Marriage & Divorce - 15 December 2007

no passion or financial burden

2007-12-15 03:58:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

She says she wont go to marriage counselling.I have been seeing a therapist for almost a week.I convinced my wife to go to my therapist and tell her what a crappy husband I am.She decided to go.She said she would give me the rest of my stuff then.I am preparing my heart for a crappy night.Ther is a little chance this will help us.What do you think her going to my counseller good thing or bad thing.

2007-12-15 03:53:29 · 13 answers · asked by andrew n 1

Married my highschool sweetheart, 20 yrs with little sex, it's been 4 months now. She won't perform oral and is unexciting in the bedroom. I'm not looking to leave (kids at home). Am I wrong to want to explore outside the marriage?

2007-12-15 03:42:14 · 86 answers · asked by Anonymous

the past. His family and friends say he is a good man with a big heart. He lives with his mother in the basement he smokes weed everyday. He works for his parents he owes like $20,000 for back child support

2007-12-15 03:41:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 10 years, we have 2 children still at home with us. I work day shift and he works 1130p-730am. He has various days off during the week while I have steady weekends. The problem is that he does absolutely nothing around the house. He says its because he has a penis and I don't. I work a full day and then come home to a sinkful of dirty dishes, laundry to be done, housecleaning and general other stuff. On top of that he is always making comments that we do not have sex. Like I am ever in the mood. Tried counseling which was so much fun that I would rather stick needles in my eye. When we first were married I was home and had no problem doing the housework but the past 4 years of working outside the home and then working more at home are really taking its toll. So my plan is to hire a cleaning person for the bigger chores and tell him if he doesn't want that then he has to pitch in. Any comments????

2007-12-15 03:39:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

she is remorsefull and says she wont do it again, should i belive her or since i am a stay at home dad take the kids and leave

2007-12-15 03:38:04 · 31 answers · asked by MR MOM USMC RETIRED 3

We were at my husbands christmas party and where talking with a mangaer (not my husbands manger just another one that works at the company.) Dont ask me how but some how while talking it got brought up that we needed to change phone plans because I always go over my minutes each month. The guy had the nerve to tell my husband that if he ever wanted to be behind the desk like him that he had better get control of his family because "A man that can't control his family , cant control a team of 15 other people" He said that his wife "knew better" than to do something like that. I kinda just laughed it off but he told me "If you were my wife you wouldnt still be laughing as I busted your butt" while he made a spanking motion. PLEASE tell me he wasnt being serious. Does this guy asctually spank his wife??? I dont want my husband getting any ideas.

2007-12-15 03:33:25 · 16 answers · asked by Luv_My_Baby 4

2007-12-15 03:33:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband Terrance of 3 years is a very negative person. he always have something negative to say. I don't get him something. Even if it's dealing with me he's negative. However, when he goes to work he is totally different he fools the people at work to make them think he is sweet, nice guy, but he he come home he is mean and hateful to me. What can I do to make i him positive. I'm tired of him being negative so much.

2007-12-15 03:29:08 · 13 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5

dont you think its a bit unfair to meN? a man wants to get a prenup before marrying so he can protect his things and create a contract that he or his wife cannot cheat (equal to both parties) its looked down upon, unless he has lots of money. what if he doesnt? what happens in divorce when he loses everything? he wont have anything to live off and will go homeless. rich people may lose more but they dont lose everything. also why not put a legal vow not to cheat for both parties? why is that degrading to women? shouldnt we get rid of vows also since they are the same thing just are ceremonial and not legal?

also why is it looked down upon if a man wants a paternity test cause he just wants to make sure the child is his? is he really supposed to go in life blindly and not ask questions? not even considering if his wife might be cheating or not?

2007-12-15 03:23:10 · 9 answers · asked by Hi T 1

It's not like when we met. I'm 35 & hardly ever think about sex. I don't watch porn. I don't fool around. I don't mastrubate at all & she's nearly 30 & wants to do it all the time. So it's pretty safe to say my sex drive is low. She's a good woman not no skanky bar fly one nite stand. What can I do other than ED drugs to get up to her speed.

2007-12-15 03:04:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, say for a moment that a woman comes to you, she knows you are married, but she tells you she just wants one or two nights of intimacy...(You know she is sane and disease free...maybe you have known for a year...) Suppose in this scenerio, you are willing to have this one night with this woman EVEN THOUGH you are married... YOU DO NOT WANT TO HURT YOUR WIFE! You are happy, but intrigued and aroused by this other woman. And especailly if you know absolutely for sure that your wife WILL NOT find out!

Why would any guy tell this other woman that he wants to be friends first...?! Before having this night? Wouldn't being friends defeat the whole, 'just one night' thing....? Couldn't the guy get 'feelings' for the other woman? And what if the other woman doesn't want 'feelings', and only wants to relieve a huge drive she has with the married guy?? Why would a guy ask to be friends with someone just asking for sex...? Why not just say no?

What are your opinions?

2007-12-15 03:01:17 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and my boyfriend of 6 months have had sex already, but I am one of those type of woman that feels that having sex with a man takes away my strength. it makes me feel vunerable, and I tend to become emotional to easy, become my thought process becomes cloudy... we haven't had sex in a month, and things are going great with us. I just told him that I didn't want to do it again until we make the decision to get married, and if we never get married, then I guess we'll never do it again...
I'm wondering if he's going to be able to do this, or if he will just have sex with other women behind my back ?
What has been your experience..??

2007-12-15 02:53:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship,she is 10 now. We've been together since she was 2. When her mother feels it's necessary, she will throw in comments about me being a beaner or just plain call me a Mexican when she's talking to my husband. I am 1/4 mexican & carried the last name. I have the fairest skin for a person who has mexican in them. I AM SO PROUD OF WHERE MY FAMILY COMES FROM. I've never dealt with racism except from her. How do others handle this?
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My question is - I refuse to have involvement with this person - I don't talk to her. I don't have to b/c my husband makes arrangements w/her. This problem has caused me to not even want anything to do with my stepdaughter, because she is 1/2 of her mother. I'm questioning if my marriage is worth me getting hurt by this, I don't have to live like this and I feel like if I said goodbye, I won't have this woman in my life ever again..I'd be so relieved!

PS my husband and I have 2 children together.

2007-12-15 02:53:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 2 mths. out of a 4 yr. relaionship-although I loved this guy very much (he was very loving, affectionate, romantic) he is an alcoholic which caused alot of conflict in our lives. Our sex life was next to nothing because he was either tired for too drunk. In the entire four yrs. he never went a day without drinking.He was a hard worker but, never seemed to have alot of money-where it went I don't know. We shared the bills but, were always scraping by. Well, 2 mths. later after our split he is seeing a married woman who he claims he loves. I don't know her situation but, she is still with her husband. My ex can be very convincing in the beginning, quite the charmer (thats what got me hooked) & you never see the big picture until its too late. My question is if this woman leaves her husband what are the chances that she will be happy with my ex once the real him surfaces. It gulls me to think that he left me because I couldnt deal with his drinking & then like nothing go on happily!

2007-12-15 02:47:25 · 8 answers · asked by Mary B 4

When your spouse hurts you really badly over & over in many, many different ways, do you ever stop feeling the extreme anger, anguish, pain, gut-wrenching agony, sadness, and despair?
I also am extremely angry at one of the women who should have known better and she is probably living her happy life blissfully unaware. She probably doesn't even know I exist, not to mention my anger and sadness.
My husband is getting psychiatric treatment. I am seeing a psychotherapist and had previous counseling (preacher, counselors, group therapy, hospital). Nothing seems to help me just get over the years of garbage he (& others like the other women or "well meaning" individuals who took his side instead of being objective or supportive) put me through as far as this relationship is concerned.
I think I am damaged as far as future relationships go... Think of a dog in the furthest corner avoiding eye contact. That is how I feel inside. Does a person ever recover from something this severe?

2007-12-15 01:58:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-15 01:55:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband seems to think so. I have never worn a pair of his boxer shorts ... until today. It was an old pair that is too small for him. When I walked into our bedroom with them on he freaked out. He kept going on with it and asked me to get out of them because it's "unattractive". I took offense to that because I have seen women wearing boxer shorts around the house (i.e. on movies). I mean I don't see anything wrong with it as long as I am not wearing them under my clothes out of the house, and using them for underwear of my own.

I almost feel as if he was saying "I" personally am unattractive. I do have low self-esteem so maybe this is not as big of a deal as I am making it out to be. But I surely didn't think there was anything wrong about me slipping on his boxers. I guess I have learned my lesson.

Do you see anything wrong with it?

2007-12-15 01:51:06 · 22 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

you are single and you get jelous when you see couple holding each other in a way that they are showing off and telling you something?.it didn't bothered me,but there is certain actins in that relationship makes me tick am not sure that is love....but why do we feel that way?is that normal or i m just weird?

2007-12-15 00:45:22 · 10 answers · asked by truth set free 1

Does this means my husband hate me? I'm I a bad person to him?

2007-12-15 00:38:44 · 20 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5

Just went through a very difficult (expensive) divorce with a woman who turned out to be a manipulative, whore. After cleaning me out financially, she decided there was no reason to continue her charade and let me see her for who she really was. She moved out after 8 days of marriage, and tried to "shake me down" for more money during the divorce.

Now two months after the divorce was final, I am told that she has been dating/sleeping with my brother for at least the past month!!

Apparently ALL of my other family members were "in" on their secret relationship, and helped to conceal what was going on.

She is now working on cleaning out my brother's bank account before she "finds true love" again.

My entire family has decided to side with this woman against me in my desire to have deported back to her home country, and now they have done this little secret..
So I feel that it is only proper that as long as they don't consider me to be family, I should treat them the same.

2007-12-15 00:33:59 · 23 answers · asked by redheadedstepchild 4

your spouse to cheat,she/he would?

I am just curious how much people trust their spouse.


I think mine would cheat if there was a chance.

2007-12-15 00:30:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-15 00:25:53 · 17 answers · asked by cutie 1

Been married for 3 years my husband Terrance is verbal and emotional abusive to me. The way I feel about him is unthinkable. He always talk negative and try to put me down. He thinks he is better than me when we support to be a team as husband and wife. His job pays more than mine and he always throwing that up in my face. We both graduated from the same college. We also have a 3 year old son together. I work 30 hours a week and take care of our son and he don't do nothing. I am tired of him and want to divorce him. I can't take it any more. I'm so sad, stressed out, and depressed. I need to talk to somebody anybody before he come home from work being mean to me. I think he hates me. How can anyone hurt a humanbeing the way he hurts me.

2007-12-15 00:15:40 · 16 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5