Marriage & Divorce - 11 December 2007

I have a high sex drive and I am ashamed of it...everytime I try to express myself sexually I feel heavy guilt and shame but at the same time my need for sex is so high that I feel tormented inside. When I am engaged in sex I try very hard not to enjoy it as I dont want my desire to get too high and then I can barely control myself.......cause when that happens I end up feeling more ashamed and more gulity and most of all unsatisfied with sex. I dont know whats wrong with me, why my sex drive is so high..........I don't know what to do...........advice anyone?

2007-12-11 04:39:02 · 20 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2

and bikinis I have bought for her!

Is it that wrong that I miss seeing those outfits worn around the house?

2007-12-11 04:23:20 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Say yours was an arranged marriage. N she happens to dislike sex. Like totally.

Be honest, please.

2007-12-11 04:19:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I going to have to convert to Catholicism?

2007-12-11 04:07:59 · 11 answers · asked by MavsMan 2

Assuming the couple doesn't hate each other, of course.

2007-12-11 04:05:02 · 15 answers · asked by Football girl 2

how do I get our son back? I don't know what to do. I want a divorce and I want custody of our son. I would be more than willing to let him have visitation rights but he has taken our child just to hurt me. He is living at his grandmothers now. I know I could win custody in court because he has no drivers licencse because of a DWI and he has no job. He is also an alcoholic and has been verbally and mentally abusive. But what do I do in the mean time? A divorce may take time. How do I get my son now?

2007-12-11 04:04:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I swear if there not on phone there stuffing there mouth with food.

2007-12-11 03:28:12 · 12 answers · asked by YOCRAPSMAN 1

my husband works very hard all day and comes back home complain that he is tired,all l want is for him to rest after a hard days job,so l do every other work in the house,including taking care of our 8 MONTHS OLD BABY,instead of him to rest he will take his dog out to urinate,he is never tired to please his animals,he has a dog and a cat living with us,l dont like living with animals,is annoying,but l have to accept them cos my husband love them,so l told my hubby that people who keep animals most of them dont work,why keep them when you dont even have time for yourelf ,cos l am tired,instead of taking the dog out everyday after work ,why not use the time to help me out with one or two things,l dont sleep at night cos baby eats every 4 HOURS and l dont rest during the day cos l dont have the time and baby dont sleep alot,l am busy doing all the house work,he makes me feel stupid,so l asked him to take out the animals,cos l am tired of working like a slave in my house,

2007-12-11 03:05:24 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have a 3 month old together. But our relationships is going for ok to worse. I feel that i'm always the one looking for him and trying to be close to him. While he just does his own thing. it hurts me because he constantly disrespects me /but he thinks its funny. and It jus hurting my feelings alot. Do i stay strong an make it work. Its so hard i don't know what to do i don't want my son to grow up with out a dad like i did. So I feel like i'm in a catch 22. I feel stuck.

2007-12-11 02:52:02 · 11 answers · asked by Tica 2

2007-12-11 02:50:29 · 14 answers · asked by tooyoung4j 1

2007-12-11 02:49:19 · 12 answers · asked by pinky 5 1

So many questions are of gloom and despair. I just thought that I would spark the reason for thankfulness with us wives that have that special one in our life that just makes life all the worth of living. I work part time, but on my days off I really enjoy doing my domestice duties and waiting for my lover and kids to get home.....Life couldn't be any better!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-11 02:42:19 · 13 answers · asked by kate 3

An idea. Marriage seems rather an aniquated idea these days. What if marriage licenses had to be renewed every X years if the couple was still interested?

If they aren't they go their separate ways without all the divorce legalities. I supposed that oversimplifying things, but it seems like a decent idea for marriages that seemed like a good idea at the time, but don't work out.

2007-12-11 02:39:47 · 22 answers · asked by Joe S 2

When I first met my boyfriend I knew he was separated and six months later he told me his divorce was finalized. Once this occured our relationship progressed however I found out yesterday that he is still legally married... He told me that he couldn't tell me the truth because he didn't want to lose me and that he had been working on the divorce throughout the duration of our relationship. I feel as though it's time to move on and he should have been honest with me from the begining. Any input is appreciated.

2007-12-11 02:28:25 · 28 answers · asked by Brwneydgrl 2

He's been having lengthy phone conversations with female coworkers, and has pretty much been hiding it from me. He's never cheated on me (that I know of), but this is the fourth woman I've "caught" him talking to. He says they're just friends, but he talks to her several times a day, sometimes for more than an hour. Am I being paranoid?

2007-12-11 02:25:17 · 39 answers · asked by paperclip 2

2007-12-11 02:19:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I used to think no you shouldn't. But after a horrible marriage and a religious upbringing I've changed my mind. If you live together for a year you'll find out the problems with no strings attached. It would stop many bad marriages before they start. Just look at the divorce rate now.

2007-12-11 02:18:07 · 21 answers · asked by stevel226 3

My wife is complaining that I do not make enough time for her. In all honesty I don't see how I can squeeze more time out of my day. I don't fish, hunt, play golf or do anything for myself, EVER. I go to work every day and go to the gym (3 days a week). I still arrive home before my wife, when I go to the gym. The rest of my time is spent with my family in some way. On the weekends, I am either with all or some of them the entire time. I do have a son (from a previous marriage) that I spend time with either in conjunction with and/or seperate from my wife. I have altered the things I used to do (not going to ball games, not spending as much time coaching my son's ball teams, not going to the gym on the weekends, neglecting projects that need to be done at home). I attend EVERY one of her daughter's events (whether they are plays, soccer games, PTA nights at school). But, it is never enough. I choose to do these things because my family is what makes me happy. What can I do?

2007-12-11 02:11:30 · 12 answers · asked by salsax 2

My husband is deployed and this is our first deployment. he doesn't come back for another 10 months (in the army). I was just wondering if we were to have sex again, would it hurt again, like the first time? does the hymen grow back? if so, is there any way to resolve this so that when he comes back it won't hurt again? i just need some good answers. Thanks!

2007-12-11 01:57:30 · 12 answers · asked by annoyingchick87 1

On sunday, I was busy with so much work that I didnt get into bed untill 4am. I couldnt wake up the next morning to go back to the routine of getting myself and my daughter ready for work and child care. So, at last minute at 7am, I decided to just stay home. I had already gotten up and started to get ready, but decided against it, so instead of getting back in bed with my husband, I decided to stay on the couch( not to disturb his sleep). At 8am, someone was at my door, they rang once, than twice, therefore I had to get up and when I got to the door, a girl was at my door claiming to be asking for someone whose doesnt live at my home. Red flags flared up. 8AM Wrong Door...okay. I found it odd, and didnt want to think the worst. But seconds later, my husband phone was ringing. Dumb. So naturally, I ck his phone and answered it..hung up. So, I continued to ck his phone overall. And the same person that hung up , is the same person that text, to say, I am here. I waited.

2007-12-11 01:49:25 · 24 answers · asked by SecretsGyrl 2

Actually, they are my husband's aunts and uncles. They always make fun of me because I like hanging out with their kids (who are younger than me by 2-10 years, they are all different ages.) I was never close with my own cousins so I like hanging out with them when we go out to parties and such and so does my husband. The aunts and uncles always have the same boring convos, don't get me wrong, I don't avoid them at all cost, we hang with them too for a bit, then we go and sit with the kids lol. Why is that weird to them, is it because I'm married?

2007-12-11 01:40:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

So...
I told my husband tonight that I wanted to seperate and that I thought it would be best for us if we were apart.Well, at first it went over ok, then **** hit the fan. Needless to say he is not happy about this! He said that I am giving up on him and that he needs my help, and I said that there is nothing for me to do, I have givin him all the help I can, but that the rest is up to him.
The thing is...like I said...I have been with him for 5 years, married almost 3 years. He started anti-depressents about 3 weeks ago, he says they arn't strong enough, that he needs stronger. (he's on effexor 70 MG) But, I have been the brunt of his unhappiness. I have been screamed at, have things thrown at me while Im holding the baby, been called names, he's left all weekend to play "video games" at his friends house, he doesn't take his pill on the weekend so he can drink, he's threated to "pound my face into the wall", "smash the cell phone through my face", "i'm being a c***!"

2007-12-11 01:37:15 · 32 answers · asked by lesliebedford623 1

2007-12-11 01:32:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

some people doesn't want to have S in their marriage?is that possible?

2007-12-11 01:31:03 · 27 answers · asked by truth set free 1

ok last night my husband was talking in his sleep and called out one of his ex's names. he was having a sexual dream. also said ya baby thats so good. this isn't the first time this has happened and i've tried not to let it get to me but i just had a baby three weeks ago and am very emotional am i over reacting being upset with him. i asked him about it this morning and hes like everyone dreams like that but not once have i dreamed about one of my ex's like that at least that i remember. when he has them he tells them to me in full detail and doesn't think it should upset me, but in a way it feels like he is almost cheating.like i said i don't know how i am not supposed to be upset i don't want to overreact but it is very very hurtful that he dreams of sex with his ex and is vocal about it when we have sex he hardly makes a sound!so i'd love some insight or to hear if it happens to anyone else please if you can't say something helpful don't say anything i'm having a hard enough time

2007-12-11 01:24:41 · 17 answers · asked by missy p 4

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and having major problems with my fiance, he's nigerian, 28 I'm british, 36. He's never shown any interest in my pregnancy, even though 've been in and out of hospital with high blood pressure, I'm being induced in 3 weeks. He refuses to tell his family about me as he says they would disown him and he risks his mum stopping paying his study fees. He goes out with his mates and never takes me. He expects me to do all housework and moans if house is not clean. He told me he would only move in house if I moved to bigger place, i did he moved in great at first and then he starts just going out all time and when with me is cold and uncaring. We row and he then tells me he has got another place, just in case I throw him out. We were supposed to get married in August but don't think so now, he's told me he doesn't think i'm suitable for a wife as I'm self centred, selfish, and I am not the best looking girl or best girl he has ever been out with. He also cheated on me

2007-12-11 01:24:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been friends with this man for 3 yrs, and he lives with someone & so do I. He's friends with my partner also. He had been coming over our house for about a yr before I let him know that I had developed feelings for him. He is very closed-up, and doesn't share much of anything emotionally. After I shared my feelings, he just still continued to come over but never talks about it. I was upset with him a couple of weeks ago, and finally let him know how I don't understand him, and he stated that he has always be closed up, and he has to take care of his partner because she is not well right now. When I brought up me telling him my feelings for him, he just stated that I was making him nervous. What do you make of this? I'm very confused as to whether he has feelings for me or not? I know that it's a bad situation to be in, but I'm in it, and I need some good advice as what I should do? Thank you!

2007-12-11 01:22:07 · 7 answers · asked by liza7 1

Before getting married to my last wife, Regina, I had reservations about her daughter, Chloe. She was 15, attractive, and had quite the little attitude about her. As an older man with no experience with children, I wasn't so sure I could handle her. They both convinced me otherwise and we finally got married. Things between Chloe and me went great. We got along wonderfully, however, I can't say the same about her mom. We fought and fought, and after four long years, we called it quits. The divorce has just been finalized. I tried to move on by seeing other women but something was missing, I longed for something, but I wasn't sure just what.
Yesterday I heard a knock at the door. I opened it up to find Chloe, crying that she missed me. I felt very proud, untill she started talking about how we can be together now that her mom was out of the picture. She tried to kiss me (with tongue) and tonight she wants to spend the night. I don't know what to do. She is very (continues below)

2007-12-11 01:21:13 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was married twice and my first wife had a selfish kind of narcissistic mother. she hated her mother because her mother had an affair on her father and proclaimed that she wasn't like her at all. guess what happened? she had an affair on me. second wife was a very sweet woman to the outside world. everybody seemed to love her.then behind closed doors she was horrid. yelling, screaming, obscenities. then after marriage i found out her own mother had horrid issues. her and her whole immediate family shouted at each other, made up, acted like you could do anything to the people you love and they were suppose to just forgive you. her mother had serious control issues and was very emotionally manipulative and very abusive. i came to find out after my second wife used to trash her mother, she was the same way. i tried to help but she just couldn't change. in your experience is it true that apples don't ever fall very far from the tree as far as spouses and their parents are concerned? And if the spouse was different than the parents, how did that happen? Did they finally have to realize that they had to cut all ties to their immediate family (which is almost impossible but some have done it to preserve their marriage and break their family cycle). However I haven’t seen it done.

2007-12-11 01:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by survivor 1

My wife and I have been together for 8 years but only been married for 1 yr. We have been separated for the last 3 months. We had arguments but it was like other married couples. No cheating or physical abuse. Anyhow 3months ago we got into a heated argument and then took off and stayed at her sister's house. A week after that, she told me that she wants a divorce b/c she is "fed-up". I requested that we go to MC and she refused. Fast-forward 3 months and she noticed that I am going to therapy on my own. Now she wants to go to MC with me but the catch is she's only going to go to help me and that she still wants a divorce. I told her that if it's just for me and not for US, then don't worry about going. She said that she still cares about me and still wants to go. I am a little confused to why she wants to go to MC with me if she is stuck on divorcing me. Also, why all the sudden the change of heart? Is she having doubts about the divorce and her pride is getting in the way?

2007-12-11 01:14:37 · 18 answers · asked by DMa 1