What is wrong with not joining family gathering? Teenagers need space from their families. Also, everyone is different. Some people like family gatherings and some don't. We all like different things. It is the same as some people like baseball, some don't. Some people like boxing and some people don't. What is wrong with us liking to do different things? If the teenagers are 15, shouldn't parents give that choice to the teenagers. They are 15 not 5.
2007-09-12 14:50:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because we parents like to have our families together and happy and happy to be together. Time with our families is precious time to we parents. You teens are so busy with your lives and the parents are busy with theirs, it's nice when everyone can come together and enjoy each other. You are important to your family and if you decided not join in family gatherings, you would be missed. You will always have a family; what they ask is a small thing. Give your folks a little happiness and be with them when you can. One day you'll have kids and you'll want them around because you kids grow up and eventually move on. Be with them while you can.
2007-09-12 14:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the difference teens and adults. The adults don't really want to go through it either, but they suck it up and do it anyways. Adults do lots of stuff they don't "feel" like doing, but they do it anyways. Teens think that they should get to do what they want because they are getting older and almost adults. The choices that adults make have to take others into consideration, and it is important for family to stay close to eachother. If everyone in your family didn't go because they didn't want to, then your family would drift apart and most family members would lose contact all together. News flash, no one likes Great Aunt Ruth's* sloppy wet kisses or Uncle Fred's* bad breath, and their bratty cousins, but they are our family and it is important to know them. When you get older they all start dying off one by one, and all you wish for is that you had spent more time with them. You can suck it up for one day.
2007-09-12 15:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why parents do this; they want you to love them and they feel like they are losing you. It is hard for parents to accept the need for self discovery and space from their children; after all ; they have been the primary guiding force and influence until now.
With that said, yes I agree that your parents should give you space, and not make you feel obligated.
I also believe that teenagers who are allowed this space to "grow" and figure things out on their own eventually realize when they mature that family is more important than anything else and it is the biggest part of who they are and they become proud of this and become active participants in the family bond.
I also believe that teenagers whose parents stifle them and obligate them to every single family get together generally grow up with a negative opinion of family and it's importance to our fiber as humans; and generally spend less family time together as adults.
2007-09-12 15:03:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because they know from personal experience life is short and you do not get to be with the ones you love forever. Its only a few times a year out of 365 days so its not going to kill you.
Some day you will look back and wish you had spent more time with some of the family members.
And I'm sure you will hear this "just wait till you have kids some day"... HA! its so true it hurts. Your kids are going to do the same thing, its painfully funny.
2007-09-12 15:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may know you are 15 and not 5 because a 5 year old does as hes told. To tell you the truth you sound like me 6 years ago - too big for your boots. Dont complain about it. Use these years you have at home to take the "guidance' your parents are teaching you cos when you move out your gonna need it. Believe me - its big world out there and without your family and friends you'll get eaten alive...ha ha.
I moved when i was 18 cos i was sick of 'being treated like a kid' - but i was still a kid.
Just dont be too big for your britches.
2007-09-12 15:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Trekzta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times a month does this actually effect you? My rules were that if I have to go, then you have to go. In a few years you will get to make up your own mind. And a few short years your family will have passed away, so you won't have to worry about going to any family gatherings at all.
2007-09-12 15:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents get upset because it's rejecting the family unit. I don't think there is anything wrong with teenagers attending family gathering's every once in awhile. It shouldn't be discouraged as it is your family that will be there in the end for you.
2007-09-12 16:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that teens need their space but think about how parents feel when their kids begin to push them away. It can be painful for moms and dads and grandparents. They love you. what can it hurt to spend a couple of hours out of your life pleasing them instead of you. Believe me, you will feel better if you do some of the things together as a family. You will have memories to share with your kids about when you were young. Don't forget to take pictures. lol
You will have the rest of your life to do your own thing. I am sure all parents do lots of things that they don't like for their kids. Like when they are babies there is changing diapers and cleaning up after one throws up all over everything. Staying up all night with you when you are sick.
2007-09-12 15:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents like to have their kids around for holidays,and special social gatherings. Let your parents know ahead of time,that you've made plans elsewhere. Stick around long enough to let certain people see you,(like grandparents,and family that live far away). When your ready to leave,tell your parents,and say your goodbyes to everyone.
2007-09-12 15:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I called my Mom to ask the answer to this one. She says that the reason is all the relatives ask where the kids are and that continues the whole time. Where is John? Where is Susan? It gets embarassing for the parents. Just go along, be nice and you will likely be rewarded by your parents for making them look good in front of the relatives. That is how it worked at my house.
2007-09-12 15:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Julie H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋