And, women, do you think men define "successful marriage" differently from women? I'm a male and I do.
2007-06-06 02:02:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Men always figure they can still hook up again later in life, while women figure once they get old they are no longer attractive.
Men define a succesful a marriage as one that is as close to being single as possible.
Women define a succesful marriage as one as far away from being single as possible.
2007-06-06 02:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not agree with the statement that the question makes. It must be important to both partners. Both have to agree to the union. I think that if each would have a different view of marriage, this would be a source of conflict, and a reason not to go ahead with it.
Marriage also has to have other "elements." Just as an individual has his or her needs, so does a group, even if it is just a pair. These include a place to live, employment, but also social, cultural and political requirements. Values like freedom and peace are about survival, not only comfort and happiness.
Then the married couple will change... They will have different relationships with single people and they will have a different place in society. They will have more things in common with other married couples.
2007-06-06 03:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to define and determine what success is. Women and men think differently. Any more I would see success as just making it through the day alive.
2007-06-06 02:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily think that a successful marriage is more important to women than to men. I do agree they may define it differently, but my husband (for example) is very much invested in our relationship and wants it to be a success. Just as much as I do.
2007-06-06 02:05:03 · answer #4 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You got it all wrong! Marriage is a beautiful thing! Many people think it's just a peace of paper but it's not. Marriage is the sign of commitment. Just think about it. If anything happened to you and you were unable to take care of yourself your wife is the one who would be more than willing to stand by your side, and take care of you. Something a girlfriend is not obligated to do. If my boyfriend did not want to marry me I would have done exactly what Phoebe did! I can't be with a guy who is afraid to be committed to me. Also I think people should sop getting married with the feeling from the beginning that the marriage is not going to last. Marriage is meant to last! Also, if people would take marriage seriously and choose their partner wisely they would not have to worry about divorce. I am not married and I trust that god would guide me to the right man who would eventually be my husband. I know you said you are not a spiritual person at all but Jesus is the only one who can guide you to the right partner. Also in the bible before a couple could start living together and sleeping with each other you have to get married because doing all of that before getting married is a sin. I hope this has helped, and god bless!
2016-05-17 23:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by nerissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is not so related to genders as it is related to background and beliefs.
In instance, a woman might be more cynical about marriages, the whole unconditional love things, etc and the man might have had a great experience with parents who are married for more than 40 years and still love each other, and might envision a successful and endless marriage.
It is actually the experience I live right now. I am more cynical and my fiancee is the eternal romantic, and believes in endless marriage.
2007-06-06 02:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by sherazade_1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that your question is based on an accurate premise. Most guys I hang out with are very serious about their marriage and take the lead in making sure it's going in the right direction. My faith teaches me that it's my job as a husband to keep my marriage healthy; to take the lead. I know my wife and I define success the same way.
2007-06-06 02:05:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course. Men and women define everything differently.
2007-06-06 02:05:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I both want success for our marriage, and we agree on what that means. I'm guessing that the couples who feel different about it didn't sit down before they got married to discuss what was andwhat was not important to them & how they defined certain things.
2007-06-06 02:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by just a mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because women know that if the marriage fails, they are going to be stuck raising kids alone? Just a thought.
Kent in SD
2007-06-06 02:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋