Do you think its bad parenting to put those poor children in those leashes that connects to their chest?

Question

Why should parents put their kids in those leashes? they're just too damn lazy to carry their kids. Leashes are for dogs damn it!!!

Answer 1

Too damn lazy? OBVIOUSLY you do not have children, lol. Children often refuse the be carried and kick and scream to be let down to walk. It is just stupid to force carry a child and sometimes impossible without sustaining injury to yourself.
Using a harness is actually quite clever. It allows the child a bit of freedom to roam and discover but not enough that he/she can be separated from their parents.

Come back when you have toddlers.

Answer 2

No, I do not think that it is bad parenting, more of a safety precaution. I don't think that they should be used all of the time, but when you are in a really crowded place like an amusement park etc., it could be close to impossible to catch them if they take off. I actually tried one of those with my daughter, because she went through a phase ( we are close to being out of it thank god) where she would just take off. I would make her hold my hand, but she would sink to the ground and it was either let go or hurt her arm, then she would pop up very quickly and take off. When I put the backpack leash thing on her she threw a fit, so that did not work. I have seen other kids who seem fine with it. I just make it a practice to try not to take her somewhere where it would be easy for her to get away by myself. It is not always practical to carry a child for prolonged periods of time once they are out of the babycarrier stage.

Answer 3

I orignally would have answered yes, it is bad parenting, ..., until I had my 2nd child. My son, unusual for a boy, started walking early, and by 16 months, he somehow climbed on top of the refrigerator! (still don't know how he did that!). Now, I never had one of those "leashes", but every time we were in the public, I had to ALWAYS put him in the shopping cart, or carry him. I NEVER let him walk around, because he would be "gone" in seconds! One time, I looked away for a couple of seconds, and then saw him running out the front doors (and into the parking lot!). Luckily, another parent (who had a couple of kids with him) had blocked his path. Instead of an annoying "what kind of parent are you" look, I got a look that said "I know EXACTLY how you feel!" Every child is different, and every parent is different. I am sure some parents are lazy (who use the "leashes"), but it could be that there's some physical issue/problem that the parent has in the first case, or they may have a kid who's like mine! Unless you're a full-time parent, its a bit easier to be critical.

Answer 4

well excuse me, but I did use one for my son when he was little. It's not that I was too lazy to carry my kid, I would have loved to. It's just when they get about three years old they don't want to be "carried like a baby" anymore and long to be a big boy. Yet they lack the maturity at three to know how far to wander off. Trying to bend down holding your child's hand all through the mall gets taxing as well, and you have to hear them whine and scream because they still want their freedom. Using a harness lets the child explore their surroundings, which is good for the child. How else are they supposed to learn about the world they live in other than exploring, touching, and learning about it firsthand? But you still get to hold on to the child so they don't get A. grabbed by some maniac kidnapper or B. Fall down and get hurt because they wandered too far away from you. I realize the stigma attached to using one of them, and I did garnish the bad looks from people who did not understand. But I think the benefits far outweighed any negatives, and I never seen it as a "leash" like for a dog. I used it as yet another parenting tool. I take it you're young and don't have kids yet so don't judge until you have your own.

Answer 5

Obviously you have no children. It amazes me how people without kids seem to do the best parenting. Have you ever carried a 20 pound child around a zoo for 2 to 8 hours? My oldest son is 5 and I have never had to use a child harness on him because he always stays at my side...my 18 month old weighs 25 pounds and is way too heavy to carry for long periods of time. ( your back goes out on you after you have kids lol) He wants to walk everywhere now, and he is very quick, it is hard to keep up with one child in one hand and another taking off sometimes, in this world where someone can snatch your child who is just barely out of arms reach, disappear in the crowd, kill, rape, torture you child, it is not wonder parents have to use a harness on younger children. Before you say put them in a stroller, they don't want to ride in one all day. The next time you see a parent with a wrist strap harness, or a chest child harness, ask them why they do it and they will tell you the same thing, to keep their kids from running off, it only takes 1 second for them to get lost, and to give the parent peace of mind that is someone grabs their child and tries to run it is much harder for them to get away, and can be a deterrent to pedophiles.

p.s. make sure you let us know when you have kids how easy it is to go to a large place without a harness! ;)

Answer 6

Its not a leash and until you have to hold the dead weight of a child sleeping you should be more knowledgable about who you are calling lazy! A leash would be the ones that connect your childs wrist to yours so that in areas that have a high volume of people your child doesn't get lost or stolen and that isn't laziness either. You are very judgemental.

Answer 7

I'm guessing you don't have kids? I have 2, I never used a harness with mine because I didn't need too. My kids were happy to ride in the cart, or the stroller, when they did walk, they held my hand & stayed with me. My kids were too shy to wonder off without me, plus it was my rule that they stayed where I could see them. They were very good & were never a problem. My friends had kids who didn't mind as well & they would run off & refuse to hold their moms hand & I can see how much it made going places with them easier when they used the harness. It just depends on the kids. I learned not to judge someone else's choices on raising their kids, as long as they aren't being hurt, each parent has to decide what works best for them & their kids. Being a parent is hard enough without having to be judged by everyone else, especially those who never had a kid!

Answer 8

They are safety harness. It keeps the children unconfined to a stroller or a carrier. It lets them explore without wandering off and getting hurt or abducted. A slight tug is sensed by a parent who is attached at the other end.

Just look at it as a parent leash..

Kids are a quick little buggers!

If you have children, you'd understand.

Answer 9

If you have one or two children than the use of these "leashes" are unreasonable, but I believe that if you have multiples and need to make sure you're keeping track of your children at all times such as a trip anywhere well. Leashes no. some kind of helpful holding device definitely.

Answer 10

if your child habitually runs away then i think it is a smart thing to do. She only has to be away from you for a second for something to happen. At that age...sheesh. As a child, I didn't run away, and i didnt need a leash, but some of these kids ZOOM off when you least expect it. Its a smart thing if you have a kid like that.