I love my wife, but she's not physically attractive to me anymore. How do I tell her?

Answer 1

Be honest and tell her. Then take it like a man when she tells you what she doesn't like about you either.

Answer 2

If you have a deep emotional connection with your wife which by your question I am assuming you don't; you should be able to talk to her about any and everything... There is no painless way to tell your life partner something like that. Hopefully there are more significant qualities that drew you to her other than her appearance. Looks do fade over time, what else is left...? God forbid something should happen to you where your wife and family would be the only ones that can look at you and still feel everything that they have felt all along... How would you feel if she turned her back on you just because you no longer looked the same as you did when she married you...? If weight gain is the issue then maybe you should go to your wife and tell her that you love her and is concerned that her weight gain may become a health concern to you both and suggest that you both eat healthier, go for evening walks or something else that allows you both to maintain healthier lifesyles and spend quality time together, which may even help to put the spark back into your marriage. To come right out and tell her what you are suggesting will only hurt her feelings.

Answer 3

Are you the same person.looking exactly like what you looked like when you were married?

Are not changes taken place with passing of time?

The beauty is external ,you are mentioning.If you really loved your wife, really the affectionate bondage should have strengthened and she must be looking more attractive now, whatever her physical features changed.

If she says that you are not that beautiful as you were years before how do you take it?Can you not think and realise that with passing of time there will be a natural ageing and consequent changes?

If all think the way you think,how many married will be united and stay together?

Please ask yourself.Have you been so far loyal to her?Have you not betrayed her so far?If not that is great.Please understand the human values, the nature , the effect of time etc and act.

If you NOW desert her and go to another attractive girl.After one year again the scene repeats.How many times you change like this?Do you call that love.

There is some thing unexplainable between a wife and husband, that keep them together.

Please think not once many times before you act and offend her.

Answer 4

In your will, because you must not want to live for very long. Just kidding....
Look, I can understand, after a while some people tend to let themselves go. I'm not trying to be mean, but it's true. You don't say what about your wife has changed, but if she's like most people (men and women), there are probably some additional pounds to deal with. For that, why don't you suggest that BOTH of you work out somehow (hey honey, I was thinking I'd like to try to improve my health, want to join me? kind of thing)...either joining a gym, or even just taking a walk after dinner each night. Do it together!
Don't tell her you're not physically attracted to her; figure out why and fix the problem. She's your wife and you'll be with her for the rest of your life!

Answer 5

Do not tell her directly, it will only cause unwanted friction if you love her. Try to suggest that BOTH of you go to a gym or start walking together if weight is the issue, which usually is.

If her attitude is what is making her unattractive to you (you may not think so but a persons attitude can make them seem unattractive in other ways as well) then I would suggest that you guys get some counseling or just have a romantic get-a-way to rekindle that old flame.
Chances are she doesn't find you AS attractive as she once did, but if she loves you then she can see past that.

Good luck w/ this. Just be gentle a woman's weight or personal apperance is a very fragile subject; and once you open that can of worms there is no closing it. EVER!

Answer 6

As unattractive as you might think she is, I would not tell her that period! My wife was a shapely, slender 5'6" 135 pound bombshell when I met her. Twenty three years later, she's gained 50 pounds and has a stomach like Santa Claus!

However, she's had three children so I can understand some of the weight gain, that's part of being a woman. The rest is due to a terrible diet and lack of exercise. In fact, just the other night, she said she wanted to lose weight and get rid of her stomach. Ten minutes later she's walks back in the room eating an ICE CREAM SANDWICH! How's that for commitment?

I've tried to get her to work out with me but she always says she's going to the workout center with her friends. Of course this never happens. I've also asked her to be my exercise partner, this too has never happened.

Your best bet is to just live with it. You can always think about boning Beyonce while your doing it or just beat off to porn.

Answer 7

How about you just keeping your pants zipped and grow a set of balls. Aparently if you dont find her attractive anymore then you have been looking around elswhere. Was it just her body that caused you to marry her, if so she should have kicked your a.s.s. to the curb long time ago. The lady has a heart and I am sure that her heart deeply loves you or at least did until you became a d.i.c.k. HEAD. Damn all you men that think only of the outer presence of a lady, you make the rest of us look like a.s.s holes too. No wonder there are so many lesbians coming out of the closet, at least with a female they have a chance of actual heart felt love. GROW A SET DIP WAD

Answer 8

Why would you tell her something so hurtful? It sounds like it's you with the problem, not her. Maybe try something new to get the attraction going strong again. Take an overnight trip somewhere, just the 2 of you. Make some time for just the 2 of you. Don't let something go, if you really love her.

Answer 9

First of all, love is not skin deep! And, if she's gained weight, you might suggest that the two of you go on walks or exercise together! Don't hurt her feelings if you do in fact love her. If you tell her something like that, she may well leave you. Think about it.........what if she said the same thing to you? How would you feel about the relationship as a whole?

Answer 10

You DON'T tell her.

You go out and buy her a new outfit and tell her she looks FABULOUS.

You tell her you're tired of feeling tired all the time and want to improve your energy - ask her if she'll work out with you.

You start buying healthy food for your house and not eating junk food in front of her or otherwise.

Every SINGLE morning give her a compliment.

If she drops a little weight, tell her how amazing she looks, and reward her with a special night....

Answer 11

I would say, if you tell her that won't be the only problem that you have.. You might lost a testicle or two...So, I would find a way to get the *love back into the relationship... You did marry her for other reasons I would hope... If you only married her because she was attractive at that time...You were a fool..