She is the one who graduated high school, moved out in 5 days with a 26 yr old married man with a child. She has been barely surviving with nothing to live on. No food, no car, no money, no dental or medical since May. She has no job.
Today when I got the mail, I recieved a gas bill in her name at my home. Its $208 bucks. The gas company told me she asked for it to be mailed to my home and I promptly told them NO WAY! She apparently has had all of his utilities hooked up in her name.
She is so immature, its nearly impossible to explain anything to her. Now on top of everything else, she is ruining her credit before she even has her 1st full time job. This crap makes me sick.
Her "boyfriend" has pulled a slick one on her and she is so naive she cannot see the leaves for the trees. He lives in a dump trailer his parents own. No bills for him. I tried to find her today to tell her a bill collector was sending her mail to my house too. What on earth is she thinking?
2007-01-10 09:34:15 · 6 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Your daughter will not change until she is ready to.First she has to accept responsibility for her situation. Unfortunately she will have to hit rock bottom before that happens.You can only be there for her when her whole world crashes and it will crash.If you help her now it will only enable her to continue this self destructive life style. Love her but know you can not take the first step for her,she must do it.
2007-01-10 15:16:18 · answer #1 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to do what she wants unforchantly. I am 24 when I was 18 I moved in with my boyfriend my now husband and thought life was great I got go party every night get away from my mother that was kinda strict for all the right reasons I see now. I did the same thing as your daughter racking up the credit cards not even thinking about my credit. When your young you are blind. Hopefully she will come around give it some time. But you have every right to scare her and tell her bill collectors are calling the house and let her know what can happen if she doesn't pay her bills.
2007-01-10 11:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, everyone is right! She will do what she wants. Of course you are going to worry. Try not to let your every day living revolve around her and how she is. I know its easier said than done. My kids cause me serious anxiety. In 2003 one of children became very ill with a septic hip, months later the other was ran over by a truck. Talking about worrying! Medication!! You cant change the world but believe there are some good meds out there for anxiety. They wont take away all the worries and heartache but it does take the edge off. Believe me. Its worth a try if the anxiety is too overwhelming.
2007-01-11 01:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by misty47586 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is now an adult and you have to let her make her own mistakes. If you start paying her bills she will continue to send them to you. She has to learn the hard way what being an adult in the real world is like. It will be really hard for you to let her go through this but she must learn. Just make sure you have a room for her when she needs to come home to get her life back together
2007-01-10 14:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult. Don't pay her bills, but be there for her when this "relationship" is over.
She might qualify for welfare. That way she'd have her own income.
She did finish high school. That's a plus.
Once she gets sick of being treated badly, she might never go back.
I know you're worried, but now she's an adult, and has to make her own mistakes.
2007-01-10 10:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by mithril 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE CAN'T PAY SO SHE THOUGHT YOU WOULD. GOOD YOUR STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF. I KNOW IT'S ROUGH TO DO BUT IT'LL HELP YOUR DAUGHTER OUT IN THE LONG RUN. HOPE SHE SEE'S THE LIGHT SOON. IT'S BEEN A YEAR FOR A FRIENDS DAUGHTER SO DON'T GIVE UP YET.
2007-01-10 10:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋