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This question was posted a few months ago, I came across it just surfing the question board. Has anybody considered that anybody with this issue that has other issues to contend with such as mental illness, mental impairments and/or childhood abuses which have carried on into later in life? People far too often hold onto a "if the world around me doesn't conform to my beliefs then it is wrong" attitude. Instead of calling on a county or city to force someone to clean up, causing more problems, how about taking a look inside yourself and your own 'backyard'? I live next to a 'family' that has demonstrated physical abuse to each other, allowed kids to drink/drug, the older people drink/drug themselves as well, and all abuse neighborly boundaries, but heaven help all others that don't have a pristine home and lawn. Outward perfection doesn't always mean "clean". The person you think is a material mess outwardly could be the most beautiful person inside that you'd like to admire.

2007-12-11 10:01:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

to enn: my question is essentially, do others agree?

to mynx: thank you for your perspective, in an area such as yours the danger is indeed quite apparent.

and to free_angel: good Heavens how you got your reaction to my post is baffling. I certainly am not approving of gies, and abusive people. What I am saying is that I live next to people such as these, and yet they think they have the right to try and force their lie of perfection on those surrounding them. We work our arses off every day and try to treat others with respect whether we like them or not. They do not. So, question for you; in keeping with a spiritual nature, how would you handle things thrown in your yard and at your house, trespassing, and complaints that your yard isn't perfect for their view?

To all others: if you have a partner who keeps a disorganized life, and can not take medication because of the nature of his work being dangerous without the distraction of meds, advice on how to help?

2007-12-11 13:46:26 · update #1

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I do understand where you are coming from but to play devil's advocate I think that just because someone has a mental illness doesn't mean that nothing should be done about it and they should be able to just continue on their journey. Obviously if your partner is unwell and one of the side effects of his/her being unwell is being a bit of a clutter bug then it can effect everyone in the family. My father hasn't got a mental illness and is a lovely person however he also collects junk and keeps it in his back yard. It drives my mother crazy. She has tried to help but again he gets annoyed because he wants it put away in a certain way. My mother's main problem with it is that it starts to build up on the back veranda and it gets tripped over and there are snakes in our area, living in a country region in Australia, so it presents a real danger for the children when they go to play as well as a real danger for themselves. Now my father wants to get it organized but lacks the time and motivation to get it done. I have tried to help but I have 4 children and don't have much time myself after looking after my own responsibilities.

So you are quite right in saying that just because someone doesn't have a tidy house and yard doesn't mean they are a great person and as you have also pointed out that sometimes an untidy yard is an indication of an untidy mind, sometimes an untidy house and yard can be a danger. Sometimes there is more to a situation than meets the eye.

2007-12-11 10:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 0 0

So what you're saying is that you admire violent abusive druggies and drunakards that feed their minor children alcohol because they keep a clean yard.
Whatever floats your boat...

2007-12-11 18:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I'm not sure what you are trying to get at.
You essntially answered your own question, what do you want from us? A simple "yes, I agree," or "no, I don't agree"?
What exactly is your question for us out here???

2007-12-11 18:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by enn 6 · 1 0

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