A child brought up with no father has certin problems?

Question

Multiple times I have seen children who have had no father live with them at all since birth, with those children having some behavioral problems. Is this a fact?

I've seen problems ranging to teenage boys purposely wanting to fight, to girls liking older men, to people of any age turning to drugs along with some other problems.

I too have been brought up in a home without a father, but I don't know if my extreme social anxiety and being somewhat sensitive to yelling has anything to do with that. That may just be who I am. But I'm fortunate to have a good mother, or I may have turned out with some problems as well...

Thoughts?

Answer 1

Fathers are important, a woman should not raise a child on her own. The fathers part to play is that of discipline and moral guidance (thats why so many kids are out of control). A mother is to nurture you, to feed you... but more often nowdays women are taking the man out of the picture, or hes taking himself away. Men need to be prepared to be with their children if they are going to have sex, and women need to learn that a father is an important part of a childs guidance. Oftentimes just saying that a father is needed gets thumbs down, why is that? A father IS needed.

Answer 2

I have been raised by a single mother since birth. Plus, my mom is gay, so I have had an excess of female influence with barely any male influence or role models.

I am a perfectly normal teenager. I volunteer, attend school, get good grades (honour roll 3 years in a row), and have excellent manners, am polite caring and responsible. I can cook a 3 course meal properly and enjoy reading, writing, shopping and hot guys. I was diagnosed with ADD at age 8 and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ) at age 17. I take care of my own medical problems and issues, especially pertaining to my diagnoses. I have never had a boyfriend. I have better priorities in life, like school and friends and family. I am a virgin and proud of it as well. The only drugs I use are the prescriptions from my doctor for the ADD and PTSD.

Oh, did I mention I am a 17 (nearly 18) year old girl.

So, does it sound like I have problems because of no father???

Answer 3

Kids need a father or at least a male role model. I hope yours makes an effort to be in your life, even though your parents are not together. If not, maybe a grandfather can be that father figure.

I brought up my daughter as a single mom and I know she had some life issues as a result. She is also very socially anxious...maybe that does relate.

A good book that you might enjoy reading on this subject is The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce, which talks about some of the problems that children have throughout life as a result of their parents' divorces.

Answer 4

I can't answer if your question is a fact without researching it further; however, I can tell you the difference between my best friend, who was raised with both parents and myself, who was raised by my mother. My BFF hated her 2 sisters and due to religious beliefs, ended up dis-owning her brother and his family. All 3 girls treated the mother terribly and lacked guidance from both parents. BFF dropped out of high school, got pregnant before she got married, married someone she did not love, and had been diagnosed with clinical depression since she was 20 yrs old. I on the other hand, got along with my siblings (and still do), respected my mother, got good grades, got married/divorced (oops), and have 2 awesome children that are healthy, happy & active adolescents. I feel guidance and environment may be two of the major components in how a child develops.

Answer 5

My husband met his father 2 yrs ago at age 30! After a 5 yr search on my end... he didn't have a biological father in his life as a kid but he did have many father figures to look up to and speak to about guy stuff. He has turned out to be the best father I know. He is also none of the things you have mentioned. Go out with some friends and make more ..open up. Good luck to you. I'm sure you will someday make a great dad to.

Answer 6

Having a father present the same things you described can and often do happen. I think your just focusing on those that do not have fathers present. I raised my daughter alone for 13 yrs after my divorce and she doesn't have those problems and I know many kids raised without their dads around that don't have those problems and I know kids whose fathers are around that are just bad little asses. Its just depends on the individual

Answer 7

I believe you are correct in believing that children are damaged when they don't have both parents. How much is the question. The mother can help to minimize this, as yours probably has. Children need someone to guide them in dealing socially and making good decisions. Mother and father have different roles when it comes to these things. However, I do believe that if the mother can take time with her children (which is extremely hard in a one parent household) to help them learn to choose wisely and spend quality time, they can turn out to be better than children of alot of two parent households.

Answer 8

no just because you have no father or mother for that around growing up dont mean your gonna be messed up.to the one who said a child needs a father regardless is so wrong.guess i should have kept my childrens father around till i met my current hubby.wow they would have learned to do drugs and sell them,would have learned a woman works while a man lays up all day.look at all they missed.dont forgot he would have taught them to run bars to.come on it really dont make much difference.i was lucky and met a good man several yrs ago and we married.

Answer 9

I don't think that not having a father in the home will affect the child. I wasn't rasied with a father and I turned out ok.

Answer 10

I think everyone that has been raised without a father, has some sort of emotional issues. Just about everyone I know, including myself, has not had a father in their lives. Some of us have seemed to be able to resolve those issues and move on. Others seem to have not been able to.