He won't help with anything which makes everything so stressful esp before and after school.
He won't put on/take off shoes/clothes. He's still in night-time pants as cannot be bothered to use the potty next to his bed or the toilet. He could be watching tv and even if he needs the toilet he'll hold on and slightly wet his pants. He takes ages to eat breakfast, get in/out the car. If he was an only child fine but he isn't! He can do all these things.
I am no way expecting him to dress himself fully etc but just a tiny show of effort to do something would be welcome.
Of course he's gorgeous, but he takes all the time in the world! Any advice or is this just lazy boys?
2007-01-10 07:07:57 · 26 answers · asked by Isabelle 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do have two older children and they were not like this at all. So it cannot be just that I'm a rubbish parent can it! Infact my others loved being independent but then they are girls!
2007-01-10 07:27:24 · update #1
He's been dry in the day for ages.
Only night-time.
He's jealous of anyone and wants Mum to himself all the time.
2007-01-10 07:31:49 · update #2
lazy boys!!I have a four year old boy and he was the same(and still is sometimes)sometimes he is very help full and other time he wont get himself dressed with a fight.he is also a very slow eater,and keeps getting down from the table and messing about,no matter how i shout ,he still does it every night.I live in hope that he will get better!
2007-01-11 22:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 year olds are not inclined to help around the house so I don't think he's lazy.
However, he should be able to go to the toilet by now and should be gently discouraged from using the potty and waiting until it's too late to reach the toilet. (lot's of children do this)
limit his TV time and encourage him to take toilet breaks, if goes to the loo praise him, don't reward him as he may revert back too wetting if the rewards stop, praise costs nothing and means everything.
Remember all your children will have their own little personalities, don't expect them to develop at the same rate or behave in the same way. Good luck
2007-01-10 07:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by jane m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep mine's mostly the same!! I don't think he is lazy just gets easily distracked into putting all thought into other more interesting things!! It took mine 40 minutes to eat half a happy meal the other day! It drives me INSANE but there's not much I can do. Try to get him to do the task you have set without any possible distractions, then if you think he has done well you can reward him. I know you would like him to be doing these things without a reward but it may just help you out if there's an incentive. My son has been dry (night & day) for ages, so imagine my shock when he wet himself whilst playing Nintendo DS, his excuse was "I didn't want to get killed on Mario"!!! Where is the logic I ask?
2007-01-12 03:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by sammy27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 6 years old, and even now he is a pain where most of this is concerned...
He takes ages to get in and out of the car, he faffs with everything, you have to tell him 20 times to do the slightest things, he regularly has toilet accidents because he waited too long... I think your son is just normal, you see a difference from your other kids because they are girls! :) Oh apart from the potty training, he really should be out of night time pants by now, although our son is very lazy, he stopped wearing night time pants when he was 3... Hope this helps :)
2007-01-10 09:41:25 · answer #4 · answered by lou lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son would always turn the tv on in the morning before school and then you couldnt get him to do anything,now he must be washed, dressed,breakfast,teeth then if there is time left he can watch a bit of tv, same after school...amazing how quickly he does things now! Toilet thing is more than likely laziness, no treats if he wets, if you still not sure go see health visitor at doctors,they will give you advice.Good luck.
2007-01-10 07:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by 1 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well kids will be lazy and also see what they can get away with.He should be dressing his self lay his cloths out if you must and get him up 10 15 minutes before the normal time you get him up,they have those Dog alarm clocks that bark to wake the child up we have one it is cool.He should not have a potty next to his bed he is 4 he can walk to the bathroom just remind him like on a comercial to go use the bathroom,my kids watch tv but not a whole bunch my son like to play his play station 2.you need to tell him he is a big boy I know he is only 4 but just remhind him he a baby anymore,in moms eyes yes he will always be.
2007-01-10 07:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some kids r jus slower than others dont make him feel like he is being naughty as this will just make him not want to tell u anythin it really does,nt have anything to do with boy or girl my son has jus turned 4 he,s not wet bed in 6 months he can be slow getting dressed but i think he jus rather i do it it what we get used to in life we start expecting does he still tke dummy my son was terrible 4 his dummy now wen he wont act like a big boy he gets told the dummy n the bib r comin back out oh he really does,nt like that .ood luck
2007-01-10 19:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by blonde286021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about trying a task and award chart? Only work on one item at a time such as finishing breakfast on time and promise a small treat, such as a comic or seeing a favourite TV programme if he manages it three times in a row. Once one task is consistent, work on the next. Do not try to work on more than one thing at once as a four year old's concentration is limited and you will just get frustrated.
2007-01-10 07:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by SLH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is exactly the same. He is nearly 4. When he first started learning how to do stuff he was briliant, but in the last 6 months he has got so lazy. He won't get dressed or undressed, if he could, he would get me to feed him!! A lot of mums I have talked to with kids the same age are going through exactly the same thing-boys and girls. I think we have to try and be patient with them and encourage them to do stuff on their own but do it for them if they get too stressed. I'm sure they will grow out of it but at the moment life is too short to get stressed with them!( and things get done quicker)!!!
2007-01-10 08:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by daniel'smum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a four year old boy. I hate to ask but are you giving him enough attention? My son was doing the same thing. With him it ended up being that he needed attention. My sons father and I were going through a lot and my son was trying to cause any and all destractions to keep us from fighting and what not. We ended up spliting up and you should see the change in him. I've had no issues with him waking up motivated and helping me with little things. Regardless try rewarding him for small things see if it helps. Good luck
2007-01-10 07:26:00 · answer #10 · answered by a_sweet_latin_mami 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋