My husband and I separated a year ago, but our 3 yr anniversary is coming up right after Christmas. I am dating an amazing man, right now but I recently talked to my husband and he wants to work things out which I have wanted to since we split. Im not real sure about what I should do because I know for sure I wont be able to love anyone while im still in love with my husband.
2007-12-11 10:12:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Number one you shouldn't be seeing anyone else since you are STILL married, basically you are playing both your husband as well as this other guy by doing so. You should wait until YOU decide what it is you want and then follow through with either getting back with your husband or getting a divorce.
2007-12-11 13:40:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you jumped into marriage without knowing the facts about your husband. It sounds like he has a serious problem. This did not start after you married him, but he is more than likely been doing this for a long time and you are just finding out about it. It is so important to take the time to know the person before getting married to avoid this. He is a lier and he is going to cheat on you with whoever he can with. I would not care how much he cried just to get you to take him back. Phony tears are not worth your heartache and pain that he is causing you. I would recommend you pray and seek guidance from church or pastor. You two may be able to do marriage counseling. Prayer is the answer, let God guide you. But I will tell you your marriage is going to be a waste of time and energy and full of hurt if he does not change his life around. He will only continue to hurt you over and over. If he is on the internet all the time on those types of sites its because he is hunting, looking for women. He should be focusing on you and the marriage.
2016-05-23 03:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by lavera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're right...if you're still in love with your husband, and truly, he you - then you should date. IF, however, you're doing it because you feel its the "right" thing to do with love not being the basis? -THEN DON'T DO IT.
Are your issues workable? Is it a two-way street? You need to ask yourself these questions. Because if he was a verbal/physical abuser or has a gambling addiction or any other kind - I would not go back to him, no matter how much I loved him. I might date him...but WOULD NOT remarry UNTIL he's "clean" in whatever respect he might need to be.
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-12-11 10:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your last sentence answered your own question. You said you wouldn't experience love like you did with your husband and he obviously wants to try to work it out again. You both want it so go for it! Just remember it takes a lot of hard work and dedication don't give up!
2007-12-11 10:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any kind words for you.......
First off, you were separated but still in love with your husband, and have always wanted to reconcile with him.
Full well knowing that, you should never have started to date anyone!
I hope this beau of yours finds out and kicks you to the curb like yesterday's garbage.
2007-12-11 10:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And yet you are dating. And yet you feel torn enough to ask this question here. It seems to me that you do not love your husband... enough.
I say leave your poor husband alone and save him from the greater pain you will undoubtedly inflict upon him in the future if you stay with him.
2007-12-11 10:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband all the wonderful and fantastic things about your amazing b/f and then ask him does he still want to get back together with you?
2007-12-11 10:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then why are you dating someone else if you still love your husband? Sounds like to me, that you don't love him; otherwise you wouldn't be dating somebody else.
2007-12-11 10:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by CatNip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the husband, he'll just screw up again. He's just jealous that you found a super guy, and he wants to break you up, and then dump you again, and make life miserable for you.
2007-12-11 10:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it a shot. That's all you can do if you still love him.
2007-12-11 10:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by homeslice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋