When I was pregnant, nobody was happy in my husband's family. My mother was happy and the customers I took care of were happy for me, rubbing my belly and asking me a whole bunch of questions. Now that my sister in law is pregnant, my mother in law who is my husband's step mother rubs her belly and tells everyone. I don't get it, My mother in law told my husband that she doesn't like my sister in law. I feel very upset because I was pregnant twice and delivered twice nobody from his family was excited about my pregnancy and nobody came to the hospital. The only people who came to visit me was my husband and the marines. I do feel jealous, I know, but I don't think it's fair. I was depressed both pregnancies because of his family. They love our children, but what about the early days? Am I crazy about this, or should I feel upset.
2007-01-10 10:56:16 · 4 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You have a right to be upset! That's a terrible situation. Have you tried talking to your mother in law? I don't know your situation exactly, but perhaps your mother in law is feeling guilty now? Maybe she sees how she treated you, and then saw how wonderful you've acted toward her (assuming you have acted nicely) and felt guilty, so now she's trying to make up for it. There are endless other possibilities, and I can't name them all, because, as I said, I don't know your situation. I suggest you try talking to her, getting out your feelings. Maybe she will come around and you'll get a good conversation going. If not, if she really just doesn't like you, then just resolve not to let it get to you. That would be a sad outcome, but if that's what it comes down to, remind yourself that you are an amazing person and you deserve happiness and respect, and anyone who won't give it to you isn't worth worrying over. Don't become bitter, though--your children still need their grandma. I sympathize with you! Good luck!
2007-01-10 12:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by indiesky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the N-laws get to you. For whatever reason they treated you unfairly but you can't change it and they will always act the way they did. Just enjoy your kids and exclude them when you can. Be happy for your sisternlaw because it isn't her fault.
Don't be upset. Should you get pregnant again ; Let them be the last ones to know.
2007-01-10 13:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset too. The thing is though there is nothing you can do about it. Try to let it go and make sure you don't make this mistake with future daughter in laws
2007-01-10 13:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blow it off you will be better for it in the long run...my own mother would not lift a finger for me but will do anything for my kids, or my siblings for that matter...........the only one who gets hurt when we get upset is us....and the closest people to us that we love the most.....blow it off
2007-01-10 12:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋