Just went through a very difficult (expensive) divorce with a woman who turned out to be a manipulative, whore. After cleaning me out financially, she decided there was no reason to continue her charade and let me see her for who she really was. She moved out after 8 days of marriage, and tried to "shake me down" for more money during the divorce.
Now two months after the divorce was final, I am told that she has been dating/sleeping with my brother for at least the past month!!
Apparently ALL of my other family members were "in" on their secret relationship, and helped to conceal what was going on.
She is now working on cleaning out my brother's bank account before she "finds true love" again.
My entire family has decided to side with this woman against me in my desire to have deported back to her home country, and now they have done this little secret..
So I feel that it is only proper that as long as they don't consider me to be family, I should treat them the same.
2007-12-15 00:33:59 · 23 answers · asked by redheadedstepchild 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lay low and keep quiet, every dog has their day, It won't be long before they see her true colors.
2007-12-15 00:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gayle L 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would severely limit contact with your family for sure. I don't know if severing all contact would be wise just yet. I do feel you have been treated poorly. That they knew about what was happening with your ex and your brother was one thing, that they covered for them and sided with her is something else all together. I could get them keeping it from you in order to save you the pain but they have gone above and beyond that and I would find that hard to forgive. Treat them with the contempt they deserve.
The best revenge, they say, is success. Succeed in your life and let them know that they are no part of it. Find love with someone worthy and exclude them from your joy.
If ever you do decide to forgive them for their betrayal, never NEVER forget! Those who ignore history are destined to repeat it.
As for her working on cleaning out your brother's bank account, I guess karma is biting him on the back side. What goes around comes around!
I hope you can work through this awful event in your life and find some happiness, with or without your so called family!
2007-12-15 01:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by Onyx ♠ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all you had a very poor judgment, if she moved out of the house after 8 days, that should have been a BIG red flag to you. and you should have gotten the marriage annulled. now to your family if they choose to side with one person over their own flesh and blood well there is something wrong with them, If they do not want to speak to you, leave them be, and further more if they do things in secret behind your back well that is not family. I would move on, leave my family be and live my life and make a new start.
2007-12-15 00:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by john d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! I am sorry to hear this.
You "could" treat them like they are treating you. They don't sound much like a family!! But you know that. This would be the easy thing to do. Simply cut them out of your life. If/when they crawl back and apologize, great. If not, then that's great too.
OR
You could be the bigger person. You could treat them kindly. You could forgive them and treat them with warmth and respect. This will shame them (over time) and they will (might) see the errors in their way. If they do, great. If not, great too. Either way you win because you were the bigger person. This way is HARD. It is the golden rule. It is the Christian way.
Best of luck in whatever you decide.
2007-12-15 00:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Richard F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear what is happening to you. Unfortunatley theres not much you can do. Its down to brother to find out what she like but i would of thought just by your experience he would stay well clear. What your brother dose is hs own buisness and if you interfear your only going to be pushed away further away adding to more resentment to both sides of the famiely.
However why should you be pushed away. Don't let whats happened make you want to move away. If your famiely are going to go behind your back, then you don't have to have anything to do with them as the saying goes what comes around goes around. Sooner or later thay will see what type of person she is and will be saying sorry to you. In my opinion you a big boy who can hold his tounge and rise above this situation. Just get on with YOUR Life and leave them to theres. Don't be nasty if you see them just say hello be polite it will only make you feel worse if being nasty starts off more fudes. Keep your distance but don't sever all contact there still your famiely despite what thay have done.
I really feel for you and you have been stabbed in the back big style. But put it this way your a free man with your own money a little wiser enjoy youself go out and have fun with your mates, if there going to go behind there back and be selfish then its soon going to happen to them. But i wouldent get involved its just not worth it. Its just going to make matters worse for you.
2007-12-15 01:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, I really dont blame you for being bitter as this woman has created much negativity for you & your family, & I must say, this woman has pulled the wool over your familys eyes & needs to be stopped. Think of this as war, you are in a major fight to win back your family & it is you who will come out on top, dont allow her to win, so the answer is to fight for what you think is best, your family is where you were when you first met this chick, they are being taken advantage of & used, just like you were, so maybe its time to find some dirt on this girl, everyone has skeletons in their closets, especially a woman like this, believe me she didnt just wake up last year & turn into this evil person, shes been at this for a while, so it is up to you to go searching into her ugly past, you can find out alot about a person by backtracking her whereabouts, so my advise will take work but it will be well worth it, when you do find evidence of her being a wicked evil woman, you take it to your family & take this woman down!
2007-12-15 00:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8 day marriage under false pretense should be annulled!! As for your family, I would distance my self from them, both emotionally and physically. Don't hold on to a grudge against her or them; it will only hurt you. It's important to forgive but it's not wise to forget! That's God's job.
2007-12-15 01:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been stung & hurt in this relationship but your anger is spoiling you. Distance yourself until you are calm, rational & in control of this very hurtful situation. Anger fades & so do bad feelings so just chill out a while & try & get a grip on things. Distraction is good. Self destruction is not. Try & walk away from it all & start anew.
2007-12-15 00:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 02:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bad situation. I don't know that you need to sever all contact, but I would definitely not go out of my way to communicate with them for a while. You have a lot of healing to do.
2007-12-15 01:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always two sides to every story. But if you are really saying it how it is, then write them off. You don't need family like that. Nobody does.
2007-12-15 00:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋