Marriage & Divorce - 11 December 2007

I am out of ideas :(
He is into fitness & quality things & is 28
:)
Thanks

2007-12-11 11:39:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i tried to keep it from him, but somehow he found out.

this is a guy who was quite abusive, & controlling
and VERY sneaky & underhanded about it--never any marks, never any evidence....

i'm scared... i don't know what he's capable of--but i do know that when i asked for a divorce he basically kept me prisoner for over a week & it was * h e l l *... and it only ended because he then decided to try & kill himself in my car & i plugged in a spare phone while he was busy & called the police. when they got there they took him down & took him to a 'mental health facility' for a bit...

i have no evidence of any abuse. ever.
i'm remarried, just bought a house, and am 29 weeks pregnant. i'm very apprehensive about him knowing where i live... esp being so vulnerably pregnant... and my husband is LIVID...

what can i do??

2007-12-11 11:37:52 · 21 answers · asked by Ember Halo 6

I mean everybody. Even married people. I'm not saying it's wrong or weird. I'm not tyring to be immature. This might be a weird Q but it just popped in my mind so i figured i'd ask.

2007-12-11 11:32:50 · 24 answers · asked by ipod 3

I am a newlywed and I really want to stay out of the "doghouse".

2007-12-11 11:26:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I (20years, a model and soon a uni graduate) have been dating this guy (24 years) that has two kids, and to tell you the truth isn't that good looking at all. But I have fallen deeply in love with him and the two girls. I have met all of his family and stay over his place all the time over weekends. My family would have never imagined me to go for somebody with kids and are very disappointed in me. They said they would never approve of him and would never want to meet him. I love and respect my parents and family dearly, but on the other hand I am so in love with him.

My dad is crazy!! And he still doesn't really know but has a fair idea about it. He said if I am dating this guy (which I denied), he would go around there and bash the f*&# out of him!! My brothers and uncles want to go round and "half kill him". They say he is only going to get me pregnant and leave me, but i know him and he is a beautiful person!!

I feel I am hurting my family because of my love for this man!

2007-12-11 10:46:46 · 9 answers · asked by Mandy B 1

why dont men in their 20's and early 30's dont want relationships? Ive been single for about 9 months and every men that I have come a cross is not looking for a serious relationship, they just want to date and mess around.

What's going on???

2007-12-11 10:31:46 · 16 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4

Is there anyway to tell if a program has been loaded onto your computer to track the sites you've visited, emails sent, passwords entered etc?

I believe I already have a security device called Trend Micro PC cillin Internet Security on my computer. I think my husband might have put something on the computer to monitor me, but I don't know how to tell for sure.

2007-12-11 10:27:36 · 9 answers · asked by candy'sroom 3

my husband and i have been married for 2 1/2 years we have 2 beautiful children. 19month old boy and 4 month old girl. Ever since we have been together my husband has found little ways too lie to me and i just cant understand why he does this. First it was too impress me, he lied to me bout material things that he didnt have, then it was bout financial things, now he just bough a snow machine and he told me that in the price he paid he got 2 helmets and 2 jackets. So that was cool i was pretty impressed. 3 days later i found out he had paided 350$ for the 4 items.plus the price of the sled. Ok im getting pissed. then just this evening i found out that he had to pay another 150$ for one of the jakets that he never told me bout. So i ask him why did you lie and he said.. ooh well i didnt lie i just kept it from you cuzi didnt want you too think it was too much. we've had all these items for a week now and hes kept this from me. what do you think??

2007-12-11 10:26:46 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I might be losing my job. Part of me doesn't want to tell my husband because if it turns out I don't lose my job, then he would have been all worried for nothing. But another part of me thinks I should give him some warning in advance so he doesn't come home one day to the news I was fired and be completely floored. What should do?

2007-12-11 10:14:39 · 23 answers · asked by your_dear_old_mother 5

Two hypothetical people have been dating for quite some time. Both are virgins, disease-free. Both are committed to each other even if a child were to be conceived, both are heavily against abortion and heavily for a family united. Both feel that God wants sex to be between two committed partners, not necessarily marriage. They have verses to back this up. If proper protection is used as well, what else is left? Is there any reason not to?

2007-12-11 10:13:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous 1

My husband and I separated a year ago, but our 3 yr anniversary is coming up right after Christmas. I am dating an amazing man, right now but I recently talked to my husband and he wants to work things out which I have wanted to since we split. Im not real sure about what I should do because I know for sure I wont be able to love anyone while im still in love with my husband.

2007-12-11 10:12:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-11 10:01:18 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

This question was posted a few months ago, I came across it just surfing the question board. Has anybody considered that anybody with this issue that has other issues to contend with such as mental illness, mental impairments and/or childhood abuses which have carried on into later in life? People far too often hold onto a "if the world around me doesn't conform to my beliefs then it is wrong" attitude. Instead of calling on a county or city to force someone to clean up, causing more problems, how about taking a look inside yourself and your own 'backyard'? I live next to a 'family' that has demonstrated physical abuse to each other, allowed kids to drink/drug, the older people drink/drug themselves as well, and all abuse neighborly boundaries, but heaven help all others that don't have a pristine home and lawn. Outward perfection doesn't always mean "clean". The person you think is a material mess outwardly could be the most beautiful person inside that you'd like to admire.

2007-12-11 10:01:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last Sunday when everyone was in church wife and I were laying on our bed cuddling each other. We're newly weds. She goes "what are you plans for today?"
I go, "I want us to go shopping for you, pick out a pretty dress and and some sexy lingerie, have lunch some place nice, come back home, you have a quiet afternoon nap and I'll cook us a good dinner, we'll have a nice romantic dinner together, and then I'll give you a sensual massage. Then I want you to put on that dress that we'll buy and make yourself real pretty and then I want to take it all off and eff you senseless."
She looked pretty excited about everything up until the very end. And then she says "you asshole" and then pretty much our whole day was ruined and we've barely talked since. Where did I go wrong? Was it really the end? She won't talk about it so I don't know. I need some pointers.

2007-12-11 09:54:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

and he has a major anger problem. His excuse for smoking was for recreation but, also that it helped control his anger. He has physically abused me about 4 different times in the 1 year that we have been married (not because of no longer smoking pot). Everytime he has tried to quit smoking in the past, he has had major mood swings to where he stays angry. He has only been able to quit smoking for 2 days straight in the past. I'm a little nervous about him abusing me again and more so than before if he does quit smoking. Does anyone think that the abuse could start again since he has quit? Has anyone ever been through abuse because of their significant other's drug withdrawal?

2007-12-11 09:39:49 · 27 answers · asked by Dsoftball 1

my mom has been very mean and i want to know if there is a way to do this without going though alot of problemsim also only 13

2007-12-11 09:35:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my ex's best friend have good chemistry. We went out on few dates, and now he asked me to be his gf. I am kinda worried, maybe it's gonna hurt my ex. But Bff says he likes me, and i like him too. I'm the one who left my ex. Is going out with his Bff gonna hurt him?

2007-12-11 08:55:31 · 6 answers · asked by smile 2

I can't go to any of the 6 bars in this small town without getting glares from people, the bartenders are especially hateful to me. He cheated throughout our marriage and he's very abusive. He's very sweet in public and plays the victim very well. He's told people that I was an abusive alcoholic, which is total crap. He's the one that knocked me around. He's accused me of being a crackhead, which I've NEVER done. He's the crackhead, picks his arms & seems to know the crackhead's quite well. He said that he would tell everyone that I tried to give his dad (74) bj's. OMG! People believe him. I don't know them, but they sure seem to know who I am. This guy blabs like you've never seen, he's a very gifted liar. His version of stories actually sound better than the truth, it's freaky. I've been private about all that happened and rarely go out, but when I do it's like I'm going to get beat up. I can't move rt. now so how do I clear up this mess?

2007-12-11 08:52:20 · 14 answers · asked by Horserider75 4

.. a reasonable time, can the other mate RE-File.

2007-12-11 08:49:25 · 1 answers · asked by Teresa C 2

a particular sex favor from her, which would you choose?

2007-12-11 08:46:06 · 14 answers · asked by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5

Men, do you wish (or already make) the woman in your relationship take charge, be the provider, have the better paying more stable job, go to work when she's sick, AND be the full time mother, take care of you when your sick, and wait on you hand and foot? OR do you want her to be the "weaker" in the relationship.. to care for her, provide for her, support her so that she can focus on being a good wife and mother?

I'm just curious about other relationships out there. My husband and I have been married for 11 years and most of it has been wonderful. When we got married he believed that the woman's only place was at home caring for the kids. (But that she could work part time if she REALLY WANTED to.) After 11 years it has come full circle to a situation much like the first half of my question. I don't want to be treated as a "lowly" woman who can't do anything more than care for the kids, but I also don't want to be the sole provider and care giver for this family of ours. Opinions?

2007-12-11 08:45:14 · 18 answers · asked by hotmamaof3_1 4

My husband and I are both 22 years old. We've been married for 3.5 years. He is in the military. I dropped out of my University school in 2004 to join him in his duty station. Now 3.5 years later he is nearing his military discharge. He is going to Iraq 1 more time in Feb and I am moving back to my hometown. I got re-amitted to the University that I dropped out of and will attend the Spring 08 semester.
HERE IS THE PROBLEM:
My husband convinced me to get off of birth control about a month ago because he is concerned about the long term affects. Well, this month I had a pregnancy scare because I was late on my cycle. I got my cycle and decided to get back on the pill. When I told my husband that I got back on the pill he flipped. Basically, he wants to wing it and if I get pregnant I get pregnant. He refuses to use a condom.
Isn't that selfish of him? Or is it me?

I mean, I am going back to the University and he is leaving to Iraq in Feb.

2007-12-11 08:37:12 · 34 answers · asked by Bella 3

My husband refuses to try or to talk to me about our problems. I am tired of doing it all on my own. When do I stop and say Divorce? How long to I give it my all? We dont have sex, we dont talk, he told me he doesnt care about my feelings.. What more do I wait for? What holds me back is our kids. I could easily stay married to him, never argue or fight ( if I just went with the flow) but it would be killing me inside to live with him and believe that he doesn't love me. When do I stop trying? Do I tell him? I have begged him to work this out with me..What do I do? And for how long? I asked him if we should split for awhile, he said sure and told me to wake up the kids and leave..rather than him leaving..so seperation wouldnt work, he has somewhere to go , we dont. What do I do?

2007-12-11 08:31:12 · 15 answers · asked by loladoreen 3

My husband and I have different views when it comes to having children. I want 2 and he wants 0. What bothers me though is that he was married before and she had a child (not his, by another guy) and he loved that kid to death. He still has pictures and talks about him at times. It bothers me that he loved someone else's child so much, yet doesnt want to have one with me? After long long loooong talks we've come to an agreement of basicaly, if it happens... it happens. We pull out, not going to any extremes to have them or not to have them. If we are meant to have children, we will. But I am still bothered at the fact that he loved that other child so much, yet doesnt want to have one now. Im not sure if its not wanting to have one with me.. or that he misses that other one so much he doesnt want to do that again. Should I be worried that if we do have kids, he wont feel the same towards them?

2007-12-11 08:30:40 · 15 answers · asked by Mrs. N™ 5

rent-- which never pans out. Our dog eats everything in site and is a pain. The landlord doesn't fix anything. What should I do?

2007-12-11 08:19:03 · 6 answers · asked by bridawk20 1

if so, why or why not?

2007-12-11 08:17:25 · 22 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4

Me and my boyfriend were together for 4 years. I loved him but he got another girl pregnant and we are still friends but he claims he still loves me. I just don't think he's being fair to do what he done and think I should stick around. I believe in second chances but we really have no future together anymore. I just wonder why I want stop letting him into my life. I wanna get over being his friend too because I now he dosen't want thigns this way and he want let it go. How do I tell my friend that it's time for a change and he needs to grow up?

2007-12-11 08:16:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

If not, what changed your mind?

2007-12-11 08:15:39 · 17 answers · asked by JuDyLicious 3

My wife is au natural and i am nicely taken care of with a trimmer.

2007-12-11 08:15:38 · 16 answers · asked by redstake69 3

they can't find men of their own? are they trying to be in competition with the wives or what? that's so pathetic...

2007-12-11 08:02:42 · 33 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4