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Ok, i'm starting the basics, i am in the reserves, my wife cheatedon me and when i found out she tried to kill herself, i called the poiliceand they took her away to a mental hospital, she was there for 3 days, i called my seargent and told him, then 2 days later i got word my unit was being deployed. i went to S.RP to get ready for deployment , then they said i can't go because of my wife, me and my wife tried working it out, but then a year later she leaves me for my brother n law who is 41 and my wife is 21, she takes my daughter and she wants joint costody, ( as far as i know,) i can get the police record of her attempted suicide, i can probably get a record of the reason why i didn't go to iraq, my wife is crazy, her brother killed himself 3 years ago, and right after that my wife had cancer, and they gave her the agressive chemo, she bacame a cancer survivor, but those two events is what caused her to go crazy, i seen my wife cut her self alot, she even tried to hang her self

2007-12-19 17:33:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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i think you can get full custody of your child, but your wife definately has some issues. even though you guys are getting a divorce maybe you should try to get her some help.
and yes you can get copies of the police report as evidence. i wish you the best of luck because you child should not have to witness those things.

2007-12-19 17:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by ga_girl_83 3 · 0 1

Wow! What a plate full for you. She tried to kill herself after she had your daughter? Man, you sure don't want your daughter to have to witness her Mom killing herself, cutting herself, or being the one to find her dead. Since she isn't coping better than that, then one certainly has to wonder how she can be a good role model for your daughter and teach her how to deal with life's disappointments. Raising a child comes with alot of challenges and your 'wife' doesn't sound like she's up to that challenge.

You have an obligation to your daughter to get the police reports for court and to bring up the fact that your 'wife' cut's herself and that her brother committed suicide. The Military wouldn't even let you go and serve your country because the case is so serious! I think you have a very good case.

Your 'wife' is living with another man twice her age, AFTER you gave her a chance after cheating on you. She's mentally & emotionally unstable. What's she going to do if you get full custody? The state has an OBLIGATION to protect that child. Not finding in your favor would be an abomination and the state would then be liable if anything happens to that baby.

Your wife, who isn't being a wife to you, needs alot of help. After what you've been through you may want to get some too. Man, I really wish all of you the best. Good luck with this one Darlin'. Hang on tight, sounds like another rough ride ahead. God Bless.

2007-12-19 18:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Horserider75 4 · 1 1

All you can do is try. It is true that judges usually prefer leaving children with the wife, but you do have equal rights and just need to build a case. You should do whatever you can to show you are a stable and loving parent, with the ability to care for a small child, you should have character witnesses that have seen you interact with your child, maybe even a psychologists reports on what would be best for her. Also, gather as much evidence as you can that your wife is an unfit parent, that is usually the difficult part. It may just come down to who can present the best case that they will be the better parent. See a lawyer who has experience in custody cases.

2007-12-19 17:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0 1

Yes you do have a case she's a danger to herself and the child even with the proper help she has a long way to go. You don't want to just take the child away from her because then she just might suceed in killing herself. But you can get full costudy of your child and she'll just have supervised visits with the child. But by you being in the military your going to have change somethings, you may be able to get dishonorable discharge. But first start making your case against her as soon as possible then after you've gain full costudy go to your superior. You'll be the only one the child has to depend on and the way things sound the child needs you. I WISH YOU THE BEST.

2007-12-19 17:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by D.S.C 3 · 0 1

Fathers are slowly gaining floor whilst it incorporates Custody, yet they have a protracted thank you to pass till now it somewhat is equivalent. there continues to be a false impression that a woman is the extra advantageous parent based totally on the fact that she gave start to the new child, and Judges tend to desire the mum through fact she is in many cases the familiar caregiver, jointly as the daddy is working and attempting to furnish for the relatives. we could be lifelike, there are nevertheless no longer that many stay at residing house dads / Mr mothers. The choose has an criminal accountability to attempt and furnish the main good atmosphere for the new child and it somewhat is in many cases the mum. different components come into play inclusive of financial stability, an excellent residing house, and the flexibility to safeguard the new child. If custody became into based totally on earnings, and a place to stay then the playing container would be slightly extra point, yet which would be unfair at maximum suitable to the new child, they have many needs, and funds is merely one among them. till adult males take a extra energetic function in Care giving, new child rearing and the on a daily basis issues, women will stay the extra popular social gathering to get Custody. adult adult males nevertheless have the mentality that by ability of merely working an entire time activity entitles them to come again residing house and relax and have minimum accountability whilst it incorporates little ones.

2016-10-08 23:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

moms usually have to do some wierd stuff to lose custody, like abuse the kids, have no income, be drug addicts, or raging alcoholics, sentenced to incarceration, or a danger to the kids

I don't know if your case would necessarily qualify, as opposed to having the courts keep the custody with the mother and have her get counseling.

I got custody of my daughter (I won't go into the details) but it took over a year, and the courts usually will do as much as they can to keep the kids with the mother. From what I read, you may not have enough. If the kids were in danger enough for you to get Social Services involved and open a case, you may have a much better chance.

I would at least talk to a lawyer about it instead of here, though.

2007-12-19 17:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

I want to start off by saying I am so sorry you and your daughter has to go through this. I think you can get full custody, but don't hold your daughter from her. That may make the both of them more devastated. Arrange visitation with your daughter with her only while you are around. Remember the child is what is most important and the ending decision is yours, but please make the right one. I hope you get this solved, and you and your daughter are able to move on with your lives.

2007-12-19 17:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Logan 2 · 0 1

You need to get a lawyer and do whatever it takes to get full custody of your child. Do you really want your child raised with an influence like that in there life?

I went through something like this recently myself, but we were able to work it out. If we were to ever split I would fight for custody since she is not too stable on her own.

2007-12-19 17:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by corruptkerm 2 · 0 1

yes, you do. My husband's ex got kicked off base in Japan during her second marriage, her second husband was Navy. During his marriage with her is was in the USAF, they were not married for long. She caused all sorts of trouble. Anyway, during her second marriage she caused a domestic and started sleeping with guys on the base the Navy sent her back to the states. Both my husband and her second husband have custody of the kids that they had with her. Stability is everything.

Get the base involved, document, phone calls she makes to your command. Have any attempts to contact your command or major logged and get it in writting. Make sure you speak to base legal about this issue. Sometime crazy people to crazy things. His ex during the divorce called the base and said that there were drugs in his car (obviously not!) he did drug tests for the military. She even called the base even after the divorce and when he and I had gotten married some time after saying we were not married and that he was commiting a crime according to the UCMJ ( of course we were married!).

I know base legal doesnt like to get involved with domestic issues, but you should make sure you contact them, your command and let them know what is going on before she tries crazy things.

Yes, I believe you should try to get custody, sounds like she is a very unstable person.

2007-12-19 17:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by giveu2tictacs 5 · 0 1

Woh. Yeah you need to get custody of that child and I think it would be a cut and dry case. She definitely sounds like a danger to the child. I wish you luck.

2007-12-19 17:41:19 · answer #10 · answered by cactusflower333 3 · 0 1

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