My bf and I want to get married. In my country parents are deeply involved in this issue. Also, over here the groom's parents help their son no matter how old or young he is with buying the ring, furniture and apartment since these things are extremely expensive. Both families are disagreeing on the cost of everything and now my bf's father decided that he is against the marrige. My bf's mother who lives abroad with her husband, proposed to help us by buying an apartment and furnish it but write it in her name.
My bf and I want to make our master degree, he has the option of travelling to his mother's country, stay in her house, make his degree, work part time and buy me the ring and save for the furniture then I'll follow him in a semester or two.
The problem is my parents would not agree that we get married without his father's blessings, if they did they are against me travelling with my husband. This is something my dad made clear long ago.
2007-06-06 01:03:51 · 7 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him your parents should be happy for you if there not get married anyway.
2007-06-06 01:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by allie m. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy. Sounds like a tough situation you're in!
The best advice I can give would certainly to be that you and your partner need to sit and talk to both sets of parents openly and clamly about what you want.
It looks like with everyone's conflicting views of how you should go about getting your lives in order, they've all lost sight of what truly matters-your relationship with your boyfriend.
sit with your partner and let him know how you're feeling and what you want exactly. Then once you know what you each want, sit and discuss it with both sets of parents until a compromise can be made.
Finally, if an agreement can't be reached and you really want to be together that much, then you'll have to make it clear that your relationship is more important to you both than anything else and you'll be together no matter what happens.
Disagreeing with allowing you to marry over money though is totally wrong-what matter is that you are both happy together, and that you are both in love and grown up enough to make it work and last forever as marriage is supposed to.
2007-06-13 11:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by Loulla 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf's father must have his reason for not wanting you as his daughter-in-law. Complete your masters, b4 deciding on marriage. Convince and proof yourself that you truly love his son and you are capable of taking care of his son. Other materialistic issues can be solve later. Your father's concern should not be ignore. He may have a point.
2007-06-13 23:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by leopold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents know whats best. i wish my parents really said they didnt like my ex wife because it would have saved me 2 years of my life of being married i cant get back. but where you live it seems that your family values and how things are done than where im from.... i think you should maybe wait so you guys can do it yourselfs and then your famly would be happy with yout choice in time?
2007-06-13 18:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience ,patience and patience.It is not that you r going to marry forth with. Therefore keep in living contact with them and from time pursue them but not frequently. Time is the best remedy.
2007-06-14 01:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by baba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get married
2007-06-13 21:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your father, tell him how u feel about this.
2007-06-13 22:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by meli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋