My husband has property but it is next to his mom. She keeps on asking us to move up there. But i think that it would be nothing but trouble. I get along fine with her but at times she is flat out nosey so would any of you ever leave next to your inlaws or if you do how is that working out for you?
2007-01-10 07:13:16 · 34 answers · asked by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
HELL NO! The only good thing would be if you have children so you have a ready babysitter but believe me.. it's just not worth it.
2007-01-10 14:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by sassydontpm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best to have some distance. You don't need more conflict than what you already have. Living next door to her would probably invite it. If she's "nosey" by nature, you would get to experience that even more! And that is not going to help your marriage. Having boundaries are key to a healthy marriage and that especially applies to even the most wonderful mother-in-laws! I've heard of a really good book on this subject -it's called, " The Mother-in-law Dance" by Annie Chapman. It's available on eBay if you'd like more info.
2007-01-10 07:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are different so I can only tell you my experience. When my husband and I started looking for our first home, my in-laws owned the house right next to theirs. They had been renting it. They offered to sell it to us at a very good price. My husband loved the idea. His dad had lots of tools and my husband thought it would be very convenient. I was not sure about it. I worried, like you are, that they would get into our business too much. My husband promised me we would live there no more than five years to gain enough equity in the house and then sell it and move to a better house. We bought the house and because of different things that happened, we ended up living there for 18 years. They usually never came over unless invited. And when I started having kids, grandma would babysit. She also babysat when we went out for an evening. That was very convenient. If we went out of town, they watched our house and fed our animals. If I ran out of something like butter, bread, etc., I could always borrow from them. It actually turned out to be positive in a lot more ways than negative. If I were you, I'd give it a try. If things don't turn out so well, move away before it gets ugly.
2007-01-10 07:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends it might be nice if you think about it if you have kids then you have a free babysitter next door and more help around the house. But your inlaws might become quite annoying like butting into your business or trying to raise your kids. Don't let your life turn into everybody loves raymond.
2007-01-10 20:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think so, I lived close to my dad and step-mom before and that wasnt always fun, sometimes they would come without calling. And sometimes we were fighting togther and they were at our door 2 minutes after we were done fighting. But in-laws no. The reason why i like living 3 0minutes away is that they have my daughter sleep over their for a day or 2 every weekend. :)
2007-01-10 07:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by askalotofquestionsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find her nosey, not a good idea at all.
In my case, my in-laws are great and not at all nosey, so I would move to their town. But, they are independent and respect my independence even when we visit each other once or twice a year.
My parents, on the other hand, are nosey and possessive. And I definitely don't want to move to their town unless they need me to take care of them.
2007-01-10 10:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We live on the opposite side of town (about 35,000 people) from my in-laws, and I think that distance is just about right. It's close enough that we can see them for an evening without too much of a hassle, but far enough away they can't just stop by every second they have a whim to see what you're up to.
In my opinion, keep at least a little bit of distance from any relatives.
2007-01-10 07:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Meiju 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not if I could help it!! My brother did and they were as much apart of his marriage as the pillow on the bed, lol! Now me, I don't have a choice. I live near my inlaws. Depending on your relationship, avoid if you can. Since you said they are nosy, avoid it because it will just get worse when they can just "walk in" your front door anytime!!!
2007-01-10 09:52:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be very VERY,easy going to live with inlaws,of course they only want whats best.I have friends who live close to inlaws and they always complain,but really I think they enjoy close family.You just have to set your own rules and live by them,and your inlaws will respect that even if they have there own opinion.Family is everything really.
2007-01-10 07:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. My in-laws just left. They watched my kids for 24 hours. They completely rearranged my entire house while I was gone. I was furious. They live 3 hours away but I have seen them 6 times in one month. I can't stand them and we are looking to move further south.
They live in the same town as my sister n law and they watch her kids while she is working. My sister n law is thinking about putting her kids in day care because my in laws refuse to follow the rules!
Good luck and I hope for your marriage and family sake, you don't move next to them.
2007-01-10 09:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitley would not. We had the opportunity too and decided its a bad, bad idea..:) I get along with my mother in law, but my father in law is VERy controlling. So no I dont think its a good idea.
2007-01-10 07:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋