The reason I was given for him looking at inter net porn was because I wrote my ex and at the end of my letters I wrote ALWAYS. My Ex has gone on with his life and me also. Can't people stay friends after a divorce?
2007-12-19 21:32:40 · 15 answers · asked by Susie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel that it was an excuse for his behavior. My Ex has a daughter that he is raising a lone and had questions about how I handled it.
At the end of my letters I wrote"Always." I care about him but am not in love with him. (My Ex)
But you'd think after 17 years if he had a problem with me writing my Ex he should of said some thing to me besides starting this mental game. If he would of said some thing from the get go maybe this crap wouldn't of happen
2007-12-19 22:10:22 · update #1
The sword has a double edge.
It's you cut me and I'll cut you. Time to let it go!!
2007-12-19 22:24:01 · update #2
Neither one is OK. If he's not OK with you writing to your ex, don't write to your ex. If you're not OK with him watching porn than it's not OK for him to do it.
2007-12-19 23:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well what does always mean at the end of your letters to your ex.I don't no anyone who writes their ex. Your ex is a real person, and porn, well real people are in it ,but it isn't like he will ever come in contact with any of them. Would you want him to write his ex?Wouldn't it bother you if he did?Of course it would. Believe it or not. Men have feelings.So it probably hurt him when you wrote your ex to begin with,and the always just topped it off. Really think about the difference in your ex and porn.
2007-12-19 22:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by lollypop 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ha!! Men have always wanted to justify their watching porn with some reason or the other so that they can go on watching without hindrance. Your Ex has become one such reason. There is nothing more to it. AND Yes people can stay friends after a divorce.
2007-12-19 21:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by anand r 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for men it is difficult to accept any friend thing happening specially between you and your ex...they are not matured and grown up to realize that one could remain friends with ex because its OK...
Its your decision to stay friend with your ex and till the time you are completely honest in your new relationship a casual communication should not bother your new bf. All he has to do is respect the choices you make in life.
2007-12-19 21:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nav 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not recommended. Just ease it off dear. Ex's are past and its not worth ruining the future because of the past. Porn is just a film. It doesnt bother anyone and it runs in a CD player. Cheers
2007-12-19 21:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Porn isn't and 99% of the time does NOT turn into a physical relationship. It really just depends on what you're writing to your ex. Does your significant other know what you're writing? My fiancée shares with me what she writes to her ex out of honesty. I don't even have to ask her. Would you rather him get his jollies from porn or actual women? He's gotta do something about that urge, so don't blame the porn.
2007-12-19 22:05:48 · answer #6 · answered by Russell 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's never going to meet the girls he looks at on-line. He wouldn't even know where to find them, even if looking at porn was a symptom of cheating.
You, on the other hand, do know where to find the ex, and clearly still have a lingering personal attachment to him.
"Always?" If my husband was writing that to his ex-wife I'd be miffed too. "Always" ended for you and your ex when you signed the divorce papers.
2007-12-19 22:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bellavita 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well unless its YOUR kid with the ex, dont write him letters ( and not with your husband around), its only going to cause problems. As for your husband viewing porn, he does that ANYWAY. Not because you did something, he views porn all the time guarenteed. All men do this, women stop trying to control your men not doing this. They will just lie about it!
2007-12-19 22:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Brittney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is that hes jealous. People tend not to trust their partners exs. Even if they trust their partner.
And looking at porn is no big deal anyway.
2007-12-19 21:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
writing the ex is a WHOLE LOT WORSE than looking at porn. people in those videos are nobody to him, your ex, well, is your ex. thats waaayyy wrong! on so many levels...
2007-12-19 22:57:33 · answer #10 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋