She says she wont go to marriage counselling.I have been seeing a therapist for almost a week.I convinced my wife to go to my therapist and tell her what a crappy husband I am.She decided to go.She said she would give me the rest of my stuff then.I am preparing my heart for a crappy night.Ther is a little chance this will help us.What do you think her going to my counseller good thing or bad thing.
2007-12-15 03:53:29 · 13 answers · asked by andrew n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds as if she had made up her mind a long time ago, and she isn't interested in giving it time or another chance or therapy. i don't believe going to a councilor will change a thing, because she seems to have planned this way before she actually left u. but its rarely one partners fault and if she is laying all of the blame on u, u really need to question her character, and maybe be glad its over with.
2007-12-15 04:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Boy, I wanted to put you on but this sounds serious. I am really sorry man as I know what it is like to really care about someone and they just blow you off. It stinks! I'd use curses here but the politically correct police would come after me. All of the opinions I read here are pretty real and have a good lesson for you. I'd say that all of us have a dark side and for some that monster is hard to control. How do you think Dr. Jeckyl and Mr Hyde was written? It's all about the beast within unleashed. Your wife gave in to urges and desires that the grass is green elsewhere and she went with it. She certainly has been out of your marriage for quite awhile but you were in love and it is indeed blind. Most women and men just decide that they want out and for whatever reason leave the relationship. Your wife has thrown her lot in with some other dude and is now having sex with him. You would be wise to seek counseling from a psychologist or your preacher or priest and vent. Also, don't be afriad to cry or yell into your pillow or feel a little sad. THen one day you will be sick and tired of being sick and tired and decide to move on to some woman who values you unlike your wife.
2016-05-24 01:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it couldn't hurt. If it were me and I were you....I would not be in the room with them. Let her speak freely about you and the situation, this way the therapist will better be able to understand what you are dealing with. This is what I would do. Divorce is never easy, everyone is hurt.....just know that in time you will find yourself in a happier life. I wish you the best.
2007-12-15 04:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she is has already gone to therapy and she has that crappy attitude then it's pretty much over. I know my 1st husband had the same crappy attitude. That's when I knew our marriage was over. You tried your best. You need to try to move on. It will take time and time to heal. I am very sorry.
2007-12-15 04:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
made no difference. her mind is made up. you will get passed the denial stage.
It's a bit shocking for you right now, separation is bad enough but your wife filing after 10 days....She's thought of this moment for a very long time.
If I were you , I would just go along with flow. It will make it less painful for you, just make sure that you get everything tha is owed to you.
2007-12-15 04:04:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is done in the marriage. Your wife has already made the decision to divorce you. There isn't much you can do now. I like how it is all about YOU. Let me ask this....what have you done in this marriage to make your wife want to divorce you? Cheater? Deadbeat? Gambler? Internet Porn? There is more here....and the best part is that you are not really worried about the marriage you are worred about YOU.
2007-12-15 03:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah sounds like she has someone else already. time to get over it and find a life and stop the counseling its a waste of money.
2007-12-15 04:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a good thing for her personally....who knows if it's a good thing for your marriage.
Counseling is to help the individual see something in their lives from a different perspective......in this case it may be better for your wife to leave.
2007-12-15 04:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
neither good nor bad, rather just waste of time for you, and u only, cause she will move on without a regret cause she dont care, balls to her, stay alone man...
2007-12-15 04:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by friendsseason9 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your wife has made up her mind, and her going to your counselor cant hurt
2007-12-15 04:46:49 · answer #10 · answered by biglou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋