My husband and I are temporarily separated till we resolve some issues. we talk everyday because of the kids and we had sex once, which made me hope more.he's told me he's gonna come back and he just needs space and time.
2007-12-19 16:51:20 · 15 answers · asked by JAT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are still married, right? Right.
Would you rather him have sex with you, or go looking somewhere else? With you, right? Right.
If you are married, don't cut him off. Make him want to come back to you.
2007-12-19 17:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by tim269u 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Right.
Because, you don't want him to think that he can get sex from you whenever even if you're on a break.. then he'll never want to come off of the separation because he realizes he can do what he want and still get action from you as well. If he really needs space and time then there should be complete space and time which means NO SEX either.
2007-12-19 18:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why isn't it a good idea? You two are working on a reconciliation; if you don't have sex you may both find others to have it with. Separation is not divorce.
2007-12-20 01:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard I've been there myself, but sex is not a band-aid! things will just get worst because after the heat of love making has cooled so will the side of the bed he use to sleep cause he'll be gone again and u will resent that!!!!!!! Please try hard not to sleep with for your kids and your marriage. Also give him time to miss being with u that's why he came back in the first place. Good Luck :)
P.S. now that u have this free time on your hands do something different for u(hair-cut or color, new sexy cloths etc.) but also to make him open his eyes!
2007-12-19 17:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Alexis D 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
when a guy tells you hes coming back and he just needs space and time, the definition of that is: i need space means
he could have someone else and i need time means i need time with my new girl. thinking of himself, he has you on the back burner while hes out having a good time and as long as you allow it to happen the longer hes gonna do it, , you don't deserve what hes doing to you and who does he think he is to do it to you. start going out and acting as if you don't care and see how fast he comes crawling. while your out you may run into him with another "her"
2007-12-19 17:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not a good idea to still have sex while separated...what would be his incentive to work things out and come home when he can have the sex and no responsibilities of the relationship?
2007-12-19 16:58:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are married, you may be separated but you should be able to act on how you feel. If you are trying to reconcile I would think you would have some heart-to-heart discussions, go out on dates to renew your feelings, and yes...have romantic connections, even sex. If all he wants is a quickie with nothing else, I don't think he is making much effort to reconnect.
2007-12-19 17:04:23 · answer #7 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Sex doesn't help any resolution, just adds confusion.
Sex just covers up the problems, deal with them before becoming intimate. Then you may be able to have a stronger relationship later on.
2007-12-19 17:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by cmaria 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would say that you definitely need to set a clear timeline. Seek some good counseling. If he's not willing to commit in an emotional sense, you really should hold back.
2007-12-19 17:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think u should stay away from him--he is only using u for sex, i know that u feel that u having sex with him is bringing u closer to him but honestly to him it just meant that he got some p.ussy from u. he just wanted sex and is tricking u by saying that you´ll get back together again. men are like that.
2007-12-19 17:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋