I called my mom today to discuss my wedding. She lives in Mystic, CT I live in LA. She said she had picked out what she was wearing to my wedding and I'm like "Mom it's in June, don't worry, you don't need to chose just yet." But she insisted that she knew what she was going to wear and e-mailed me a picutre of her wearing an ALL WHITE dress, white tights, white shoes, a white top hat with a tiny white vail. Now my mom knows my wedding dress is all white. How can I tell her she can't wear all white because it's disrespectful to me!
2007-09-12 15:16:43 · 33 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is my second time getting married and the first time my mom wore a beautiful lavender dress so I'm wondering why she wants to be disrespectfull now.
2007-09-12 15:23:25 · update #1
mJc,it's disrespectfull to wear all white to a wedding if your not the bride!
2007-09-12 15:27:50 · update #2
Tell her that you're questioning whether or not you want to invite her because she's being so disrespectful to you and your fiance. She knows the tradition, even if it is your second wedding, she doesn't need to do crap like that. Talk to her, that's the best thing you should do
2007-09-12 17:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need to make a big deal out of this...Be as sweet as you can be and tell your mother that you would like her to wear(fill in the blank) at your wedding. You don't even have to go into the white thing at all. Remember if you want respect you have to give it, so be respectful when you tell her. You want this to be a special day, don't get into a fight over clothes. Just be a nice daughter and tell mom how great (fill in the blank) looks on her and you will even help her find the right dress the next time you or she is in town.
2007-09-12 15:44:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you should have recommended a dress to her. If you haven't commented on the pic she sent you yet, pretend you never saw it; if possible and recommend something for her; tell her how lovely you think she would look in it...how it might bring out the color her eyes or something.
If it's to late for the deception game; In the saddest puppy dog style voice you can muster; tell her you hoped she would wear a certain color; or ask her "EVER SO SWEETLY AND SINCERELY" if (1. she would mind wearing a dress you bought/are most likely going to buy...if possible); (2. tell her you don't like the dress; honesty actually works sometimes; :-) ; (3. WHAT EVER YOU DO, don't loose your temper or raise your voice if she does.) Don't tell her it's disrespectful; that would be disrespectful...lol. Pretend your life depends on you selling this idea to your mom...and that her staying cool just as important. Buy her a dress you like and send it gift wrapped with some flowers.
Hope I helped...
2007-09-12 15:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Fя۵ѕтγ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Taylor. Settle down. I'm thinking that your mom is playing a joke on you. Everyone KNOWS that it is a faux pas to wear white to a wedding. And, I think she is going a little overboard with the white tights, white shoes, and a white hat with a veil. Really.....I think she is pulling your leg!! Tell her..."that looks really nice on you...we will match me in white and you in white also!" It's a joke...it must be!
2007-09-12 15:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this wrong - I mean this with great respect and empathy. Is your mom OK? Her behavior is bizarre, particularly in view of the fact that she has dressed appropriately for a previous wedding. Is this kind of acting out normal behavior for her? Can you do some sleuthing and find out from others who live near her whether she's manifesting other unusual behaviors? It may be that she's in need of professional help -- the sooner you can find this out, the better. It may be that she can't help herself. There is a lot of time before next June. Good luck - I hope this works out.
2007-09-12 15:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop your anger right now. It's your second wedding, so it doesn't matter what clothes anyone wears. It's not like you are going to be wearing a big white wedding gown - well, you shouldn't be, anyway.... just a pretty dress, maybe pastel.
2007-09-13 03:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not disrespectful, it's just thoughtless. And the get-up you are describing sounds tasteless. You can only be blunt with her in telling her not to wear it. Maybe you can do a little research yourself and find some dresses you think she'd look good in and show them to her.
2007-09-13 13:52:07 · answer #7 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times can you keep wearing a white dress?
2007-09-13 11:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kirk S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should know but if this is what she wants to wear, then you need to tell her or have a sister, brother, or someone close to her tell her because there is no way she is going to wear white on her daughters wedding day. Don't worry she will understand
2007-09-12 15:22:29 · answer #9 · answered by Missy 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Talk to her about it.
I do feel it is rude to wear all white, and you obviously have a problem with that, so talk to her, ask her why she got all white when usually its only the bride who is all in white.
What does the outfit look like? I.E. do you have a picture online?
2007-09-13 03:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋