My mother is very emotional and sensitive. Then, she has a big ego and thinks that she is always right.
My daughter (age 15) and I are staying with her temporarily. She asked me to move out and says "the sooner, the better" on Sunday.
She told my daughter today that she is tired of my "attitude." I don't know what I have done to her.
She cries for no reason and is rude and snappy with me. Then, she blames me for everything.
I know that my daughter and I have to move out soon. My daughter sees that she "uses and abuses" me.
I feel bad that she said negative things about me to my daughter.
How should I handle her in the meantime?
2007-09-12 15:11:22 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Has your mom had a check up lately? She sounds like she is suffering from early dementia or maybe just depression. See if you can get her to go in and talk with her doctor, and you might want to give him/her a call and tell him/her about your mom's behavior.
Yes you need to move out, but I don't think that will solve this.
2007-09-12 15:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk up to her and give her a big hug and say I love you and simply walk away. Why? Because she doesn't feel appreciated and she probably wants to run around her own home naked. Its a complex,she wants you there but she cant pick her nose when she wants or scratch her southern regions when she wants. Ask her to be patient and move out when its possible for you. Sit with your daughter and explain to her how it is hard to live with another adult when you are so use to doing private things alone. But in the future if she makes rude comments to your daughter about you please step in and tell her with as much empathy as you can muster that you are trying the best you can and not to drag you daughter her grandchild in her drama. This instance is not the time to keep quiet.
2007-09-12 22:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Has she ever been checked up for bipolar disorder? I'm assuming she's already gone through menopause.
Is it possible you have behaved ungratefully while living with her and have not been very good to her and that is part of her stress causing her to behave this unusually? Go to her and tell her what's in your heart. Be kind.
2007-09-12 22:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by *october girl* 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you and your daughter have completely stressed out your mother.
move your behind out of her house!!! I'm sure she will be much happier when you are gone.
grown children that move back home with the parents expect the parents to "take care of them as they did when they were young" not!!!
move you are too old to be living off mom!!!
2007-09-12 22:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My mum sounds exactly like that.
The only thing i could do was move out cos it was like talking to a brick wall. literally.
But since i moved we've been getting along great.
2007-09-12 22:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Trekzta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to buy a new mother.
2007-09-12 22:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋