I asked a question on here a few hours ago, saying I do not ever want to get married but just want a lifetime partner. Some answers were encouraging, but others basically said that all girls want to get married and I will be alone forever. I just want a life partner, is that so hard to achieve? I know a happy couple who live that way.
2007-12-15 15:43:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're right and I'm one of those people who lumped ALL women into one category. I apologize, there are some women who would be willing to commit to a partnership instead of marriage. I just believe that you have a better chance of finding that quality in a divorced woman. I hope you can, and I was not trying to be critical, although I read the answer and it did seem pretty bit--y. So to clarify and retract I would like to say that "to each his own" if you meet a girl and you love each other, a ring and piece of paper shouldn't and probably won't matter. Good Luck to you!:)
2007-12-15 16:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that so hard to find---a life partner? If you don't wish to ever be a parent, probably not very difficult.... maybe.. And you should decide that. Because, tho it isn't what it once was, kids are still regarded as bastards when their parent are not married, and there are problems that they have in school. And, you as well should know, that after 8 years of co-habitation, it is as if you were indeed married should your union fall apart. That person gets half of your estate, (or you get half of hers) unless you (and she) decide otherwise.
I suspect, however, that unless your aversion to marriage is told up front to any lady you hope to attract, yes, you might just be alone for your life, and that may not necessarily be a bad thing. Even the most liberal of women like the idea of marriage.... it rather states to the world that "we are a team--- it is the two of us against the world." It is as well a commitment that This Is The One I Truly Love... not just for today, but for the rest of it.
If you were in your 50's or 60's or so, I'd say, marriage is probably less important to a lady, particularly if she had been married already once before.... In fact, many wouldn't wish to even live with you, just be your life partner.... spends weeks together, travel together, but perhaps not share a house. We do indeed get set in our ways, as do older men.
So I would say if you do not wish to marry, at least be sure that that is understood very well by any lady you begin to favor..
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2007-12-15 23:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage for alot of women equals security. A legal knowing that you cannot walk away from the commitment we share without certian ramifications. Marriage helps women accept the trust that our men offer us, if you are willing to stand before family and friends, spend money on the special day, etc...then we feel that you have made a real emotional and financial investment in our future and that is very comforting to know. To know that you just can't bail out when the going gets tough-legally, i'll have that in a marriage. Marriage is a business contract coupled with love, simply put and a savy business person is not going to invest a great deal of resources in a business that has no business plan, just doesn't make a good business sense. The concept of marriage was never about love and feelings and we have seen this throughout history. Marriage has evolved to the state it is now, in this country, involving love and feelings and choosing the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Why not give the woman you are in love with what she wants and the security she needs to feel that everythings gonna be ok with you? But the world is full of all kinds of people and one day you may meet a woman who only wants this kind of relationship. Some women are afraid to get married because of the high divorce rate and would perfer a life partner in stead of a husband. When it's all said and done a marriage license doesn't equal love or a happy relationship it amounts to financial security and some women would perfer to have this in place before having your children and spending 50++years cooking,cleaning,raising kids,taking care of you, and contributing to the family income with monies we earn from our own careers. Just my thoughts.
2007-12-16 00:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by REALADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is more than emotional commitment - or a legal commitment - it's also to protect your loved one if you should die before them - unmarried 'partners' don't have nearly the protections a spouse does. But ok, let's say you find someone who is financially independent, doesn't want kids, and is ok with a minimum amount of commitment (i.e. being partners, not married) - then great - you have found your match. Not marrying can work for some people - and if your question is where do you find them - go to places where people of 'like-minds' think or set that up as a default on dating services. Good luck with that - sincerely.
2007-12-15 23:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by smilingsunlisa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nothing's wrong with wanting a life partner. just bear in mind, you may or may not get it. or you may run into the problem that your partner wants marriage and the whole nine yards, then you'll have to decide for yourself if marriage is still a no go.
some people are comfortable with being married, others aren't. it's all a matter of different strokes for different folks. don't let others dictate your life and the decisions you make for it. it's your thing, and as long as you are happy, that's all that matters.
2007-12-15 23:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship for over nine years without marriage. For some it is a security blanket for others a legal nightmare. It can work as long as you take one day at a time and you will realize a sole mate is not bonded by a legal document. Some women do demand it and others know that it is not a requirement to be committed. I once gave her a choice, we can pay for our wedding or buy a house. She choose a house for us to share together.
2007-12-16 00:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by gtx765 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are women out there who don't want to get married and just want a life partner. Don't listen to other people.
2007-12-15 23:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's something no one has brought up. Marriage is basically about raising kids. Most women I know want to have kids. They know it's very stupid to bring children into something as inherently unstable as what you want, and I think that's your problem. For most women, they want the security of marriage too. What security would they have living with you? Basically none. Still though, I think there is someone for everyone. You're just looking for a much smaller percentage of women.
Kent in SD
2007-12-15 23:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by duckgrabber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And the difference between a lifetime partner and married is...what again?
2007-12-15 23:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe anyone of us can speak on behalf on "all girls?" If you don't, then live life as you see fit. Of course there are couples who live together but decided not to get married. It is a joint decision between you and your partner and no one else.
2007-12-15 23:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Andy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋