my boyfriend told me he will not be able to call me this whole week cuz he has this MAJOR exam on sat (he said he will call once maybe and email a few times..he did the email but hasnt called yet)...I know that his exam is v.imp and that he has 2 jobs plus school along with this test but somehow i felt like he could take out 10 mins to call me....
i thought hes reluctant to call cuz i dont call him (im reluctant to call him and he calls 99% of the time)...i dont call him cuz whenever I do hes been busy studying with someone..but he has always talked or called back... yesterday i finally called him and we spoke for a few mins...
would a guy do that if he were so busy or does he not care enough about me???
2007-09-12 15:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by cassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
on other weeks he calls twice or thrice a week and we meet every fri and sat
2007-09-12 15:20:59 · update #1
You are being selfish. You said he has an important exam on Saturday and he is working 2 jobs. You should not call and bother him. If you continue being so needy and selfish, he is going to replace you. No guy wants some girl bothering them when they are stressed out over work and school.
2007-09-12 15:14:38 · answer #1 · answered by Julie H 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
What can I say. You're right.
The gut feeling that you have must be some sort of omen.
Dump this obvious no-gooder who plainly doesn't realise that you must always be upheld as the greater good in his life. What or why else would he be working, if not for you?
He must have his priorities mixed up something awful and thus he must be punished by being denied the greatest gift he could ever hope for; You. Either he wakes up and realises that you are the reason for his existence or you ditch his hiny.
There must be some dude out there that would understand this very simple conceit. Don't give up. You sound like you still have a great many many frogs to get through ere the end. So pucker up, try not scrunch up your face too much and get a smooching. Watch the lipstick now.
2007-09-13 03:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Cain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just busy. Its not really fair to judge him right now while his exams are on. Sometimes i literally didnt have 10 mins to call anyone when i was studying. Unless you are studying a really tough subject you might not understand where he is coming from.
WHy not give him the benefit of the doubt and allow him this time to focus - once his exams are over you can then start judging how regularly he calls.
EDITED TO ADD:ps be careful of all these people telling you to dump him - would they do the same thing i wonder?? maybe they are all single.. perhaps they are all hating on you because you have a smart, hardworking boyfriend
2007-09-12 22:19:17 · answer #3 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
May I say, at the outset, that you sound as if you have personalized the issue.
"Does he not care enough about me?" puts the focus on YOUR emotional needs, and YOUR feeling of being rejected and alone or whatever else you feel.
Nobody, myself included, can answer your question accurately. We can only talk about POSSIBILITIES, and there are two:
1. The exam is very important to your boyfriend. He cares about his future, maybe even his future with you.
2. The exam is an excuse, and he does not want to call before the exam because he does not want to call you.
Only you know the real answer to that. He might be a prime catch, a serious guy going places in his life, a man to whom education and a future are important. Or, you might be done. In either case, you would be well-advised to avoid sounding or seeming clingy.
2007-09-12 22:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a college student myself an working full time, there is precious little time for the basics of life. A college students life is centered around school. Especially if they are paying for their education through loans and such. They have to maintain an accademic standard and sometimes that is tough. So let testing blow over then worry about getting a call.
Email him and let him know that you miss him and understand about how important it is for him to get good grades but to make it a priority call for you when he is done testing or takes a break from studying. I should be studyingnow but I needed to give myself a brain break LOL\
Good luck and have a little more patience.
2007-09-12 22:20:37 · answer #5 · answered by Nan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, you must listen to all these other women on here, dump him, dump him, dump him !! Come on, give me a break. If he studying for an important exam, he probably has to concentrate on his studying. Give him credit, he did tell you. Plus he has 2 jobs, when does he call you any other time? I would look at the good things he does instead of a one week period when he doesn't call you that much. If he's busy, and you're thinking of dumping him for that, you need help
2007-09-12 22:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Let's face it, If he really cared about you he'd want to talk to you just to help him unwind after studying. He's not studying every single waking second, he certainly could make time to talk to you for 5 minutes, if he missed you at all. I have a son in his 4th year at U of F taking Chemical Engineering, he has had a lot of really important tests, but he's never told us or his friends or girlfriends he didn't have time to talk to them for the entire week before the exam, and his major is one of the hardest degrees of all!
I'm really sorry for you, but stop wasting your time on a "boy" that doesn't stop to consider you or your feelings in his selfish world. And lacks the honesty and the balls to do the right thing, he's not worth it. No one is worth your self esteem!! The best revenge is living well and happy, when and if he finds the time in his busy schedule to honor you with a phone call, If I were you, I'd be just too busy to talk right then, and ask if you can call him back later, much later!
2007-09-12 22:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by ReBelle 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just give him his space this week since he has a big exam. Suggest getting together over the weekend to celebrate his exam being over. If he continues to not call next week, etc then you need to talk to him and find out whats up. For now - he warned you he has a tough week so give him some space.
2007-09-12 22:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Parker 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He sound like a hard working man.
Behinde every great man there is a great woman.
He really needs you to be strong and support him at this time.
What you can do is be patient and wait till after the exams to see if his behivour will change. If he kept ignoring you, then that is a clear msg that he is not intresetd anymore.
He'll love you more if you kept away for the momment.
Best of luck.
2007-09-12 22:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jezz 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there are some issues as to where the relationship is going. He probably does care about you but you have to trust him when he tells you something. He probably has more on his plate than usual so that's probably why it was hard for him to call. Just call him when this period is over and if he still avoids you, talk to him about it in person.
2007-09-12 22:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by me 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋