Marriage & Divorce - 15 December 2007

cos he obviously has better things to do than see them. when he does its a quick trip to mcdonalds before he rushes back to his seedy little life of alcohol........should i stop him seeing them altogether >???

2007-12-15 23:47:15 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

THEY ARE LATE TEENS, AND REALLY QUESTION THE IDEA OF LOVE, VALUES OF MARRIAGE, AND WHAT IT REALLY MEANS TO STAY WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND HONOR VOWS. I FEEL WHAT I SAY LACKS VALIDITY IN THEIR EYES,

2007-12-15 22:39:36 · 13 answers · asked by cam 1

2007-12-15 22:21:04 · 7 answers · asked by affabledude2000 2

He placed a call at 11:20 pm to an erotic massage place. There was about $205.38 withdrawn at 11:53pm. The massage place was about 24 minutes from where he was staying and the massage place has a white-label ATM. He denies going there and just acknowledges he made the call. Should I beleive him ? I am unable to track the ATM where the withdrawal was made.

2007-12-15 21:46:17 · 15 answers · asked by Gogi 1

It quite pitful when I noticed change of behavior to my neighbors daughter. She was growing too fast beyond her age and body language told it all. Her mother had accused a man tempering with her daughter because she did not like the young man (18yrs)befriending her daughter thus the man is in on probation for sexual misconduct. Yet the mother allowed her daughter to flirt with another man almost her dad age because she was having affair with the man's brother behind her husband back. I caught her kissing and her daughter 14yrs is now pregnant, and had dropped out of school. I brought this to her father attention that I did not like his daughter behavior around my kids because she was too fast. Her father turned against me, calling me names, a predator, wanting her daughter etc but my concern was her behavior with her mother which was unusual for her age. My cousin works at the hospital, and my neighbor was there as a patient treated with "ghonoria" and blamed his wife without even.....

2007-12-15 21:02:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

No greencards or anything like that. No arranged marriages. I'm talking about if one or more person is unable to physically have sex but still wants to get married...is it possible to have a lifelong marriage if the other partner agrees to a sexless marriage?

2007-12-15 20:20:54 · 8 answers · asked by Butterfly 1

I am East Indian: Most of my relatives had arranged marriages and they are very happy (contrary to what western society may think).
-Why arrange marriages work out:
1)Both families look for both partners of equal qualifications (eg. education, looks, personal attributes, values, cultures (for compatibility))
2)After extensive research by families, girl/guy meet and discuss many things in order to find compatibility.(if not, then marriage is cancelled)
3)Both partners have had very limited number (or none) X- partners, so their love is much more intense. (Dont tell me that love doesn't lose some of its meaning by having more partners b4 marriage, ofcourse it does and you know that, too).
4)Extensive network of close family/freinds is also involved. This provides support and positive reinforcement to both partners to make their marriage work even at bad times
5)Partners are much more less likely to cheat or simply get 'BORED' out of marriage(as is the case in some ppl in US/Canada)

2007-12-15 20:18:26 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just think its a disgusting lifestyle. I dont understand. I really don't want to judge people. I just don't agree at all. I just don't get it. What do you people think?

2007-12-15 20:14:58 · 10 answers · asked by candyapplesyum! 3

2007-12-15 20:12:12 · 6 answers · asked by Luckily Bewitched 2

This friend of mine is a professional athelete. While he was running he got a hamstring tear. Now, when they took him to the hospital, the doctor confirmed the injury and said he would be out for a month. His wife was standing a little far away, she had her head down and was tapping her foot. Before I left me and her husband realized that she was crying.

Is that normal for a wife to react like that !?!?! I mean, have heard that when you love someone you feel the pain because they are also in pain. It is kind of surprising for me because my gf never cried for me. So could it be that she just loves him a lot?

Or is she worried about his money?

They are married for four months. He is still going to be paid for one month and his expenses are on his club.

2007-12-15 19:47:24 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-15 19:41:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi Iam planning to get married in April 2008,Mumbai.Currently I am staying in UAE.I would like to know whether I can do court marriage before I go for the traditional marriage.If its possible then what are procedures for the same.

Rgds./Sachin

2007-12-15 19:25:35 · 8 answers · asked by sachin m 1

because we just had a really fun night together playing poker, video games and drinking. Then had great sex. He fell asleep. Then his stupid friend called and wants my husband to go have a drink a couple blocks away. Now I would go with him but I have two kids asleep in the other room. Do I have the right to be a little upset when I say I'm sick of always being left alone when he goes to hang out? I also don't care he's going for a drink. We have alcohol. So his two single friends take him away from his family instead of sticking around here. Especially after such a great night. It makes me feel like I'm not enough.
Honestly it's late and I'm still kinda drunk so I'm usually not this pissed but tonight really bugged me. Not sure this is much of a question but should my husband be shocked when he gets the cold shoulder when he gets home?

2007-12-15 18:40:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married, 10 years, two kids, 5 and 7. Reconnected with and old boyfriend from 1988, he is married with a clan of his own. He has told me that his no longer happy in his marriage and has know that for a while, before we reconnected. We have both decided that we do still have deep feelings for each other. He lives about 10 hours away. I don't know what to do. I love my husband but I am not sure if I am "in love with him". He is a great guy, nothing wrong with him. This just sucks and has brought on depression. Please help, any advice would be great. I have no one to trust to talk to about this.

2007-12-15 18:30:26 · 17 answers · asked by Conflicted 1

Ok, well a short bit so for those who don't know the whole story here goes. SHORT STORY:
My son never really forgave me for leaving their dad, finally after many trips to rehab etc. Was told he has bipolar.
He got married... I was not allowed to partake.
Had a baby boy... I was only allowed to see baby only by appointment.
I learnt to live with these things, he was married for less than a yr then had 2 affairs, made one pregnant. Tried to commit suicide. I found out six months later. Now last week he had a breakdown..relapse and I was called in. I simply went and took him to the dr got his meds sorted out. Now he is back on track and tells me to back off.. omg, how do I cope with this child/man he is 24 btw. I am ok with the fact he want to be alone with his new family, but this constant using me...
Thanks for reading.

2007-12-15 18:24:32 · 20 answers · asked by unity 3

I am 28 weeks pregnant and a mother to a 3 year old. On my 4th wedding anniversary my husband bought me flowers and expressed how happy and how much he loved me. He took out to eat and after dinner he dumped me. He told me he was unhappy and he was unsure if he loved me. I am a full time employee working from 230pm to 1030pm, he expected me to be wonder woman. WHY DID HE LEAVE ME? Now am staying at my moms with our son and our unborn child.

2007-12-15 18:11:36 · 8 answers · asked by Smile, ur still breathing! 1

2007-12-15 17:55:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

We're been together as fiancé for 4 years and another 4 years as Husband and Wife we have 1 daughter. He got my virginity when I was 21 years old. He is the type of person un-modern when it comes to a girl.

2004 he went abroad to fulfill our dreams. As far as I can, I do my best as a good wife in all aspect. Even he’s in abroad, there’s a lots of temptations for me was came but I’ve not entertained it.

2007 he invited me here to be with him and to find job as well, finally i found out that he cheated me in his first and second year staying abroad. It hurt really hurts, still I can't believe that he did. The kind of girl that he f--k is what I've never been expected. The trust was gone. Before I trust him a lot and I really respected him more than other guys don't respect their moral but all of a sudden the trust is gone. My work is affected even my physical, mental etc.

And now, he asking for a 1 more chance, and he said he will not repeat it. I’m afraid now to give him a 1 more chance, co’z I’m not trusting him anymore and if he do that again I really sure and promise to my self that I’ll never give him second chance anymore… Broken family if broken family that he’s chosen.

Now,,, the pain is killing me softy… and I don’t have peace of mine, all I can see is what he did to that girl while making love… and they did at the same room that we’re staying right now! What I will do now, give him a chance? I will shift to another apartment to have space? or quit with him back to my own country to be with our daughter.?

Additional info; 3 days passed he admit that

The sex group was happened, my husband co-worker also, roommate and friend name Frank invited him to go out for a bar and Frank invited also his 2 friend, and that husband first meet with this 2 girls. They had fun, they drunk… they went home with this 2 girls… around 3 a.m. the people of the other room is already slept, quite… and that group sex what happened but not exchanging partner one is to one…pair by pair.

After that my husband and that girls become friend, the girl is cooking for his food sometimes, bring DVD’s, bring food for him. My husband gave call credit card, he brought a blouse for her while walking in Mall.

In addition, Jan 2005 he went home for vacation for 1 month to be with us. After 1 month he goes back abroad again, he has 1-day rest before the next day going to work. That is weekdays so, everyone in the house was gone because of work. He’s alone the girl is called him and went to his room, and cheating was happened second time around…

I don’t know what I will do now? I really affected… but he did anything to get my trust back… I love him. But still afraid of what maybe happened next.?

And only animals can do that things even you are influence of alcohol. He’s not taking any drugs… But why he did that kind of sex?

The girl 3 times I’ve meet, but I’m still crying, hurt because I cannot hurt her physically because the Law here. Still I cannot accept what he did!

2007-12-15 17:54:45 · 22 answers · asked by cutie 1

When the topic of "cheating" pops up, it's like a witch hunt! If the lot of you could, you'd be castrating men for cheating. Doesn't sound like love to me.

I would forgive my wife for cheating, and I would hope the same compassion and empathy from her.

Marriage is complicated, people make wrong turns, and we learn to forgive and love on.

What's with all you ladies who are ready to throw away everything you have built just because a mistake, or a distraction?

2007-12-15 17:51:42 · 14 answers · asked by stupidity_of_pride 4

25 weeks pregnant with complications. Partner (not husband - plans to get married in January 09) will not give up his single lifestyle. Out AGAIN tonight with his friends, at least 8 hours. These two friends have no respect for me and are complete jerks (make up lies to try and separate us, alcoholics, make a point not to invite me out, etc.) It hurts so bad that he won't stand up for me and chooses them over me. He just popped in a half hour ago to let me know that he was now done golf and going to the pub but was out cuz the boys were with him... I told him not to bother coming back and don't say I love you because it hold no merit when he treats me this way. He left me a note on the bed saying "I love you beautiful, I will sleep in the spare room." I wrote him a letter and taped it to the door, letting him know that he was not welcome here tonight and that he better make some choices fast. On the inside, I went on to explain the stress and hurt he causes and how I won't have

2007-12-15 17:48:15 · 9 answers · asked by Betty 4

My hubby is a good man for the most part. But yesterday we got in a fight and he slammed his fist through our office door at home. He punched the door several times, causing himself to get cuts. My hubby's father was physically abusive.My hubby has never hit me but I am afraid that one day he may. Just because his father was an abuser does that mean my husband will turn abusive? Where do I go from here?

2007-12-15 16:43:01 · 17 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4

My boyfriend has been married once and has 5 children. I have never been married nor do I have children. I want those things in my life but he doenst want to re-marry or more children.

Should I sacrifice having children and marriage because i love him?

2007-12-15 16:26:01 · 47 answers · asked by Chrissy 1

that I'm not aware of in my marriage. For instance, this evening as we were getting ready to eat dinner (in front of the tv...nothing formal) my mom called on my cell phone. We chatted for about 10 minutes and when I went back to the table, my husband seemed irritated. He told me that he wasn't mad, but that he thought I should have told her to call back since we were eating. I didn't think it was a huge deal, but his comment made me feel bad. Also, last week we went on a trip to NYC with some friends. It was very cold and we were waiting outside for someone to take a picture, so we stopped in front of a store. Everyone was looking at the windows...so I said to my husband (in a sarcastic tone) "you know, we can go inside!" since it was freezing. He literally didn't speak to me for and hour or so, and when he did he said that I was being a jerk for saying that. We are usually very jokey with each other, and I explained that I was kidding, but he didn't believe me. I guess the

2007-12-15 16:11:56 · 7 answers · asked by LAB03 2

25 weeks pregnant and not feeling well. Stayed out til 3:00am for spouses Christmas party, and up early this morning for Christmas shopping. Complications with child (excess fluid around the heart).

Partner feels he shouldn't have to give up his old lifestyle. Has been out every weekend for drinks with the guys for the past month/two months. His friends are jerks to me (spread lies to try and break us up, never invite me out, etc.). Partner still plays hockey, takes guitar lessons, and works different hours than me at times, so usually we have a couple nights a week to see each other, this week only one. He always says "I am doing what I want to do."

My problem? I have given up everything for this child and am often stuck at home alone. I feel like I have no support system and am crushed. I always dreamed of building a stronger relationship with my partner, especially with a child on the way, but he insists on living his own life. It's killing me and I want to leave

2007-12-15 16:04:51 · 17 answers · asked by Betty 4

2007-12-15 16:00:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years now. We have a beautiful 3 month old daughter and have talked about marraige. I thought we were ready especially after i gave birth but now i'm not so sure. he refuses to change a dirty daiper or wash dishes. he gets upset when i ask him to do a simple thing for me like make her a bottle while i bathe her. he complains and curses. he goes out every weekend to drink with his friends and a few nights during the week. he knows what bills are coming up and he refuses to save money for them and pay it. i started working a couple of weeks ago and things just seem to get worse. i tried talking to him numerous times reminding him that he has a family now but all he does is get angry and says that he works all week and deserves to go out when he wants. last week we were soupposed to go out together. the day of he tells me its his friends birthday and its an all guy thing. he said he would make it up to me tonight but he is with those same guys.

2007-12-15 15:54:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I asked a question on here a few hours ago, saying I do not ever want to get married but just want a lifetime partner. Some answers were encouraging, but others basically said that all girls want to get married and I will be alone forever. I just want a life partner, is that so hard to achieve? I know a happy couple who live that way.

2007-12-15 15:43:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-15 15:07:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not sick very often, and usually keep it to myself when I am. However, I have pneumonia and pluracy (sp?) and sometimes when I have sharp pains in my ribs and back I can't help but to make a noise. When I do, she flies out of the room and accuses me of being dramatic.

2007-12-15 15:00:03 · 13 answers · asked by Billy Shat 7

hi, i need some advice. i will marry a morocco man, but if i did not convert to muslim, is it possible? if i did not register under malaysian law, what is the effect to my marriage and children?
i am a malaysian chinese. is it a neccessary for a non muslim to change name when convert to muslim?
hope that i can get some advice here, thank you.

2007-12-15 14:57:35 · 6 answers · asked by feunhwa1121 1