Parenting - January 2007

Ok trying to make a long story short. I had horrible parents. On and off drug addicts my whole life. Last time i was speaking with them they had just stoped doing drugs. Now they are hanging out with people they used to use with. I consider them both insane and slefish and imature. My mother once chased my husband with a butcher knife in a drunken rage. THe last time we were speaking, we had moved back in with them because neither of them were working and they need money help. Not only did we pay them $150 a wk. But we also paid for there food. Basicly they got mad when we decided to move out and stop taking care of them. I am now not sure what to do about my son. I know that he loves them, and they have never done anyhting to hurt him. But how do i explain why mommy and her parents do talk. Plus they dont want me to supvise them seeing him.My sister used to take him to see them, now she feel like i dont trust her becuase i only want them around w/ my supervision I dont know what to do

2007-01-10 12:33:06 · 9 answers · asked by coliepollie22 2

2007-01-10 12:25:12 · 16 answers · asked by Denise W 1

The other day, someone at a store in our town
read that a Methamphetamine lab had been found in an
old farmhouse in the adjoining county and he asked
me a rhetorical question.
"Why didn't we have a drug problem when you
and I were growing up?"
I replied, I had a drug problem when I was
young:
I was drug to church on Sunday morning. I was
drug to church for
weddings and funerals. I was drug to family
reunions and community socials no matter the
weather.
I was drug by my ears when I was disrespectful
to adults. I was also drug to the woodshed when I
disobeyed my parents, told a lie, brought home a bad
report card, did not speak with respect, spoke ill
of the teacher or the preacher, or if I didn't put
forth my best effort in everything that was asked of
me.
I was drug to the kitchen sink to have my
mouth washed out with soap if I uttered a profanity.
I was drug out to pull weeds in Mom's garden and
flower beds and cockleburs out of Dad's fields.
I was drug to the homes of family, friends,
and neighbors to help out some poor soul who had no
one to mow the yard, repair the clothesline, or chop
some firewood; and, if my mother had ever known that
I took a single dime as a tip for this kindness, she
would have drug me back to the woodshed.
Those drugs are still in my veins and they
affect my behavior in everything I do, say, or
think. They are stronger than cocaine, crack, or
heroin; and, if today's children had this kind of
drug problem, America would be a better place. God
bless the parents who drugged us.
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2007-01-10 12:19:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is it that a single mother is a victim, while a single father is not? As a single father (my fiancee was killed by a drunk driver when our daughter was 2, she is now 4) I have filed many appeals in court because of lack of support from the government and have won, but I still am shocked how often people fail to care about the situations many men are in. It seems as though single mothers get extra benefits beyond what a single father would receive in the same situation. These benefits extend beyond financial incentives, and include community support, outreach programs and M-for-M programs, etc. Yes, there are far less single fathers than single mothers, but the suicide rate among young males is so high, and one of the reasons I felt motivated to ask this question is because lately I have found myself depressed (not suicidal) and I blame it on the lack of community support and outreach.

Why does society have such little compassion for single fathers, yet so much for single mothers?

2007-01-10 11:59:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think I am going to lose my mind. My one year old boy has started chewing holes in his nipples on his bottle, so I was scared he might bite it off and choke on it, so I decided to wean him, as it is about that time anyhow....
that was about two weeks ago, and he still is refusing cups, and will literally scream his head off until he falls asleep from exhaustion. I am at my wits end here. Should I give him his bottle back, or let him keep crying? I can only handle so much of the screaming, so I have to put him in his crib after about 20 min, then I'll take him back out again when I have cleared my mind. But he is also pushing the nipple back down into the bottle and so it ruins the nipple, and of course he is biting holes into them too.... any suggestions?

2007-01-10 11:46:00 · 7 answers · asked by niki h 2

2007-01-10 11:34:06 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I was pregnant, nobody was happy in my husband's family. My mother was happy and the customers I took care of were happy for me, rubbing my belly and asking me a whole bunch of questions. Now that my sister in law is pregnant, my mother in law who is my husband's step mother rubs her belly and tells everyone. I don't get it, My mother in law told my husband that she doesn't like my sister in law. I feel very upset because I was pregnant twice and delivered twice nobody from his family was excited about my pregnancy and nobody came to the hospital. The only people who came to visit me was my husband and the marines. I do feel jealous, I know, but I don't think it's fair. I was depressed both pregnancies because of his family. They love our children, but what about the early days? Am I crazy about this, or should I feel upset.

2007-01-10 10:56:16 · 4 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5

My son is 3 years old and I know he is way too young to understand now but I worry about how I will tell him one day that my husband and the man that he calls daddy isn't his real father. His real father wants nothing to do with my son. I have tried so many times but he refuses to take responsablity for him. I am married to a wonderful man that loves my son as his own and my son loves him. I know one day he will want to know why we all don't have to same last name. What do I say? My husband does want to adopt my son but I still think we should tell him one day. When and how?

2007-01-10 10:37:51 · 23 answers · asked by corene D 2

does anyone know of a website that lets you view pictures of finished rooms without having to become a member I want to look at a few pictures in order to help me make up my mind before painting my bedroom

2007-01-10 10:34:55 · 2 answers · asked by D S 1

Can you somehow find out on computer by your two pictures or Doctors or how?

2007-01-10 10:24:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My step dad said "in the house i grow up boys like you would get the strap on a daily bases" What do you think he wanted to say with that

2007-01-10 10:15:46 · 15 answers · asked by Rebel 2

The parents of the newest sextuplets hypocrites? They are Jehovah Witnesses, and won't allow blood transfusions to the babies. Doctors say they will probably need them. They used technology go have the kids, and won't use it in regards to blood transfusions. Do you think they're hypocrites?

2007-01-10 09:58:13 · 30 answers · asked by bon b 4

i mean if u are in high school you are a young adult not a child are a little kid that still plays with toy cars and barbies (hope not!) anyways... i have daTED THIS GUY FOR 2 YEARS NOW AND HE TOOK ME I DO HAVE SEX WITH HIM AND I DO LOVE HI! MABY THEY SHOULD STOP AND REMEBER WHAT IT WAS LIKE TO BE IN HIGH SCHOOL IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUNG are ppl saying if u dont do it ur not cool this is high shool u want us to grow up thin damn.. let us already!

2007-01-10 09:48:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

On some days, I'm a 10 and then on others I'm on the low end of the spectrum. Wondering how other parents feel about their parenting....

2007-01-10 09:45:18 · 11 answers · asked by Smiles 4

She is the one who graduated high school, moved out in 5 days with a 26 yr old married man with a child. She has been barely surviving with nothing to live on. No food, no car, no money, no dental or medical since May. She has no job.
Today when I got the mail, I recieved a gas bill in her name at my home. Its $208 bucks. The gas company told me she asked for it to be mailed to my home and I promptly told them NO WAY! She apparently has had all of his utilities hooked up in her name.
She is so immature, its nearly impossible to explain anything to her. Now on top of everything else, she is ruining her credit before she even has her 1st full time job. This crap makes me sick.
Her "boyfriend" has pulled a slick one on her and she is so naive she cannot see the leaves for the trees. He lives in a dump trailer his parents own. No bills for him. I tried to find her today to tell her a bill collector was sending her mail to my house too. What on earth is she thinking?

2007-01-10 09:34:15 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6

I think that there are alot of very rude people out there. I am a young mother myself, being 19 and preggo with baby # 2. However I have my place, I am married, I have my associates, working towards my bachelors, I go to night school, so no I do not leave my son with anyone. ,
I want to say that not all teen mothers are bad...in fact I know alot of older women who have kids, leave them with sitters and go out alot.
Because they are used to that life and used to being free to go about themselves. How many women do you know that do nopt have a single idea of what their kidas are doing? At least these young mothers me included, have enough common sense to come in and ask for advice-
which may i remind all of you that is what this is for....
And furthermore, how many are out there degrading us young TRYING moms and you barely work a low income job have barely a GED in their corner and are not married or even seriously dating? How can you judge people who just want to ask for advice?

2007-01-10 09:17:09 · 27 answers · asked by boyer_tommy 2

Wait till your daughter asks you if she can start shaving her legs or do you tell her when to start? if you tell her what age?

2007-01-10 09:04:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know there is a wide range of ages for when different children have been potty trained (seen from 11 months to 4 years as extremes).
How do you know if a child is ready to be trained mentally and physically? What traits would they need to exhibit to show they are ready to be trained?
And if you really feel like typing more, any suggestions are always welcome for how to go about it :)
Thanks in advance!

2007-01-10 08:57:48 · 11 answers · asked by artisticallyderanged 4

I know that we as parents have limitations on time and budget. BUT what about them? They seems to have unlimited energy resources... they don't even go to bed early. You know what I mean :(

2007-01-10 08:55:53 · 4 answers · asked by dmentepr 3

i got in trouble last night and my parents were still mad at me this morning. i cleaned my room when i got home from school what else can i do to help around the house today so they will not be mad at me anymore?

2007-01-10 08:15:10 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I will walk in the door and ask "How are things going". I do not really want to know but it usaly distracts her long enough for me to the TV before she remembers all the things she has been saving up all day to tell me.

What about you?

2007-01-10 07:43:43 · 24 answers · asked by Brian 5

I am 55. Let me tell you the "Standard'" as I know it. It is ok for a woman to take a "young" boy in the women's rest room because they all do it and are not suprised. Plus, they have stalls for everyone. A urinal is out in the open. I got the hell out of there because I thought I heard a girl And watced the SOB come out. People are having children that they are just not ready to cope with. I see it all the time.

2007-01-10 07:29:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has property but it is next to his mom. She keeps on asking us to move up there. But i think that it would be nothing but trouble. I get along fine with her but at times she is flat out nosey so would any of you ever leave next to your inlaws or if you do how is that working out for you?

2007-01-10 07:13:16 · 34 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7

Everyone I know has a housekeeper and has their children cared for and plays bridge once a week.

2007-01-10 07:11:05 · 2 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

He won't help with anything which makes everything so stressful esp before and after school.
He won't put on/take off shoes/clothes. He's still in night-time pants as cannot be bothered to use the potty next to his bed or the toilet. He could be watching tv and even if he needs the toilet he'll hold on and slightly wet his pants. He takes ages to eat breakfast, get in/out the car. If he was an only child fine but he isn't! He can do all these things.
I am no way expecting him to dress himself fully etc but just a tiny show of effort to do something would be welcome.
Of course he's gorgeous, but he takes all the time in the world! Any advice or is this just lazy boys?

2007-01-10 07:07:57 · 26 answers · asked by Isabelle 3

2007-01-10 07:04:34 · 8 answers · asked by sum1jones 1

I often see people be absolutely rude to young mothers. It's such a disgrace!

My question is to the women who feel young motherhood is always horrible. Why? Obviously the parents who have had children young on here are doing great. They all seem to have internet, a computer, a loving home, and so on. Why would a person discriminate against all young mothers when quite a few have done well for themselves? Is it just a lack to understand a person's situation or is it because people think they are better than others?

2007-01-10 06:50:19 · 13 answers · asked by .vato. 6

2007-01-10 06:45:45 · 10 answers · asked by talky 1

My 4yr old is supposed to start school in the fall. He currently attends a specialized school for the delays he has had since he was 10months. He has come so far,but still lacks some skills and maturity of say a tipical child his age.

2007-01-10 06:29:40 · 20 answers · asked by Mommy dearest 2

My 9 year old daughter has been invited to a sleep over at her classmates house. Should I let her go ? I know her and her mother in passing (casual talking at birthday parties) but that's it. I know nothing about her father who will be home during the party. Maybe if I let her go, I should call and check on her ? This sleepover thing is new to me and as she ages I am certain there will be more. I am just looking for opinions.

2007-01-10 06:16:09 · 14 answers · asked by misfit 3