If there was a possibility that you might lose your job, would you tell your spouse before hand?

Question

I might be losing my job. Part of me doesn't want to tell my husband because if it turns out I don't lose my job, then he would have been all worried for nothing. But another part of me thinks I should give him some warning in advance so he doesn't come home one day to the news I was fired and be completely floored. What should do?

Answer 1

Absolutely!

As a married couple you each have a responsibility to support the other - both emotionally and financially. You may need both if your suspicions are well founded.

Marriages must be built on trust. Share the bad and the good equally and as soon as you know them and you will make your marriage stronger.

Answer 2

I would tell my spouse so we could start working out together a plan for what to do if that does occur...get prepared. If it doesn't happen, bonus plan! If it does, then it's not a shock to him and I'll know I've already got him on my side and we've got a plan on how to budget and move forward until I get another job.

Lack of communication is a key element in the demise of relationships. I don't think you telling him you might lose your job would cause worry so much as help you both evaluate where you are financially and how to be prepared should either of you lose your jobs or become unable to work for any reason.

Answer 3

I think I would simply make a nice dinner, create a calm atmosphere, a little background music, candlelight (heck, I did this all throughout my marriage during winter for my beloved...) Eat dinner and near the end, gently mention that things are a little shaky at work, you don't know what's going to happen, but you feel your job may be in jeopardy. Then see what he says...

I guess the bigger question to me, is why are you clearly, afraid to talk to him about this life reality? -Does he have a bad temper? Is he emotionally upset easily...I think that is the LARGER picture when "push comes to shove" and crisises occur in marriage, that you should be concerned with. That said, I've been right where you are, as has my husband - we understand and "get" that the working world is full of changes, and mostly not so good these days. We both have always had to work to survive, no wealth in our familes...and hard as it has been, we've supported one another and made it through the "rain".

If you two love one another above all else, you should be able to weather this pending crisis...Now if you're living way above your means? -You should both be VERY concerned, slow down and stop spending and try harder to live CLOSER within your means.

I wish you luck dear...I truly do.

Grace

Answer 4

I would tell him. A problem shared is a problem halved and it would be better for him to know there is a chance that it could happen than to be utterly gob smacked if it does occur. This way you can both try and prepare for it if it does happen. Husbands and wives should really be honest with eachother. After all the vows did say, through better and worse, richer and poorer.

Besides if he finds out later that you knew you might get fired, he may understand that you didn't want to worry him but he may also be hurt that you felt you couldn't tell him.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

Just let him know that there is a chance you might get fired or layed off. Don't leave him in the dark then have him stress. So be mature about it and tell him its better for you. But try finding another job so you wont feel as bad.

Answer 6

give him hints like you don't like your job and tell him that yoou are looking for another one and start looking... I was in the same situation and said to him I think they are going to fire me so I am job hunting as of tomorrow and he was really supportive when I came home at the end of that week fired it took me a while to get another job though and that was the hardest part.. good luck I think you should tell him that you THINK you might be fired but are not sure and are looking for more jobs

Answer 7

I say tell, if you don't tell and he ask how long you have known you might get let go....... you will either have to lie or tell the truth, if you tell the truth, he's gonna be a touch upset. Another reason to tell is...... you and he might need to have some cut back plans. Like drop the cable or cell phones or not go out to eat as much as start saving money. Good luck

Answer 8

I would def tell b4 hand...... aside from the heads up. ure spouse may be able to give advice as to how to save ure job or most importantly comfort u in how to deal with the situation and or look 4 other jobs. plus if ure spouse realizes u knew b4 hand and didn't share the info he may think ure always hiding things and be frustrated at the fact that u didn't allow him time to be able to help u out..

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Be honest with him. Let him know there is a chance they will be letting you go, but you are not certain yet. He deserves to know and he would be more upset to find out you kept it from him.

Meantime...get that resume going and show him you are on top of the situation... that will help alleviate any added stress the situation might cause!