In a situation where you know, you will always be in love with special someone for the rest of your life but you may never get to work out misunderstandings with her, and never get to work out things you have no clue about what she was mad about in the first place because she will probably stay mad at you for life because she doesn't even want talk anymore despite knowing her for years and having friendship before. Anyway so a guy has to go on with life or go through the motions of it, but doesn't want to live single and someday have a lasting marriage with kids, grandkids later, etc. The questions is though, has anybody ever just to have a married life, and at least found who they would consider their no. 2 in the world aside from the no. 1 they will never stop loving more than anyone, went ahead and married someone like a number 2 they know they will never love as much as the one they truly love? If so how does one find happiness despite being in love with no 1? (this is my doom)
2007-09-12 15:32:30 · 3 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm will never stop loving number 1, I don't want a number 2. Number 1 was literally the girl next door. I do want to marry my number 1, and my life has been a wreck without her. I'll put it this way as I brought this question because while I have been in relationships, before, this time I know I will never get over her as opposed to all the others in my past. Saying I'm broken hearted over her is would be a huge understatement.
2007-09-19 18:36:57 · update #1
Most guys feel like they married No. 2 instead of No. 1. That is really unfair for the missus. If you feel so strongly that you will never forget her and that it will affect you future marrage, i suggest not getting married unless you:
1. Forget about her
2. Get married to her
I personally believe that we have a tendancy to believe and like what we do not have more then what we do. That is a common problem that both men and women face. The past is past us and like you said there is nothing you can do about her, concentrate on the next women who gives her heart to you. There is no such thing as having no choice but to marry someone, you'd always have that choice. If you don't love someone enough to marry her, don't you'd be wasting your time and ruining her life.
Please think properly on how you would like to proceed, we seldom get our 1st choice in life, but heck, if you walk into things feeling that its 2nd best, it can only be 2nd best. Give love another chance mate.
2007-09-12 15:50:05 · answer #1 · answered by crofton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people feel the same when their first spouse dies. But you just move on, learn to live again, and someday when you're not looking, another person moves into your heart and becomes a second #1. Not a #2, just a second #1. And all the life, love, fun, and family can be yours. You will love the second as much as you did the first, and never feel that you have settled for #2.
2007-09-12 16:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should never marry if you are feeling this way. not only will you be hurting your second choice of a spouse but yourself as well.
if your first choice is that mad at you give it sometime to cool down then talk. but don't jump into a relationship with another until you resolve the problem between the first woman and yourself. if you still feel that it will never be resolved then move on and forget her.
2007-09-20 05:36:41 · answer #3 · answered by joyce m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋