the past. His family and friends say he is a good man with a big heart. He lives with his mother in the basement he smokes weed everyday. He works for his parents he owes like $20,000 for back child support
2007-12-15 03:41:30 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think this man doesn't take on responsibility very well, makes rash decisions, doesn't practice birth control, gets himself into messes he can't get out of and whomever gets involved with him will be sorry and have a difficult life. financially he is screwed, and will never be able to have anything in life because if he does his ex's will take it. i see a man who can't deal with life if all he does is smoke weed. he is an avoider of problems and smokes the weed so he won't have to acknowledge who he is and where he went wrong.
2007-12-15 04:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he is highly irresponsible and immature. This is based on the fact that he has had 4 children with 4 different women, does drugs in a home that is not his own, and owes $20,000 in child support which also leads me to believe he does not support his children in any other way.
His parents also seem to be part of the problem. Of course his family is going to say he is sweet and has a big heart, he lives at home and works for his family. He may be a great son or brother, but he may not be a person you should be getting into a relationship with.
My advice would be to walk away from this one until he can prove he is a changed person by owning up to his action, taking charge of his life.
2007-12-15 12:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Summer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think of him? He may have a big heart and love his family (mom, dad, etc) but he's a total LOSER!!!!!! A good man would pay his child support, not live at home smokeing weed and not have 4 kids by 4 different mothers!!!!
2007-12-15 11:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by jstchel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think, in this case, it really comes down to what you're looking for. if you are okay with dating someone who has children from previous relationships, ( them having different mothers is really a moot point now ) and understand that you may, at some point, be involved in the lives of those children, start from there.
once you've figured out if that's something you want to take on, next figure out how you feel about the drugs. is weed the only thing he does? see if you can find out from him why he feels the need to turn to drugs. if it's not something you can deal with, see if he's willing to stop using. if so, that's two problems down.
next, see what's going on with the back child support. if he's working, some of the paycheck he earns should be going to cover child support. that's another thing to think about if the two of you get together. a good portion of his paycheck will go to pay child support.
as far as him living with his parents, sometimes, we all have to go back home to get on our feet. i've stayed with friends more times than i can count because i didn't have anywhere else to go and they were willing to take me in and help me out until i could get back on my feet.
good luck.
2007-12-15 12:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by emo girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the field of Psychology. The best indicator of a person's future behavior is their past behavior...regardless of what they try to convince others (especially the sensitive, somewhat vulnerable and some may say gullible type). There are so many Red Flags in just what you Posted, not only would I go the opposite way of this person, I would RUN for God's Sake and yours.
2007-12-15 11:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Marie Q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be a loser like every one has said, however, he could also be depressed and this is why he turns to drugs. His children to different mothers is not an issue if he supported them. However he clearly is not. He will not be an easy one and is carrying severe excess baggage, but it's your choice. Do you think he is worth a chance? If you do enter with your eyes wide open and for goodness sake use birth control...
2007-12-15 11:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by shaunie 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let me guess, he is your boyfriend and wants to marry you. Maybe you could GIVE him the money to get his support straightened out and call that a lesson learned before he screws up your life to. If not then spread them legs and let the sperm bank have at it.
2007-12-15 13:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen that commercial "this is your brain on drugs"? People who use drugs never grow up. They really don't. I have a cousin who is exactly like that. In fact, he is 45 with an 18 year old girlfriend. He acts younger than her, and they live with his mom!!
2007-12-15 11:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by mel s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good man provides for his family no matter the family is trying to dump there trash on you put up your sign darling and let it be known you have gone out of bussiness the dumping ground is CLOSE move on
2007-12-15 11:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run. Do not stop. Run quick. Pull the phone out of the wall. Turn off the cell. Lock your doors. Don't let him come near you.
2007-12-15 11:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋