I have been going out with my boufriend for months and i dont know whats wrong with him. whenever i tell him that we should go out he tells me that he has been invited to a party and he is going there. we hardly talk or go out and be together, whenever i tell him to come home we talk he gives me excuses that he is very busy. is he really for real? i really love him and want to be with him but he is very cold doesnt really care how i feel and since we started dating we have never gone out. i am tired of being treated like this and i want to tell him that i dont want to be his girlfriend anymore. what do i do?please help.
2007-06-06 01:24:17 · 13 answers · asked by kisher 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ditch him chick..... I was in a similar kind of relationship that lasted a little longer than a few month in total a fair few years! I put up with the crap that every time we went out we spent time with his mates and never mine. And when we did go out I always ended up on my own and he never showed me any respect in front of them or showed me affection! When I did manage to get him to spend time with me he would keep him self occupied doing mundane tasks like clean his car etc.... I hated him for it but I hated myself more for letting it happen as I wasted so much time To say the least it was a totally 1 way relationship but I stayed in It because I thought I loved him!
My advice Is leave him you can do so much better its not much of a relationship which I hate to say as you obviously care about the guy.
But be live me there are more men out there and plenty that will treat You with respect and make you feel loved!
Good luck with it!
2007-06-06 01:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a plan and leave.
DO NOT TELL YOUR BOYFRIEND ANY OF YOUR PLANS - HE'LL FOIL THEM.
Plan on where you're going to live - with roommate? by yourself? in the same town? Some other state?
Leases are made to be broken but it's important to give your landlord notice. So make sure you cover that base - it will come back to haunt you if you don't at least speak with your landlord.
Plan on how you're going to pay for your new place. If you're unemployed, get a job.
Plan on when you're going to leave - and how. Line up help moving your furniture, etc. It's best to move when he's not around -
On moving day, gather your workers and pack up and move - just your stuff, now. Leave his Nordic Track in place. But whatever you brought into this relationship, take out with you.
Then leave. Leave the key in the door and a note saying goodbye and don't try to contact me and don't look back.
For a while it will be painful - awful - lonely. BUT in time, you'll heal and then start to wake up from this coma you're in. Then you'll be back to your vibrant happy self - and wise enough to pick a more considerate life mate the next time.
2007-06-06 01:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even know what love is? Why would you claim to "love" someone you've only been with a few months but never gone on a date with? Doesn't sound like a guy worth liking, much less loving. Don't waste your emotion.
You two aren't a good match...and that's okay. You're not going to be a great fit with everyone you get involved with, but sometimes we have to give it a shot to find that out.
Move on...let him know it's not working for you. You'll have more fun as a single person doing what you enjoy, than being involved with someone whose actions you let upset you all the time.
2007-06-06 01:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live together? Because that makes it harder, and if you make up your mind to do it, then you really have to stick to your guns. Just stop him on the way out the door to one of his "parties" and say, "I'm done with you. You don't make me happy". Remember above all, true love means a desire to make the other person happy! If he's not trying to make you happy, (or even respect you, from the sounds of it.) you deserve better. Just tell him. Do it quickly, and then go find someone who deserves your love. : )
2007-06-06 01:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by FlowerChild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem here. I can't tell if you live together or not, as you use the term "come home." If you're living together and it is feasible, pack your stuff and leave. If you cannot leave, when he comes home tell him to pack HIS stuff and leave.
If you're not living together (I hope), then just stop calling him. When he finally calls you, tell him you're too busy to talk.
2007-06-06 01:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved or cared he would make time for you. This is his way of saying I'm ready to move on, but I'm not ready to tell you. I wouldn't be suprised if there is another girl involved.
Dump this dude and find someone who appreciates you.
2007-06-06 01:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by EDizzle03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and move on. He is no longer into you.
Life is too short. Why waste it on someone who shows
little interest in you. There are plenty of guys out there.
Find someone worthy of your time.
2007-06-06 01:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by merrybronze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole think sounds like he doesnt want to be dating anyone any way. you should cut the strings, pick up your heart and take it elsewhere cause its just going to get lost with him.
2007-06-06 01:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by miss_a_beck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, a man that does not spend enough time with his girlfriend is not for real. look for your perfect man.
2007-06-06 01:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by sweet sixteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up that your breaking up with him and why .
2007-06-06 01:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋