i love my husband...but not as i used to..how do i get that feeling back....??

Answer 1

The only way I can suggest getting that feeling back is to think back to what made you fall in love with him in the first place. Once you capture that moment in time or that something about him you'll be at a place where you can start to get the feeling back. Another thing that someone else suggested is, go on a vacation together. Take some time off where it's just you two.

Answer 2

you and your husband should engage in what my wife and I call date night. Just you and him and a nice romantic evening. So often couples get so busy and wrapped up in work, the kids, house chores, and all that stuff that you forget about the quality time that you and him need together to bond and Cherish one another as husband and wife. So "dating" your husband also takes you back to when you were first together and everything was fresh , exciting, new and dates were filled with anticipation of what the night might have in store for the two of you . My wife and I have been doing this for 13 years and it keeps us very connected. We don't tell people we have been married for 13 years. We tell them that we have been on a 13 year honeymoon.

Answer 3

Most marriages will go through spells like that.Just keep the lines of communication open.Try to spend some alone time together if possible.Try a date night.Get a sitter for the kids and go out for a few hours together or just stay home and have some nice quite time together.Sometimes we get so wrapped up with being mom and dad we forget to be wife and husband.

Answer 4

The one day plan............ Try it and tell me how it works.
Let it be an ordinary day, but do this without telling him in advance:

1) Cook a dinner you know he will really enjoy (appetizer, cocktail, or dessert is a bonus too)
2) Meet him at the door and give him a kiss
3) Have the cocktail/appetizer and ask him how his day was
4) Do not complain or gripe about your day!
5) Serve and enjoy dinner with him (if you have kids, feed them before he gets home and have them in bed or watching a show- this is YOUR night
6) During dinner, pick something positive that he does that you are willing to praise him for and casually tell him (I cooked this because.... I want you to know I appreciate how hard you work, scarifices you have made, little things you do, being a good father, provider etc................. {if none of these apply, abort plan!!!!!!!!}
7) Ask him about his future- WHAT ARE HIS DREAMS AND GOALS? They may have changed.... Whatever they are, listen and be supportive. They represent his inner self and child. If you kill or criticize them, you are crushing him.
8) Enjoy dessert/winding down
9) Initiating sex may be a welcome change

REPEAT.........

The idea is that men are simple creatures, and if you meet their simplist needs, they step up to the plate and slay dragons for you. But if left ignored, unappreciated, or uninspired.......they will wilt and so will the marriage. So try this and see what happens. In most cases, this is what you USED to do. And when he comes home, and you welcome him this way, he may think something is wrong with you..... BUT in reality, your effort and kindness will and should bounce back to YOU. It is human nature.

Answer 5

It's perfectly normal for marriages, either spouse, to go through this as some point. One of you may be going through some changes about which the other is uncomfortable. You could seek professional therapy for a while to see you 2 through this chapter. But, just hang in there, he may feel this way too down the road, or maybe already has. Your marriage is worth the work it takes to make it.

Answer 6

In my opinion, marriage is 1/10th feelings and 9/10ths hard work and commitment!! I have also had these wanes of feelings in my 9yrs of marriage, but as I am commited to this relationship and marriage, I do my part to work at it and keep on reminding myself of the reasons that I fell in love with my partner. Sometimes this can be hard, but asking close friends what they see in your partner as good points can also help you change your internal dialog, or 'speak'.
Another thing is going to a professional counsellour, as sometimes this can be a symptom of something inside you that needs to be looked at (ie-not happy with things as they are)
You haven't given us much to go on, so hopefully I haven't been completely off track with the answer.
Good Luck

Answer 7

um..i have a feeling, you're not as attracted to ur husband as you used to. im not sure if you can recover that feeling, but you should try going on a vacation, both of you alone. maybe that will help. good luck.

Answer 8

Love is a choice.