Been married for 3 years my husband Terrance is verbal and emotional abusive to me. The way I feel about him is unthinkable. He always talk negative and try to put me down. He thinks he is better than me when we support to be a team as husband and wife. His job pays more than mine and he always throwing that up in my face. We both graduated from the same college. We also have a 3 year old son together. I work 30 hours a week and take care of our son and he don't do nothing. I am tired of him and want to divorce him. I can't take it any more. I'm so sad, stressed out, and depressed. I need to talk to somebody anybody before he come home from work being mean to me. I think he hates me. How can anyone hurt a humanbeing the way he hurts me.
2007-12-15 00:15:40 · 16 answers · asked by LivingMyLife 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you still love him?
I think you are on the stage of adjustment....
You must talk to him seriously and heart to heart.
Dont jump into conclusion of Divorce.
Please save your family for the sake of your child.
My situition is worsier than you are because my husband have no work.
2007-12-15 01:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by sweetie29 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You take your son, and your remove him NOW from that situation before the cycle repeats itself. You call a lawyer now and you file for separation/divorce. You seem trapped (as many of us women do feel..) because of a money issue. You WILL NOT fix him, and spending more time thinking you can will waste your time, and reinforce that you will have a son with the same behavior later in life. If you have somewhere to go (parents? sibling? friend?), then take some time out and tell Terrance exactly why you are leaving. Emotional abuse is still abuse and can lead to physical abuse. Trust me on this, I have been there TWICE. Don't let the money thing get you down..he is trying to create dependency in you. You need to take a step back and a deep breath and then decide if you want this to stop now or keep going like this until things get worse. Once you remove yourself (and your son) from this volatile environment, you will begin to regain your self-confidence. Good Luck. PS..Document everything for court purposes. Even the smallest thing. You make sure your lawyer knows that your husband is also abusing your son by encouraging him to speak like that to you.
2016-04-09 04:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you definitely need to be filing for divorce. He's emotionally, and verbally abusing.. there's one thing that's left.. physical abuse! And hopefully it doesn't start before you two get divorced. Get out of that relationship now, you and your son do not need that at all.
That girl above me is wrong. There is no need to try and save your marriage. If he is abusive, there is no getting through it usually. Do not make you and your child go through this " for the child's sake". Sounds to me the child and yourself would be better off without this guy.
2007-12-15 01:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sound like he's suffering from a major inferiority complex. That not an excuse but may be a reason. No helping him. He must help himself. He probably won't. As the saying goes, " there's more than one fish in the ocean." Surprise him at dinner with divorce papers. Start your life over. You deserve to be treated better. Get out of the situation. He's not going to help you. You have to help yourself. Send his a** to me. I can't straighten him out but I can LAY him out for you! Please give yourself a Xmas present. Merry Xmas and good luck to you.
2007-12-15 00:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT!!!! YOU and your son are in danger!!!!!Go to a divorce attorney in your for your legal concerns and go to the battered spouses shelter in your area or get a therapist specifically trained in abusive relationships that can give you the help, information and support you will need to get out of this dangerous marriage.....
YOU and your sons protection are the FIRST priority....GET OUT as soon as you can...Ask family or friend to temporarily take you in as soon as possible....And TELL trusted family and friends ANY and all things he has done.....
Good luck....
2007-12-15 00:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like my aunt said -folks get a d nowadays if someone parts there hair wrong-how about the honeymoon is over and its time to get real-before you put another one parent child in the world maybe you should try getting some help from a pro
2007-12-15 00:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce Terrance and take him to the cleaners since he makes more than you do.
2007-12-15 01:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably hates himself more than he hates you and yes you need to get up and get out. You have an education and a job so you are further ahead than many women. You know where to find your resources.
2007-12-15 00:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by darbygirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not only is this hurting you, but you can bet your son is being hurt as well.
Get out and go stay with family or friends.
2007-12-15 02:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont be making more than you when he has to pay child support...Get a Lawyer and get out now, you and the kiddo do not have to live this way...
2007-12-15 00:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋