom 2 in Family

I was watching the tyra show and she had this project with teens living in a little pretend town to see how they would respond to eachothers beliefs on religion sex race etc.
Then this one kid said ' I don't think sex is supposed to be for fun, I think God made it just to have babies its not supposed to be for fun'.

I completely disagree and say that this kid is completely wrong. Sex is supposed to feel good, obviously and God intended for us to feel pleasure in sex. Sex was-- installed in us as the ultimate expression of love for each other. When you get married the consumation of your relationship and love for each other is sex, it's the literal expression of how you feel for each other in that sexual relationship like no other type of relationship. It's one of the things that make you "one". Also sex is designed to create offspring as well otherwise sex would be just plain, cruel, and lucritive if it were just to have kids and thats it. thats why i disagree

What do you think?

2007-09-12 14:45:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

The old saying fish and guests tend to both stink after three days doesn't really apply since it is family.

2007-09-12 14:43:24 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

He came for dinner and was very talkative. He didn’t allow me to finish speaking a thought, but interrupted. I patiently waited while he talked and finished what he was saying. There wasn’t much two-way conversing because he wanted to speak a lot.

His family doesn’t listen to him or allow him to speak his thoughts. Maybe he was dumping that anger on me. I hated it when he forcefully spoke of his ideas and refused to allow me to speak. He is very angry with his brother and his sister.

He wants me to connect his computer and organize all the cords (which he says he can’t do and the disorganized cords bother him). He said the relationship is without strings, so he wants me to come voluntarily. I don’t want to go after feeling so frustrated because I wasn't listened to in my own home.

2007-09-12 14:42:24 · 10 answers · asked by lightellen3 3 in Marriage & Divorce

What does this mean:

"I have not excepted your advances, even though you are pretty, because I dont want to make it worse"

2007-09-12 14:42:12 · 1 answers · asked by missyie 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband will be deploying for Baghdad sometime between November and December. The situation is that my father and step-mother are pressuring me to come out and visit them.

The holidays are basically out the window now as we can't be sure what day specifically he will deploy (the military changes dates a lot and can't be reliable). So I mentioned to dad about coming out in the next month before he leaves,with the new baby. He said he doesn't want to see the baby and wants me to bring my older daughter but he is so small I can't leave him with dad even. I have two babies (18 month old daughter, and 4 month old son) and it is impossible for me to fly there alone with them both. I explained all that to him and he acted weird. Truth be told, I want to get the visit out of the way because once my husband deploys I won't be able to fly and I can't understand why it's so hard for them to hop on a plane and come see us. My step-mom is a trouble maker but I ignore it, so what to do???????

2007-09-12 14:38:43 · 6 answers · asked by Somebody'sMother 3 in Family

please rate this poem from 0-100 please

I Thought it was their but i guess i was wrong
I thought the love was in the air. Once
Theres nothing happening now
no hugs not even a kiss or some love
Im breaken down now my heart cracked in half
oh i wish i was wrong
on day i saw her in the blue the next was my dream
Now i will my dream was life but it sux cuz it wont be
I wish i kised him 3 months ago but now my heart is cracked in 4's and soon thousands
now im screwed i dont know why im wasting my breath just talking to you
but i dont know why i still love you??

2007-09-12 14:37:56 · 24 answers · asked by jana k 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-09-12 14:37:55 · 16 answers · asked by ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ 2 in Singles & Dating