Parenting - May 2007

I have been w/ my bf now for 2 years.. my kids love him... he is african american.. my kids are white/hispanic... This morning my boyfriend went to drop my 8yr old off at school, and asked if he needed help getting his project out of the trunk. My son told him no. To make a long story short.. my son said it was because he is brown. My son is very bright and outspoken... I need advice on how to approach him on this. Thanks!

2007-05-09 09:59:48 · 7 answers · asked by mimi941 1

When i was growing up, whenever i did something that i wasn't suppose to do, i would get a spanking with the belt. I was always scared of that damn belt too, lol. But i grew to learn that if i didn't want that belt on my butt, then i better listen and do as told. Now as i have a child, all of these concerns are coming to the surface about spanking children. What are everyones opinions on this important topic?

2007-05-09 09:05:15 · 46 answers · asked by STACEY 1

Is it really helpful to children if they grow up in a overly structured environment where every moment is planned for them?

2007-05-09 09:03:44 · 6 answers · asked by Kaybee 4

My friend has a12yr old daughter and twins aged 5. Her daughter has ben acting up for the past year and is getting worse. She has been suspended from school several times, been drinking and smoking, cautioned by the police, she is threating her mum, and i've recently found out that she has been having sex with a boy in her school (her mum doesnt know this).
Should i tell her mum about her having sex? And what can her mum do about her behaviour?

2007-05-09 08:42:19 · 16 answers · asked by Mel M 2

My daughter's father hasn't seen her in over 5 months. He doesn't call or anything. I need help paying for childcare, so I applied for child care assistance;but in order to recieve any assistance, i have to put her father on child support. I really don't want to because i dont want him to have anything to do with her...

2007-05-09 08:21:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-09 08:04:41 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

So here I am once again being MISS concerned. I almost feel like a nosy women, perhaps a parent with good intentions. One of my neice's has worried me to the fullest and I would like to know if any of you warm people have any advise for me?
My niece started drinking alcohol and smoking pot at a very young age, very rebellious not to mention cutting class and sometimes not comming home. My sister worried herself sick enough to have a nervous break down and end up in the hospital for 3 days and 2 nights, My nieces father was furious of this situation and grounded her for near a life time "so my niece says".Which of course she was exaggerating!Now she has ran away from home, She has been gone for almost 4 weeks now. My sister is devastated.A source (my niece's friend) Told me she was staying in a hotel in a bad part of our town with a boy of her age, The source also stated my neice has been obligated to prostitue for them to pay for the hotel and whatever else they need.

2007-05-09 07:39:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you went to drop your child off at day care and there was 13 or more babies ages 1-2 years old and half of them were crying and there was one teacher in the room with them in the changing area changing diapers?? Would you take your child home? Would you report it? Who would you report to?

2007-05-09 07:37:34 · 12 answers · asked by Rosie 4

Hello~
My husband and I would like to take some "Mini" vactions here in northern CA and Southren Or. Would like some ideas. They have to be kid friendly and fun for the whole family. Our boys are 3 1/2 and 4 months old. The farthest south we want to go is San Luis Obispo, CA. And I guess the farthest north would be Portland, Or.

We really don't want to spend much money. And we can only go for about 3 days. We plan to take about 3-7 of these little trips. We will be driving. Any ideas??? Websites would be great!

Thanks!
Jennifer
Cottonwood, Ca

2007-05-09 06:35:51 · 6 answers · asked by LITTLE 1 :o) 6

The guy who lives next door to my parents children never go to school, they live in filthy environment. He goes out late at night to pick up trash and metal scraps. Then this stuff sits all over his property. It looks like a dump on the outside and the inside of his home not any better. My parent dont want to call because this guy has angry issue and they dont what might happen if he think they did it. They really hoping that the school will do it since they have very poor attendance.

So what is the best way of helping them?

2007-05-09 06:08:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My stepson is 9 and in the third grade. Me and my husband are having differences when it comes to his bedtime. My husband has let my stepson be his "friend" all these years and now it is becoming a problem because he needs to be his parent more so. Please give me advice on what would be a good and reasonable time nowadays for him to go to bed. Thanks.

2007-05-09 05:29:35 · 22 answers · asked by my2boysja 1

2007-05-09 05:27:39 · 29 answers · asked by Miss_Tash 1

My kids are awesome (of course I say that being their mom)... my son is handsome and has the wittiest personality! My daughter is beautiful and is so uniquely herself that it amazes me that she is related to any of us, lol. What do you find amazing about your kids?

2007-05-09 05:18:02 · 18 answers · asked by Me 6

I have 2 children and that is all I will ever have... how many do you have and/or how many do you want to have? Everyone have a great Mother's Day and be sure to call your mommas!!!

2007-05-09 05:13:24 · 26 answers · asked by Me 6

I am not a stay at home mom. I work a full time job, however I do occasionally have a day off during the week (Obviously today). I know that on these days, me and my 3 yr. old have no set routine. I get up and see my older child off to school, but then me and my daughter sleep in till we feel like getting up, usually between 8:30-9:30. Even if I have things that I need to take care of, whether it is clean house, run errands or whatever, I don't have a set schedule. I just do it when I feel like it. My daughter watches TV, colors, plays with dolls, swings on her swingset or whatever. I find that these days are so relaxed and laidback compaired to having to work a full time job outside the home, punching a time clock. I just wonder if stay at home moms actually try to have some type of schedule everyday. When you don't really have to, why would you want to deal with that stress of a set schedule?

2007-05-09 05:11:58 · 15 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

Do I have the right to ask my daughter's doctor for information on her doctor visit? My daughter is 15.

2007-05-09 04:51:59 · 20 answers · asked by Moose 5

Advice is something that I know everyone could use occasionally, but I see so many women on here who think the best way to give advice is to tell someone how they should raise their kids or live their lives, and they use insults and critisizm to try to make those who "do it differently" look or feel like horrible parents. It is one thing to give advice or your opinion on how YOU would do it, but what good does it serve to try to insult someone who doesn't raise their kids like you do, or doesn't live their life like you? Thats not advice, thats judgement. How does that help anything? No mom is perfect, and whose to say whose way is the best.

You leave your kids in daycare? Oh your a horrible parent!
You didn't breastfeed? Well, your selfish!
You work outside the home? Oh you don't love your kids like a stay at home mom does!

Why do some of these moms think that is another mom doesn't do it HER way, they are doing it wrong?

2007-05-09 04:37:54 · 16 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

We go to chilis on my lunch break....
When we sit down...the waiter brings us our drinks and forgets his...her son says juice, juice, juice repeatedly and start screaming for it after a few times...so the waiter finally brings the juice, he drinks and is fine.. If you offer to give him a bite of food he wont even acknowledge im giving it to him...
he wants me to give the food to mommy so that she can feed it to him.... Then he sees a picture of a cow and starts saying cow over and over again.. and then starts screaming it again...
then when she tells him to stop he starts screaming and crying staring forward and starts rocking back and forth.....
it seems a little differant to me and has become so embarrassing... i have never seen a child behave like this, I babysat for him a few times and when his mom left he`d throw up everywhere...i`ve heard autistic kids dont want anyone but mommy.. i dont know how to tell his mom i think he is autistic or has some sort of medical condition.

2007-05-09 04:24:09 · 9 answers · asked by Keri 3

I live with my fiancee and MY 3 kids, and he has set some house rules for my children to live by. His rules are much more rigid than my parents rules were for us growing up, and even more strict than the rules I had set in place for my kids before I met him. They are having trouble adjusting to this kind of lifestyle. What do you think, too harsh? These are only SOME of the rules we have to live by, there are a lot more, believe me:
*No shoes worn in the house
*Kids are not allowed on the ADULTS couch
*No eating anywhere except for at the kitchen table
*No toys allowed in living room
*If kids leave anything laying around, it gets taken
*If child breaks something whether on accident or on purpose, something valuable of theirs will be broken and tossed out
*Children are not allowed to use the ADULTS bathroom
*Children cannot come in the front door, must use side door
*If children are even 1 minute late coming home (must be IN the house by 4:00), they get grounded for a day.

2007-05-09 03:49:11 · 31 answers · asked by Beach Girl 3

2007-05-09 02:24:40 · 12 answers · asked by Michelle 6

My kids are in foster care. We gave them quite a few clothes for our kids. Some of them they got from christmas and my daughter got new clothes for her birthday in Feburary. The fostermom told me that she out grew all of the clothes. So I asked her over a month ago for the clothes back. I give them to a friends of mine kid because they can't afford clothes. I asked her again today and she said she gave them all to the church. I ask her for my sons clothes, I like to keep their clothes for the first year for when they have kids, she got rid of his also. My question is, Are they allowed to get rid of my kids clothes without my permission? I don't know a lot about foster parents, but any kind of advice of what they do would be nice.

2007-05-08 17:45:17 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah 1

my sons 8 and 10 love going outside barefoot the only time there not barefoot is to school and there they vwear crocs without socks or watershoes my son was barefoot at the movies in the mall and there were barefoot at chuck cheese how to get them to wear shoes or is barefoot ok

2007-05-08 15:22:15 · 19 answers · asked by get it 1

I left my first husband before I realized I was pregnant. I never intended to get back with him, but I hoped that he would be a good father. I have been sadly disappointed. He only sees our son about every 3 months, usually only on long visitations. He has actually gone longer than that before, when my son was 1 he skipped an entire year. He has gotten behind in child support quite a few times and hardly ever had the court ordered medical insurance on him. My son is now 10 and when he goes for a visitation, he spends most of it with my ex's mother. She is the one who takes him places and does things with him. He says he hardly ever see's his dad and when he does he says my ex is a jerk to him. He never calls him either. Of course, when I have confronted him about his lack of interest, he blames me for it. Should I just let it go and let my son figure out what kind of man his dad is, as he is already beginning to do on his own? Or can this man be changed by something I could say?

2007-05-08 14:58:06 · 12 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

my exwife gives/buys me gifts from my son(7yrs old) for b-day,fathers day.The problem is she treats my new wife like crap(jealous).This makes my wife not want me to give her gifts from my son for her b-day or mothers day.my son does make gifts at school for his mom so how should i handle this.

2007-05-08 14:44:56 · 12 answers · asked by gerrymakey675894 1

THE TEACHER IN MY SONS GRADE 8 CLASS SHOWED A CLOCKWORK ORANGE TO THE ENTIRE CLASS WITHOUT A PERMISSION SLIP OR ANYTHING?

IT WAS A MOVIE DAY AND PARTY AND I AM DISTURBED THAT MY SON WAS SHOWN THIS.

WHAT THE **** IS WRONG WITH THE TEACHER??

2007-05-08 12:51:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Multiple times I have seen children who have had no father live with them at all since birth, with those children having some behavioral problems. Is this a fact?

I've seen problems ranging to teenage boys purposely wanting to fight, to girls liking older men, to people of any age turning to drugs along with some other problems.

I too have been brought up in a home without a father, but I don't know if my extreme social anxiety and being somewhat sensitive to yelling has anything to do with that. That may just be who I am. But I'm fortunate to have a good mother, or I may have turned out with some problems as well...

Thoughts?

2007-05-08 12:48:08 · 13 answers · asked by Ixi 2

Who kisses their children on their lips. What are your views on this topic. I kiss my daughter on the lips and I don't feel wierd about it or think it's wrong. Of course that's just a tiny little peck nothing more than that of course. What are your views on this topic? Do you kiss your children on the lips?

2007-05-08 12:23:17 · 28 answers · asked by I smile because of them ♥ 5

Why should parents put their kids in those leashes? they're just too damn lazy to carry their kids. Leashes are for dogs damn it!!!

2007-05-08 11:55:09 · 22 answers · asked by raindrop 1

How did you tell your children about your own adoption and your relationship with your adoptive parents? Some of the stories I have heard are very beautiful and touching.

2007-05-08 10:44:40 · 2 answers · asked by Ariel 128 5

I went thru a very bitter divorce and tolerate my ex for my 8 yr old son's sake.My son is making a gift for his mom in school but if he asks to buy his mom a gift what should i say/do?

2007-05-08 10:38:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous