Family & Relationships - 6 June 2007

So I slept with my co-workers roommate last night and turns out my co-worker liked me and I didn't know it but the roommate did. So now they are not speaking and my co-worker who is a really good friend is not speaking to me. I know I shouldn't have done it but I didn't know it would be this bad how do I mend these wounds I've created? Please don't yell at me just help me. Thank you in advance....

2007-06-06 02:02:53 · 21 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 27 5 in Friends

And, women, do you think men define "successful marriage" differently from women? I'm a male and I do.

2007-06-06 02:02:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband is online at this website myspaceafterdark.com but he wont let me read his messages like there to important or something ...what do i do...we have been married 1 1/2yr an it seems as if its headed down hill.

2007-06-06 02:00:23 · 7 answers · asked by blank man 1 in Marriage & Divorce

How many times do couples have sex during the week. we have 3 kids 7, 10 & 13 yrs old. I'm lucky if I get it twice a month. Am I a minority?

2007-06-06 01:59:19 · 29 answers · asked by zeke3135 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So you have something to look at while you're talking to them!

ty peter

2007-06-06 01:52:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

please help me. my mum passed away in jan this year, at first i thought my feeling's were normal,but now i'm not so sure i have six children,four are grown up and two young one's i
I'm driving my self mad with worry thingking that something bad is going to happen to one of them ,and thay will also be taken away from me, i keep having such morbid thought's 'and end up in tear's , i've no friend's to talk to and none of my family know how i feel do other people feel like this or am i going down hill. please help me with this as the thought's will not go away. thank you for your help in this matter susie

2007-06-06 01:46:38 · 5 answers · asked by susiesnowdrop 3 in Friends

I have a heart condition, where I cant have sex. I've been with my girlfriend on and off for three years, we broke up twice over some problems we had but we've always found our way back to eachother. I love her very much and she loves me to, even though I cant have sex I try to find ways I can make her "happy" but sometimes I really worry its not enough I know she has needs I cant meet. Sometimes I get really worried someday she'll be tempted and date someone else for a while and sleep with them. Shes not a slut at all, shes only slept with her first boyfriend who used her after that all the other ones she has dated she hasnt slept with. Then theres me. We plan on moving out together in a year or two. How do I get over this fear? Should It even be something I should get over or is it something I may have to accept one day?

2007-06-06 01:46:14 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i'm married and have been talking to and have had lunch 3 times with a man who's married.last week he called me and asked me if i would like to have lunch , and yestarday i asked him and treated him to lunch. i feel we have a great connection verbally ,but my question is can it stay this way ?professional and platonic .we've never even attemted anything , he's never tried. i want to keep it that way. no hostile answers , just opinions.

2007-06-06 01:45:01 · 34 answers · asked by pitbullmom 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My dad was abusive. I married young and my husband told me I was fat, stupid, embarrassing, and knocked my confidence until I was a desperate wreck. Then he cheated on me until I finally had enough. A rebound relationship started off good, then he turned into a psycho, and also cheated on me. My last partner of 10 mths started off good, then started controlling me, telling me what to think, say, feel. He bullied me, told me I was mental, made lies up about me, was very aggressive towards me, made me feel like I was going crazy and then f8cked off when I started to get depressed (delayed reaction to violent childhood).

I'm 27, I'm slim, pretty, ambitious, happy, thoughtful, appreciative, spontaneous, open-minded, loyal, trustworthy, accepting, and all of my friends and family are mad with me for having insecurities as they say I'm an amazing person who deserves so much better, and that I consistently prove what a caring, warm person I am.

Is it me? Have I just been unlucky?

2007-06-06 01:42:42 · 20 answers · asked by rollacoasta 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

We've been married two years. It's been great. I'm in love with her heart and values. I care for her very much and always want to be with her. I love everything about her, but her weight has always been something I've been willing to deal with because I love the person inside. Before marriage it wasn't that big a deal, but since her weight has gotten out of control. I'm obsessed with wanting a thinner wife. i play soccer two games a week, and work out at the gym twice a week. How do I get her to lose some pounds?

2007-06-06 01:40:40 · 24 answers · asked by Striker 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I´m 19y/o and so is she...We have been together for 4 years.. and we have been friends our whole lifes... she was my first gf and i was her first bf..

but now.. three weeks ago she dumped me.. used some stupid "I´m doubting of the love i feel for you" reason for me to break up with her.. she knows i cant stand doubts... cause such a thing doesnt exist when love is the matter... there´s always someone else...

and indeed.. yesterday i found out she was hanging hands with another guy(the one she told me she liked, her classmate)... but i´m still in love with her.. and i´ve been trying to get over her.. looking for new people.. but i have these encountered feelings.. hate for the betrayal and love cause of our relationship.. she didnt respectd the fact i was still inlove with her.. and neither respectd our full time relatioship... i´m just guessing.. if she tries to comeback(cause she does feel guilty) should i reject her cause she mite do the same thing again or just welcome her back?

2007-06-06 01:40:01 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have 2 kids but i'm in contact with my old love and discovered i'm still very much in love with him than with my husband.

2007-06-06 01:39:58 · 20 answers · asked by cucumber 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-06 01:37:03 · 22 answers · asked by tiffany2775 2 in Family

My girlfriend and I been together for 6 years.We lived together for 3 1/2 years and 2 1/2 years ago she moved away (about 5000 miles) to further educate herself.We've been seeing each other on the regular bases pretty much every 3-6 months frequently since.Our relationship has been very strong,even though it hasn't been easy.the original plan was for her to go ahead and do the career thing for about a year and then she was supposed to come back and live with me.well,that 1 year now has turned into 2 1/2 years and I am very frustrated.I love my GF very much and we always been very honest with each other.She has most of her family out there where she is right now and likes her job very much,but isn't sure about what she really wants and where she wants to be.She says she loves me and I do believe her a 110%,but she has a tough time to make a decision.We talked about ME moving and stuff,but my career is is keeping me where I am at.So here's the part I need help with.What should we do?

2007-06-06 01:28:55 · 16 answers · asked by Landshark 1 in Marriage & Divorce

when an arrgument occures? I've been wrong plenty of times and will admitt it to her and never think about it again, but when I am wrong she will not let it go. However, when I am right I still do not think about it yet she gets mad. What is the big deal who is right and who is wrong just as long as the problem is solved?

2007-06-06 01:25:34 · 14 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Marriage & Divorce

I left my daughter's father almost 5 years ago B/C he had a drug problem and still does, and his family hates me..why? I told his mother I left him cause I didn't want to tell her that I found her son dead in a hotel from getting high on drugs..but today when i show up every1 walks away from me. they moved when i sat down at lunch. they only thing i said was that i hate this one kid cause he grabs my but every day. do u think they hate me cause i told them that?

It is mostly younger women my age that are so hateful, most of my friends are women 50 + years old, my mom's age. They have no problem with me I am ok with myself. And I know that what others have to say about me shouldn't matter. I also have a lot of answers for why they hate me. But, I still don't get why they hate me, and why it hurts.
I am an ex wife myself, and I have no problems letting my daughters see their father, I encourage it whole heartdly..........just because it didnt work out with him

2007-06-06 01:24:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been going out with my boufriend for months and i dont know whats wrong with him. whenever i tell him that we should go out he tells me that he has been invited to a party and he is going there. we hardly talk or go out and be together, whenever i tell him to come home we talk he gives me excuses that he is very busy. is he really for real? i really love him and want to be with him but he is very cold doesnt really care how i feel and since we started dating we have never gone out. i am tired of being treated like this and i want to tell him that i dont want to be his girlfriend anymore. what do i do?please help.

2007-06-06 01:24:17 · 13 answers · asked by kisher 2 in Singles & Dating

does anyone put weight on when theyre on holiday ???? And does drinking make you fatter ?

2007-06-06 01:16:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He said they were always talking about the kids when i confronted him months ago....i finally got him to admit she was 'helping him to understand and get through their divorce'? Is this normal and would that be a form of cheating? It supposedly was only phone calls and email.

2007-06-06 01:15:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend spends lots and lots of time on Answers and has lots and lots of contacts and I am wondering why he is contacting so many other women, Can this be addictive

2007-06-06 01:14:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-06 01:14:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Yesterday my husband said that he was going to buy a plain jane cell phone because he doesn't use txt messaging etc. Then he came home with a top of the line cell phone that connects to the internet. Also, I found on his email a email from verizon verifying that he does have email on his account. Also last night he left around 8 PM and said that he was going to a friends house and would return shortly. When asked how long..he became very defensive and then left. Also he took a shower and was in nice cloths. He called me at 9 PM stating that he was caught in traffic. Then I called him at 9:30 PM and he said that he was now at his friends. When I checked his cell phone while he slept, I found out that he called his friend at 9:36pm and again at 10:04PM. Also he took money out of the ATM of 300.00 and he does not have any in his wallet. He has recently lost about 30 lbs and he is dressing better than before. He keeps his hair trimmed up nice which is different than usually.

2007-06-06 01:11:36 · 27 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, So I didn't have a problem before I got involved with one of my ex's. Him and I got together when we were 18, on and off a couple times, each dated someone else while we were off. We almost got married, but after 5, almost 6 years together, we had to break it off. We weren't going anywhere. Right after that, I totally had a rebound guy. And right after that, I met an awesome, wonderful guy. We were like best friends and we were getting serious. Well, he left for Iraq and came back different and broke my heart (he didn't mean to) Okay, so that was 1.5 years ago. Ever since I haven't really dated. I'm not sure what's wrong. But I have no idea how to even do this anymore I don't think.

2007-06-06 01:10:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

like with your friends and family you know when there just grumpy all the time and they tell you to do stuff inthat mean tone.

2007-06-06 01:06:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my parents divorced when I was 5. and I remember needing my father to be with me very frequently. I have benn trying to keep this idea away from my mind......but things between me and my husband are not working out. I usually get frustrated and then I get moody and don't have any patience for my 15 months old. It really makes me feel very bad. But....should I sacrifice myself in order for my baby to grow with her father by her side. She adores him!!!! and calls him out constantly............................ ??????????????????????????????????????????????????? oh!! I also think I might be pregnant again

2007-06-06 01:04:01 · 26 answers · asked by scorpionbeat 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My bf and I want to get married. In my country parents are deeply involved in this issue. Also, over here the groom's parents help their son no matter how old or young he is with buying the ring, furniture and apartment since these things are extremely expensive. Both families are disagreeing on the cost of everything and now my bf's father decided that he is against the marrige. My bf's mother who lives abroad with her husband, proposed to help us by buying an apartment and furnish it but write it in her name.
My bf and I want to make our master degree, he has the option of travelling to his mother's country, stay in her house, make his degree, work part time and buy me the ring and save for the furniture then I'll follow him in a semester or two.
The problem is my parents would not agree that we get married without his father's blessings, if they did they are against me travelling with my husband. This is something my dad made clear long ago.

2007-06-06 01:03:51 · 7 answers · asked by she 2 in Singles & Dating

And now he has told me that he loves me & wants to change & do everything he can to win me back. I love him too. He was constantly doing things behind my back, going out with his ex & lying about it, leading other girls on, although he didn't actually cheat on me. He just lied to me. ALOT. I caught him out & dumped him, even though it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do.

We met up & I told him that IF we were to get back together he would have to chow me he has changed, he'd have to show me he means what he says when he says he loves me. That was last night. I have heard nothing from him at this point (1pm). Am I just wasting my time in trying to give him another chance? What do people think? Perhaps he is just giving me space. I want to speak to him DESPERATELY, but I don't want him to think this is trivial. I want him to miss me, to think about what he wants & really mean what he says. I think it's the only way, but I LOVE him so much & just want to talk to him.. thoughts?

2007-06-06 01:03:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, so I'm separated from my husband for about 4 months now. It really doesn't look like we're gonna reconcile at this point. We split because he was no longer sure what he wanted. and he was unwilling to even work on our relationship. While we were packing our respective stuff, I came across his wedding band, and so now I have both.
I want to go sky-diving as part of my healing from this. I think it'll be cathartic - and part of me wants to sell our wedding bands to finance it. Is that too cold or hasty?

2007-06-06 00:59:18 · 13 answers · asked by Nimbot 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-06-06 00:58:03 · 17 answers · asked by Striker 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Do some of you find it almost impossible to say I love you to someone?
If you cant actually say it but you think you no you do love them, do you think it means you dont love them? Or you just cant say it but you really do love them.

2007-06-06 00:56:35 · 20 answers · asked by Bonnie B 4 in Singles & Dating