your spouse to cheat,she/he would?
I am just curious how much people trust their spouse.
I think mine would cheat if there was a chance.
2007-12-15 00:30:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as long as he has the opportunity, and is in that frame of mind, and can easily be led and tempted he will cheat, no matter how old he is, or how many years u have been blissfully married. the only ones who might not cheat are those that have a firm belief in god.
2007-12-15 04:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 12 years and while my relationship was not a perfect one (I don't think that exists) I always believed that he would never cheat on me. He wasn't out with the guys drinking all the time. He was a good father to his 2 children. One day at his lunch break, he came home and said..."I'm leaving you tonight and filing for divorce." It was like a bomb was dropped on me. I was stunned. I couldn't even speak.
We had another couple we were friends with. They were friends of my husband before we had met. The man said to me..."Do you think he cheated?" That never crossed my mind. I was so sure I knew who he was. It took me a couple weeks to find out that he had cheated and I was shocked. That's really what I needed to hear, though. I had been beating myself up thinking I was this horrible person and my husband had to leave me because of it.
The anger helped me get over it and get strong. After a while, the anger was tearing me apart. I finally let go of that, too, and I am in a better place now...8 years removed.
What I have learned from that is, you can never guess how your spouse will act...sometimes they don't even know themselves. The word "never" can develop sharp teeth and bite you in the backside.
2007-12-15 01:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't have the "cheaters" personality or outlook on life. He is going to be gone from me sometimes for longer than a year or more at a time because he's in the army and will have to live in war zones apart from me. I sure hope he would not cheat, and I know that if I were around to give him some he would never stray. But two years? Being realistic, it could happen though he swears it never would. I don't think mine would but under the circumstances most probably def. would. I never would though. I trust my husband.
2007-12-15 00:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the potential is with everyone but it's how you act upon it that makes the difference. Is the cheating for new excitement--a thrill, spouse is not capable due to medical problems? So many issues involved. I personally at my age have never seen a relationship survive or be the same after one does. That cloud of doubt or "when" it will happen again always lingers.
2007-12-15 00:35:51 · answer #4 · answered by frizzle1229 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very secure in my relationship with my husband and can't imagine he would ever cheat, however, I am realistic enough to know to never say never. I trust him enough to know he wouldn't cheat just because the opportunity presented itself, however, if we were going through a very long rough patch or something and things were bad at home I suppose there could be the possibility but he is more the type to work through the problems and not add to them by cheating.
2007-12-15 00:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Temptations will always be around for both him and you. Everyone's experienced unfaithfulness in one way or the other. But this is focused on the physical aspect I think, with that said I would have to believe that my husband would do "his best" to never do anything that will hurt me or our relationship. With that said, I do in fact trust him... especially when he knows that I still have qualities that other men find attractive :P
Why get married if you don't/will trust your spouse in the first place?
2007-12-15 00:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by Xihuateteo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad day. And I hat to say this, but statistically speaking there is no way possible that we can think they won't. It may make us feel better to believe they won't, but it's just a feel good feeling. Not all men but a lot of men have been dogs for a long time, but in these days women have obtained equality in some ways that we did not foresee. so 100% you are fooling yourself if you believe that. ( not all women either )
2007-12-15 04:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Big Will 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think he might if he got really drunk or was away for a long period of time. I just dont want to know about it. I know that may sound bad. Id prefer if he didnt and id never tell him itwas ok. but if there was a one nighter one time that meant nothing id rather just be clueless and continue with a good marriage
2007-12-15 01:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by tcb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is always a chance,w/ anyone,some say men more than women,NOT SO MUCH,but my heart says he would walk away before he would hurt me,my mind tends to agree!!!
2007-12-15 01:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he ever "cheats", he better be damn good at it ! Of course, there are "chances", lots of them as there would be for me too but, what I don't see or know about, won't hurt me, would it ??
2007-12-15 00:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋