2007-05-09 05:27:39 · 29 answers · asked by Miss_Tash 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No I dont a man should always put the woman before the want for children not just use her too carry the child (:
2007-05-09 05:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If a woman cannot have a child, It's not the right thing for her husband to do because you marry someone because you love them and not because you want kids.
However, we do not live in an ideal world we're everyone loves hard and especially not the way the bible says to do. With that said, if a man leaves his wife for that reason, he didn't love her in the first place and maybe she's better off without him.
I have heard of a lot of cases where a man left his wife because she couldn't have kids. The woman remarries and has children. Hopefully this will be the case this time.
2007-05-09 06:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is a touchy one. I'm sorry if you, or anyone, got stuck in this situation. Are you sure that it's you that cannot have children? Quite often it is the man that has the fertility issue. My view is this: It is not your sole objective as a wife to produce children. If you are not capable, or are unwilling, there are other options for building a family, such as adoption. Any man that leaves his wife because she is infertile is only using that as an excuse to get out of the marriage.
2007-05-09 06:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Vakari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man absolutely has to have kids and he only wants them in the "normal, conventional" way (no adoption, ivf,etc) then it's probably in the best interest of everyone that he leaves. If it's that important to him then he will make everyone's life miserable if he stays and is unhappy. I don't think it's fair or the loving thing to do. But I would rather have him leave me than stay with me forever and always hold that over my head.
2007-05-09 05:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, there is always adoption, if a man leaves a woman because she can't have kids then he is in the relationship for all the wrong reasons.
2007-05-09 05:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the issue/ importance of having children was discussed early on in the relationship then yes. Regardless he will leave if he wants to.
Have you all thought about adoption? Are you sure that you are the one that can't concieve? Is not being able to concieve an excuse for him to get out of the relationship? I would think that if he loved you enough to make you the mother of his children then adopting would be an option.
2007-05-09 05:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Docslady01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think it's right but if a man really loves a women and he wants kids they should just consider adopting one and if that's something he don't want to do than she should get rid of him and find a better man who appreciates her for who she is.
2007-05-09 05:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife told me in 1969, about 6 months after we married, that she had been told she couldn't have children. I hadn't given any thought to children when we married and to be honest, I was quite relieved. We were happily married, without children for 36 years before here death. A man marries a woman for her own sake. It is not right that he should leave her because she can't reproduce. If it is that important he should have had them both tested before the wedding.
2007-05-09 05:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
right no but it happens. alot of men have the same desire we women have and thats to have children. if the woman they are with cant have kids they tend to leave and find a woman who can. just like we women tend to do the same thing if the man we are with cant have kids
2007-05-09 05:32:13 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if a man truely loves you and wants to be with you and understands that you can't have kids he wouldn't leave.
2007-05-09 05:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by critterbeachhome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Was this discussed at all prior to getting together? If so then he knew. But if it came from trying to conceive for awhile then finding out she just can't then it at least needs to be discussed. There are other arrangements that can be made like adoption and surrogacy.
2007-05-09 05:36:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋