I am 2 mths. out of a 4 yr. relaionship-although I loved this guy very much (he was very loving, affectionate, romantic) he is an alcoholic which caused alot of conflict in our lives. Our sex life was next to nothing because he was either tired for too drunk. In the entire four yrs. he never went a day without drinking.He was a hard worker but, never seemed to have alot of money-where it went I don't know. We shared the bills but, were always scraping by. Well, 2 mths. later after our split he is seeing a married woman who he claims he loves. I don't know her situation but, she is still with her husband. My ex can be very convincing in the beginning, quite the charmer (thats what got me hooked) & you never see the big picture until its too late. My question is if this woman leaves her husband what are the chances that she will be happy with my ex once the real him surfaces. It gulls me to think that he left me because I couldnt deal with his drinking & then like nothing go on happily!
2007-12-15 02:47:25 · 8 answers · asked by Mary B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what ? girl are you serious ? trust me, you are the one that went on happily ! I dated a recovering alcoholic once before and even people that are in recovery have issues with being responsible and reliable again, so I can't even imagine being with an actual alcoholic! I cant even believe that you are worried about him being happily ever after, I mean the same sh*t you got, is what the next woman is gonna get . I mean if anything you should feel sorry for her. girl count your blessings, pray for him to get better, and move on with your life. trust me, you are the one that came out on top !
2007-12-15 03:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a drunk always a drunk unless he goes to AA. Don't be thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
You should move on. And get some counselling too to make sure you don't go for another loser. This is usually a pattern. You did the right thing leaving him You had no life for what you say.
Look after yourself. Get a positive spin on your life and learn to have fun on your own. Soon enough, unless he gets help for his drinking... it will be same old same old and she'll be coming to you for help. Trust me on this one.
You will find a fabulous guy and will wonder why the heck you wasted four years on a drunk.
Good luck
2007-12-15 10:53:12 · answer #2 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances are ZERO. Here are the facts of life when you meet your next man:
1. There is no Santa
2. There might be a Bigfoot
3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)
5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
6. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.
I don't lie.
2007-12-15 11:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so bothered? You made the decision to split, so in reality what he does now should not bother you should it? Unless you believe leaving him was not the right thing to do?
I would take a step back and think was his drinking really that bad, or could you have helped him through his problems? If you answer these and know you made the right decision, then hard as it is, let this woman make her own mistakes hunny.
Make yourself happy, xx
2007-12-15 10:59:22 · answer #4 · answered by shaunie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he is a toy to her because she has no morals and her husband isn't filling her needs but she will not leave him. Very unlikely she would be happy with your ex. nor would anyone if he is like this. I think you should just count your blessings that there are no kids involved and get on with your life forget about the ex and doing something for yourself.
First off stop watching what the ex is doing your split why do you care what this drunk does with his life.
2007-12-15 11:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the other woman's problem. What are you so concerned about? She deserves your ex because she is about to leave her husband. Talking about falling into fire from fying pan.........
As for you..........call it good riddance.
Excessive drinking wrecks life. This is a good example. Where did you think all that money went and you were scaping by? bottles of course.
2007-12-15 11:01:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship he is in will not work...if the woman is unhappily married she will believe the fantasy and end up in the same boat you are in if she leaves her husband...He is the same man he was with you today...nothing has changed...do not live with regret..you made the right decision.
2007-12-15 10:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by safiyafadil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slim to none.....
2007-12-15 10:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋