me and my boyfriend of 6 months have had sex already, but I am one of those type of woman that feels that having sex with a man takes away my strength. it makes me feel vunerable, and I tend to become emotional to easy, become my thought process becomes cloudy... we haven't had sex in a month, and things are going great with us. I just told him that I didn't want to do it again until we make the decision to get married, and if we never get married, then I guess we'll never do it again...
I'm wondering if he's going to be able to do this, or if he will just have sex with other women behind my back ?
What has been your experience..??
2007-12-15 02:53:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even if you have given in once and then chosen to withhold until marriage there is nothing wrong with that. If he cares for you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you he will be supportive and understanding of your decision. If he is not and he strays then your better off without him in your life. If he cannot wait then he is not the man for you. For instance what if you do get married one fine day start a family and while your pregnant just not in the mood for sex should you be concerned that he is going to cheat on you because you ain't given any NOT.
Tell him this that you love him and you wnat to build a strong friendship and bond before anything like that and would prefer to wait until marriage to have sex again.
Let him know if he feels he is unable to do this with you then he might as well leave now.
God Bless and Best Wishes
2007-12-15 03:11:39 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 3 times. With my last husband we waited until we were married to have sex. It wasn't that hard at all.... we just both decided we wanted to do things the right way this time around and helped each other to wait until we were married. We have a great marriage and our life is going well. It was a decision we never regretted.
It could go either way... but you really messed up by doing it, then deciding you wanted to wait. Chances are he won't wait for long and he probably thinks you've given in once, you'll do it again. Who knows what he'll do if and when he realizes you are serious.
If it doesn't work, next time around, just wait.
2007-12-15 03:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are coming loud and clear........
You are using sex as a weapon to retain him. That's the only thing you think will keep him close to you. Wrong approach.
If he loves you, respects you and agrees to your views than he will not only abstain from having sex he will also stay true to you. This is a good test.
If he goes to another woman because of sex, let him. Now you know his real him. It is better now than later. Just don't say anything, and don't rush into marriage even if he proposes. Put it off by another year or two.
2007-12-15 03:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, have you guys even discussed marriage yet? If not it could be a long, long wait for you!!!!
I waited until I was 21. I tried to wait until I was married and finally gave in. I never married him and was glad I never did. I was glad I did wait until I was truly ready to have sex. I never regretted waiting. It really taught me a lot about self control and loving ones own self!!!
Good luck!!!
2007-12-15 11:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since my last divorce, I haven't slept with anyone so I'm doing my best to wait till marriage
2007-12-15 03:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by drumcatblue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
To me it is like buying a car it always needs a test drive to see how it runs first!!!
2007-12-15 03:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by kristrip 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it wasn't your both decision, he may not wait till your marriage.
2007-12-15 03:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wait and he cannot understand then that tells you something about him doesn't it?
You are on the right path and God will honor your motives.
2007-12-15 03:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by jackoblonski 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You test drive a car before you buy it
2007-12-15 03:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋