when an arrgument occures? I've been wrong plenty of times and will admitt it to her and never think about it again, but when I am wrong she will not let it go. However, when I am right I still do not think about it yet she gets mad. What is the big deal who is right and who is wrong just as long as the problem is solved?
2007-06-06 01:25:34 · 14 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why not when these type issues come up suggest that you sit across the table. Say ok, at this table we will work this out or talk this thru and when we get it decided and get up from the table that ends the whole discussion on the matter. Then when you get up, kiss and say times up its over. If she begins again, remind her that the discussion ended when you both got up from the "discussion" spot...can be the table, couch, 2 chairs...where ever...make it the same place..call it your "discussion area" assigned only for that. If she wants to say more after you remind her, then lead her back to the same area then..or tell her you won't discuss it unless in the discussion area....then don't. Tune it out (your male you know how to do that...lol)
Plan this before one comes up with her, tell her you hate for these things to keep going on and on so you have an idea...then try that.
Hope that helps for you, was just a thought I had that may work. Good Luck from one thats been there done that.
2007-06-06 01:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think the best way to approach this situation is to "Agree that you Disagree", then it doesn't matter who's right or wrong. Remember we are all individual, have been raised differently and have different minds and eyes and ways of processing problems. Some people see something as a problem while the other sees none.
2007-06-06 01:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by gypsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't matter but this becomes a power thing between some couples. Obviously your wife is playing the power card. You should try to talk about this together.
2007-06-06 01:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people are immature like that and need a reason to rub stuff in other people's face. When they can't due that, they get ticked off because they fear the person will do the same to them.
2007-06-06 01:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a pillow on my bed that reads "Don't choose to be right... Choose to be happy" I try to live by that creed. I agree that solving the problem is the most important thing.
2007-06-06 07:11:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...for the most part it doesn't matter, unless it is a recurring problem. Also, women want to feel heard. So if you've done something and you're in the wrong, she wants you to say, "I'm sorry that I ......" And make her feel like you understand how you made her feel.
2007-06-06 01:30:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a committed relationship it is most helpful to not play the game of wrong and right with your mate,you both make compromises to ensure that you have a happy relationship,you have to be best friends ;as well,as lovers....loving someone and you being loved by someone is a most powerful filling and you both put up100% for your relationship... life is to short to be mad,vengeful...
2007-06-06 01:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this is how she was raised and has little to do with what actually is right or wrong. This is how she learned to argue/fight from her parents or home situation growing up. Habits are hard to break.
2007-06-06 01:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make love not war. Think of something to make her feel good and keep her busy. Loving each other can be hard work sometimes hey?
2007-06-06 01:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by deb m 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have an immature wife there... that's the problem.
2007-06-06 03:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋