So I slept with my co-workers roommate last night and turns out my co-worker liked me and I didn't know it but the roommate did. So now they are not speaking and my co-worker who is a really good friend is not speaking to me. I know I shouldn't have done it but I didn't know it would be this bad how do I mend these wounds I've created? Please don't yell at me just help me. Thank you in advance....
2007-06-06 02:02:53 · 21 answers · asked by Lovely Lady 27 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I've been hanging out with his roomate for like 3 weeks now and he never said anything to me. I mean last weekend I slept in his roomates bed nothing happend but he didn't even say a word. I wrote him a letter and he told me that is is his fault b/c he should have just told me how he felt. But nothing will make it better. And he kicked his roomate (his best friend) out of the house!
2007-06-06 02:39:39 · update #1
wow....ummmmm....its not really your fault because you didnt know....its the roommates fault....i think you need to write him a letter explaining the situation to your friend....he may be upset for a little while but i think he will come around with time....sorry this happened to you...and the roommate should kill himself for doing that to his roommate...that was just wrong on his part
2007-06-06 02:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not do anything wrong. First getting involved with a co-worker is never a good idea cause when it does not work out it makes for problems at work. If his roommate knew he liked you and slept with you anyway then that guy is just a jerk and was looking for a little nookie. There is not much you can do but to stay away from the roommate and just give it a little time. If you feel that you wanted to try a relationship with your co-worker then you could talk to him and ask him why he never told you he liked you but now that you slept with roommate I don't think it would ever be the same cause it will keep coming up. Time is the only things that can heal wounds. But really you did nothing wrong if you had feeling for this roommate. If you did it just to do it then that is another story. Have a good day.
2007-06-06 02:54:34 · answer #2 · answered by Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wost are the breeding and whelping answers. The very worst I've seen here was a supposed Vet Tech telling someone to just pull a breech positioned pup out. That was it! I was horrified! There is a very specific way to do this and if it doesn't work then you best be on your way to your vet! Also the one where a girl had a female in whelp had one pup 3 hours before but could only see 1 leg of the next pup and it's been 2 hours and the pups hasn't come out yet! People were telling her to just wait it will come out on it's own. Yup that one curled my hair right up!
2016-05-17 23:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you committed no crime here! Next off you need to tell your co-worker that had you known of him liking you you surely wouldn not have been with his room mate, sounds like he needs to grow up a bit and be a man if he liked you that way he should have done something about it- now you feel guilty!? NOT! If you do not like your co-worker in the same matter you should tell him that you don't get involved with people whom you are employeed with and keeping it friends is better anyway. If you do like this guy and want a relationship with him then just explain to him that he is partly to blame and that you had no idea he liked you like that.
You are not married! You have the right to sleep with who you wnat to and date as many people you want and this co-worker really shouldn't have nothing to say about!
You could jokingly ask your co-worker if he and his roommate want to try a threesome and ask him if it would make him feel any better -be prepared for him to say yes, some men would say yes, not sure about this guy, sounds like you crushed his heart, ask him if you can make it up to him, buy him an "I'm sorry card" and some chocolates. There may be no fixing this to getting it back to where it once was. Timing is everything and the discomfort of this all will pass.... You might want to come right out and ask just what it is he wants from you and if he'd like for you and he to be serious then he should make his feelings known!
2007-06-06 02:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by sophia_of_light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like you've done something wrong. But I don't think you have. You didn't know how your co-worker felt. The one who has done the worst is the person you slept with.
All you can do is apologise and try to explain that you didn't know that your co-worker had feelings for you. You can't know things unless you are told.
Hang in there and good luck.
PS - anyone who yells at you aren't worth your time. You made a honest mistake - everyone does that at some time
2007-06-06 02:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by littleangel_1500 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your co-worker liked you they should have just told you.
You do NOT have to explain your actions to either of them.
It sounds like the "roommate" is trying to make his friend mad for some reason and perhaps using you as the weapon to do so.
If you like the co-worker and they like you perhaps you can work things out.
If the thing with the roommate was a one-time thing - and there is no chance of a relationship - let it go and move on.
If you are all adults - you should be able to work things out.
Don't let anybody judge what you did - it is your life - live it as you see fit.
2007-06-06 02:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Perfect_Brat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that what you did would only look really bad if you have a legal romantic relationship with that co-woker of yours or something. I think that it's not your fault, in my own opinion, it's just between your co-worker and that roomate of his, because your co-workers roomate knows what your co-worker feels about you and yet he slept with you, and plus you're not even aware about those feelings that your co-worker has for you, so I see no reason for you to be concerned. Do you have feelings for that co-worker of yours? Cause if you don't love that co-worker of yours, it's only legal for you to see other people. I think that you should just analyze your feelings, and then try to talk to him, if you don't have any feelings for him, just tell him, I just don't see any reason for you to be concerned if you don't feel any love you know, and if you must, you should just apologized and tell him what you really feel now that you know what he feels about you.
2007-06-06 02:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you went with your feelings and you weren't aware of your other co-worker liking you in that way. It is not your fault that they are not speaking and I don't feel as if it is your place to apologize to anyone for this. This is your own personal business and it was you personal choice...you weren't going with the co-worker that is mad at you for sleeping with the other one, you don't even owe an explanation. You didn't create any wounds !! Don't feel bad and there is no reason for anyone to yell at you...Good Luck!!
2007-06-06 02:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to give it a bit of time. Obviously you cannot undo this, but I have heard of a lot of worse things than this (sounds like you might have acted differently if you had known that it would hurt him). Do you know all this because he has told you, or is it second hand. Maybe there is more to it than you currently know. Maybe if he will talk to you about this, you can explain you are sorry if you have hurt him and you have learned from this. I think you can only be honest and try to make amends and give him time. Good luck.
2007-06-06 02:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just sleep with me and that will make them both mad and they both will have to get over it! LOL j/k It isn't your job to be a mind reader, if a guy likes you it's his job to come forward and say "hey lets get jiggy with it and make sum sexy time!" Well maybe not to that extreme but you know what I mean. You didn't do anything wrong here and should not feel bad at all. I hope this guy grows up and realizes he is at fault for not expressing himself to you. On the other end of the spectrum you do have to make a choice on which one you want to date because if you do play both sides of the fence then you are in the wrong! Hope it works out for ya, I think the main thing to mend this situation is going to be COMMUNICATION. =)
2007-06-06 02:13:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats why getting involved with anyone from work, or work related people are a no-no. we all learn that too late but hopefully we learn it. Apologize to your friend, explain your feelings. It may not be accepted at first, you can't push someone to forgive so give it a little time. The roommates will have to work things out themselves and getting involved in their squabble wouldn't be beneficial to any of you. keep it professional at work, all the personal issues should be handled outside to lessen the drama.
2007-06-06 02:11:15 · answer #11 · answered by mrsNO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋