Marriage & Divorce - 19 December 2007

Ok my husb was arrested for domestic abuse in marriage
I feared for my life and was afraid to leave finally had it
and did not care
My question, he can afford atty. not me I have no $
I am disabled and get SS but not enough for atty and do
not qualify for free help as now I have roomate . wierd rules
Do I have to give him everything he wants and do I have
to leave our house (we were buying) clean? It is a mess due
to moving. I really do not feel like leaving it clean or leaving him
everything he asked for.He is a abusive jerk and he closed out
our bank accounts taking ALL $ that we had leaving me with
nothing. And he wants all the good costly stuff.
What should I do or what is legal? Any advice appreciated.

2007-12-19 23:59:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

The wife and child are waiting for the man to come home and they are living separately. He is dating many women and having sex with both the women and his wife. And the wife knows about it.

Even with marriage problems, why would he do this to his family? All he cares about is getting sex, yes. Does he think that everything wil be fine and dandy if he goes back to his family when he's old and can't get it up anymore?

Or is he just get all he can, and whatever happens come hell or high water?

2007-12-19 23:01:02 · 11 answers · asked by wondering 4

My husband wants to go to the court house together uncontested and just file the papers no judge courtdate ect. I think deep down he is really scared because i have so much on him he worked illegally ect. Plus he had bonus money from the military last week and withdrew the whole thing so i couldn't get any. I went to the court house and a legal advocate said i have a good chance of him having to pay me my share of the military bonus even if they have to garnish his pay i think i will get a higher child support too. Our court date will be about 3 months from dec 26 thats just dragging this on. I'm in diar straights rite now and need money because i'm on disability I'm thinking about what he is saying to do which is he will give me custody and sighn over a title to a truck i bought him and give me custody if i don't take him to court or go after part of the military bonus. My whole family is like take it if he is willing to give custody take it. But i will get the custody anyway

2007-12-19 22:55:25 · 12 answers · asked by poo~poo 1

is it enough to be in love to live with someone all your life.
or is it imprtant to love the person who you going to marry or it's enough that you feel ...... safe with him and that he or she will make you happy ?????

2007-12-19 22:12:19 · 22 answers · asked by Tess 2

me and my sister went on holiday last week it was only a cheap one so we had to share a room, she got a fellow so i went back to the room, but when i woke up there were having sex in the room, i got very turned on and masterbated till i came, my sister waved over to me twice during her passion

2007-12-19 22:00:07 · 27 answers · asked by sarah 1

I was with my ex boyfriend for 41/2years and lived with him for 3. We broke up a year ago due to his abusive behaviour fueled by his weakness for alcohol. I do still talk to him from time to time as of course he was a big part of my life for a long time. Now he is with a new girl and she has discovered she is pregnant. Problem is he keeps asking to meet up says he wants me back etc etc and would quite happily cheat on her with me given the chance. I know he cheated on me many times in our relationship so it is nothing knew. I feel so sorry for the poor girl problem is i am the ex who she hates of course so she would just not believe me - trust me i did try and gently let her know but in her eyes i am a lying devil who wants him back ( so not true!) any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

2007-12-19 21:55:53 · 11 answers · asked by angeleyes 3

The reason I was given for him looking at inter net porn was because I wrote my ex and at the end of my letters I wrote ALWAYS. My Ex has gone on with his life and me also. Can't people stay friends after a divorce?

2007-12-19 21:32:40 · 15 answers · asked by Susie 2

If you just recently broke up from a long and very unhealthy relationship, is it better to take some time to recover before jumping in to the next relationship????

2007-12-19 21:25:25 · 8 answers · asked by downONonesLuck 2

ok, me and my wife been together for 6 years, weve been married for 3, she first cheat on me 4 days after i proposed to her, we worked it out, i joined the army reserves and got married right before i left for traing. when i came back from training every thing was good,we had a baby. then her brother killed himself and age 14, right after that we found out that she had cancer, she had the agressive chemo, she was cured, then 1 yr later she cheats on me again with my best friend, the day i found out she try 2 kill herself, she always cut herself even before she cheated on me, right in front of r daughter.shewentto a mental homefor 3 days, we went to counciling andworked it out, the next yearsheends up leaving me for my brother n law, who is 41 and she is 21, i know alot has happened, but i still love her, i want her back but can't, i need help to stop being in love with her, since she dating my brother n law it's puting my daughter and my sisters kids in this there shocked they r 3-7

2007-12-19 20:30:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-19 20:16:06 · 5 answers · asked by TT 2

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2007-12-19 20:11:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-19 20:06:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

another year has ended. What have you achieved so far?????
married,retires,got grand child,won a lottery,bought a new car,
found a newmate???????

2007-12-19 20:03:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

we are going to the snow soon and i would like to suprise her with something really romantic. im open to any ideas

2007-12-19 19:53:48 · 17 answers · asked by adam p 1

i really love my man and he loves me too and he wants to make things better with me he know he did wrong to me and he appoligized and made up to me and is making up to me more and i love that he even said to me that was not him at all from the way he was treating me and we live togeather to and my hours are altered because of work midnight to eight in the morning and i love my job because when i get off everyone goes to work sucks to be them lol so what do you think has happened here?

2007-12-19 19:39:39 · 19 answers · asked by daddyslittlegirl 2

my 6 month anniversary is coming up....
ladies and gentleman.... what should i do ?
whats proper for 6 months ?
seems specail to me.
Id like to do something for her.
any suggestions?

2007-12-19 19:15:59 · 15 answers · asked by rufstuff 3

2007-12-19 18:31:56 · 19 answers · asked by shygirl 1

I really want to have a breast reduction but my husband is totally against it. His ex-girlfriend had one and he said "they" were never the same again. I have always had larger breasts. Not the largest out there by any means, but way too much for my short body. I have to be careful about what kind of shirt I wear because that can REALLY affect how they look. I have to buy sturdy bras because the cheaper ones don't last long. I have to buy button-down shirts a size bigger so there aren't any gaps. Sometimes they do make my back hurt and they feel like they're pulling me down.

He swears that if I lose weight "they" will shrink. I don't believe it. In highschool I was about 130 lbs. and was in a 36C or D. Now, 12 years later, I am a 44DD. I am 5'2" and about 200 lbs. I don't look like I weigh that much because all of my weight is in my stomach and my breasts.

He said he isn't going to have any input on this topic, but I want to look into it. What should I do?

2007-12-19 18:14:52 · 9 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

my husband likes it in the morning and I like it at night,

2007-12-19 18:06:38 · 24 answers · asked by Angel L 3

My hubby has a dysfunctional family of origin and holidays were always awkward and uncomfy for all. Plus, his mom was always bossing everyone around during the holidays, so he kind of takes a back seat to plans and events, and his idea of a holiday is plopping himself in front of the tv.

I love celebrating the holidays and would like my family to have fun xmas traditions and celebrations. I can't figure out how to get my hubby to join in. I've asked him what he'd like to do for the holidays, or if there are any traditions he'd like to implement, and he just shrugs his shoulders and says he can't think of anything.
I'm thinking it's because he associates holiday celebrations as something to avoid. How can I encourage him to get involved in the holiday cheer?

2007-12-19 17:36:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, i'm starting the basics, i am in the reserves, my wife cheatedon me and when i found out she tried to kill herself, i called the poiliceand they took her away to a mental hospital, she was there for 3 days, i called my seargent and told him, then 2 days later i got word my unit was being deployed. i went to S.RP to get ready for deployment , then they said i can't go because of my wife, me and my wife tried working it out, but then a year later she leaves me for my brother n law who is 41 and my wife is 21, she takes my daughter and she wants joint costody, ( as far as i know,) i can get the police record of her attempted suicide, i can probably get a record of the reason why i didn't go to iraq, my wife is crazy, her brother killed himself 3 years ago, and right after that my wife had cancer, and they gave her the agressive chemo, she bacame a cancer survivor, but those two events is what caused her to go crazy, i seen my wife cut her self alot, she even tried to hang her self

2007-12-19 17:33:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I dated my wife for about 10 years before we got married during that time we broke up numerous times for mostly stupid reasons nothing like cheating. I find my wife neurotic self conscious and depressed which I thought would change with marriage well it has not. Ive lost sexual interest and attraction and the passion to her I used to feel when dating I know your supposed to be there for your other but I dont want to anyomore I want to move on and change a few things about myself and then try and find someone who is happy and makes me happy someone that can be my best friend and not just my wife or girlfriend. I do not feel close anymore nor do i enjoy spending time with her we have only been married a year and a half and I think these feelings shouldnt be an issue this early in our marriage. Am I wrong to want a divorce? Will counseling last? or is it just a temporary fix? someone help confused and feeling guilty for feeling this way

2007-12-19 17:32:33 · 26 answers · asked by ... 1

2007-12-19 17:24:04 · 15 answers · asked by ramesh m 1

Do you have to pretend that you never have the temptation to cheat? Though you might not go through with it

I know many women (not all, some are more realistic) that cannot stand the idea that their man might even be tempted by another woman. As far as I know, my husband as been faithful to me but I am sure that he feels attraction to other women. It wouldn’t be normal not to at least feel attracted to a beautiful, attractive woman. Heck, I am not gay but sometimes I see really attractive women and I know that if I was a guy I wouldn’t mind doing the naughty with them. Thoughts.

2007-12-19 17:22:25 · 9 answers · asked by scarlettt_ohara 6

I was a size 22 for a few years in my early 20's and am now a decent size 12 and have been for over 7 years. I am comfortable with my size, except when I am without clothing. While my fiancé and I have had sex and I thoroughly enjoy it, I am hesitant to try all the fun positions he wants because I am ridiculously self conscientious of myself. I have extremely bad cellulite, rolls of loose skin (my skin never got tight after weight loss - even though I exercise regularly), and a VERY nasty scar left over from a poorly done tummy tuck that extends to my rear giving me pointed cheeks!!! My bosom sags like an 80 year olds and even my back is embarrassing. My naked body is a humiliating example of the female form and I try my best not to let it bother me, but it does. I desperately want to please my fiancé once we are married and having sex regularly - but I hate having the lights on and allowing him to see me. How can I slowly get more comfortable? What can a person wear during sex

2007-12-19 17:17:46 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just quit smoking last month because I had just delivered my son and didnt want it in my life...my husband said he'd quit with me, but took it back after I quit. We have so little money, and he gives me a hard time about what I buy, but he sets aside a budget every month for his smokes. He coughs so bad that it sounds like he's going to die, he wheezes horribly, and frankly I'm terrified for his life. I dont want to lose him. I've tried asking him to quit, talking to him about it, but nothing is working...what can I do? He just gets defensive and angry when I say anything about it, and I'm only scared to lose him...
What can I do?

2007-12-19 17:06:01 · 11 answers · asked by krisindeed 3

My husband and I are temporarily separated till we resolve some issues. we talk everyday because of the kids and we had sex once, which made me hope more.he's told me he's gonna come back and he just needs space and time.

2007-12-19 16:51:20 · 15 answers · asked by JAT 1

We have been married for many years and I want to do something new for her this year. I've done clothes, chocolates, jewelry, books, candles, smelly bath stuff. What can I do?

2007-12-19 16:44:41 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous