My kids are in foster care. We gave them quite a few clothes for our kids. Some of them they got from christmas and my daughter got new clothes for her birthday in Feburary. The fostermom told me that she out grew all of the clothes. So I asked her over a month ago for the clothes back. I give them to a friends of mine kid because they can't afford clothes. I asked her again today and she said she gave them all to the church. I ask her for my sons clothes, I like to keep their clothes for the first year for when they have kids, she got rid of his also. My question is, Are they allowed to get rid of my kids clothes without my permission? I don't know a lot about foster parents, but any kind of advice of what they do would be nice.
2007-05-08 17:45:17 · 16 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Please ask the CPS caseworker your question. Also, please let the caseworker know, and the foster parent, know, that from now on, any and all clothes that your children outgrow, are immediately to go back to you, for you to give to your friend, etc. You paid for the clothes, it is your decision as to where the outgrown clothes should go. Take care.
2007-05-08 18:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all this nit picking that stops good foster parents from wanting to be foster parents. Who wants to be audited all the time. And who's going to say what qualifies as "for the kids?" Foster parents have to have extra rooms in their house, so they have to buy a more expensive house. Isn't that... "for the kids?" We had to buy a minivan to transport. That expense was completely "for the kids." I couldn't use vouchers to pay part of my mortgage or my car payment. But I couldn't have (and wouldn't have) bought the minivan without the support checks. I had a social worker who believes all foster parents "brain wash" kids into saying nice things about them. This is so frustrating as a foster parent, because how can we prove that we are great to these kids when the social worker isn't even believing what's coming out of their mouths? It's time to stop being so judgmental.
2016-05-18 22:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can get rid of them but most of us will keep them for when we get other foster kids who wear that size and don't have many clothes. But perhaps if you had asked in advance for them back. I always ask particularly when it comes to special outfits or handmade clothes or blankets. Sometimes they may be of sentemental value. Try to talk to the foster Mom more. She could be a friend to you with a little effort to both of you.
2007-05-09 01:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think because your children are in foster care then the foster parents are aloud to do what they think is best with the clothes.
Why are they in foster care in the first place. ?
2007-05-08 18:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are the legal gardians of the children. she can get rid of the clothes as long as they are provided new ones. you could ask her for next time to save the clothes and you will pick them up. she probablly just didn't know and got rid of them before you asked the first time
2007-05-08 17:55:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I used to be house parents to 9 teenage girls and we used to trash the girls clothes when they got to be too worn out. If the parents wanted them back, they needed to let me know ahead of time and I would send them back. We were given money to provide new clothes for them anyway.
2007-05-08 17:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry your chidren are in foster care.
I was raised in a foster-home, and until you are adopted, your bio-parents are still YOUR parents.
I would take this up with the social worker.
Since foster parents are paid, I would save your money until you get your kids back, and buy them clothes then.
2007-05-08 17:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by inzbrkqt 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Since they are in her care she can do whatever she feels fit when it comes to their clothing. Unfortantely there isn't much you can do other than wait to buy them clothes till you hopefully get them back and let her do the buying. She is getting paid anyways.
2007-05-09 03:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can do whatever they want with them...technically with your children being in foster care, you are not their guardian. More than likely it is the local DFS or Children's Division. Honestly, the foster parent saved them for future use with other foster kids...I doubt she gave them away.
2007-05-08 17:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jaybird 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your kids are under the guardianship; of someone else.....the state so they are not ours. so yes they can do what they want with the clothes. if u have any complaints or questions call cps and ask what your rights are and what your entitled too.
2007-05-08 17:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by MiRaNdA rOsE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋