Marriage & Divorce - 16 December 2007

I have been married for well over 10 years. My wife for what ever reason refuses to have sex any more. It has been going on 3 years now. We have talked about this 2 1/2 ...2... 1 1/2...1 ....6months ago. 2 weeks ago I had told her I have finally had enough. Told her I still love her but don`t under stand.I said to her the way I see it there can only be a few reasons for this...#1 You are seeing someone else #2 she has turned into a lezzy ...#3 I must not be the right man for her or #4 there is a medical problem( which is not the case) She said she was not seeing anyone and didn`t want to and no to the lezzy part as well. 2 days ago I met a really nice gal that I wouldn`t mind getting to know better. We met again yesturday for coffee. I have never cheated on my wife before but this time I`m not sure if I will or not...I still love my wife but think we both deserve more out of life. My question to you is what would you do in my shoes

2007-12-16 23:57:53 · 21 answers · asked by charlie s 5

My grandfather is starting to become mentally unstable, but it is somewhat on and off. We do not want the state to step in and start making decisions on how and where he is taken care of and what happens to his financial assets.

2007-12-16 23:33:50 · 4 answers · asked by obeythefro 1

If No - Why? If Yes - What answer did you get?

2007-12-16 23:05:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

she had to marry because of the situational compulsion.her husband loves her alot and he is asofthearted.the problem is her ex-love haunts her like any thing.he mails her and calls her using all bad words.she is fighting hard to adjust with the new life.she loves him so much so she cant even back answer him.she asks me what to do?what should i reply .i know both of them personally both loved eachother truely.i think he wanted to get set so he is doing this but what should i tell to her .is it advisable to tell her to tell the matter to her husband.i dont think he can afford it.she is as if she has lost her after hearing all these from her ex love.before that she was about to adjust with the life.what should i tell her

2007-12-16 22:52:59 · 4 answers · asked by meera menon 1

we got the decree nisi, but then got a letter from her solicitor demanding money that just doesnt exist, he wont talk to her which makes things harder to resolve, she keeps putting on demands that we cant come to, its already been 2 and a half years since the divorce started, im beginning to think it will never go through, we are waiting to get married, we havnt got engaged yet so no-one knows just incase she finds out and makes things more difficult for us, how can we get her to realise she wont get any of her demands and just let the divoce go through?

2007-12-16 22:32:35 · 9 answers · asked by Angel 3

i dont feel the love i use to for my wife any more but the lady i had been / sleeping with , since 2 years. Also i dont want to divorce my wife as i know the childrens would suffer the most."THE LADY" now think its bad to keep up the relation and i should indulge in my family. I DONT WANT TO LOOSE HER AT ANY COST. She stopped talking to me 1 year back and i cant get her out of my mind still, there is no time i can stop thinking of her, my wife since a year know about the infiedility and my relation that made the lady to stop talking to me, i want "THE LADY " back. Dont want my kids to suffer as well.HELP.

2007-12-16 22:24:22 · 11 answers · asked by Man_In_Love 1

You are in deep sleep in the night and suddenly you feel wet & chill on your cheeks. You wake up to know that, its your husband / wife kissing you in his / her sleep uttering some strange name that you never knew such person before!! He / She repeats the same for couple of times and goes to sleep again. What will you do?

2007-12-16 21:09:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

That happened me but a well these things happen.

2007-12-16 21:07:59 · 12 answers · asked by D 7

am doing study on divorce for coursework if you are willing 2 help i need to know:
your age
if you have been divorced and if possible why
if you think divorce is easier to get if you are male or female

2007-12-16 20:55:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

should i let it go and just realize that i am not attractive right now or put him in his place??

2007-12-16 20:44:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My controlling mom is basically forcing me to marry this guy (who is way older) in another country in order for him to gain citizenship in America. . .I do not want to be a part of this!!! HELP!!

2007-12-16 20:41:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

She considers it cheating or being unfaithful and wants nothing to do with me anymore. I am not going to do it anymore but now she isnt wanting me sexually anymore and thats causing me worse problems since im not watching porn and relieving myself its building up and she isnt here for me anymore...im frustrated...and i wont go back to it because it will only make things worse then it already is...how do i get her over this and want to be with me again...

2007-12-16 20:23:31 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My paychecks went to groceries, bills, and entertainment. His went to furniture, investments, HIS credit card bills. Now I'm at a loss for any proof that anything is even half mine.

Not living where I want to live. Desperately want to move. Tired of being treated like a barefooted slave. If food isn't on the table, it's the end of the world. If the weekend doesn't involve HIS plans for a good time, its the end of the world.

I don't remember the last time we even did something I want to do. Want to move, want to live on my own, but still love him. Afraid to abandon him. Afraid to be on my own as well (even though I KNOW I could make it and succeed far better than he could).

Any advice, helpful or not, silly or serious, whatever you got. You all know that ONE word can trigger a thousand thoughts. Many thanks in advance. Cheers to my friends in the UK.

Merry Christmas!

2007-12-16 20:21:44 · 18 answers · asked by Emily Chicago 2

I am a young single mom with a almost 5 yr old daughter. Me and her dad are not together since years ago, he has moved on and gotten married and divorced, but between us there is no chance of reconcile. For me I find it hard to move on and fall in love with someone else, there is a part of me who feels guilty when it comes to falling in love, i feel I have no right to have a boyfriend that I would be doing wrong if I do have one or fall in love..what can I do to make myself feel that its ok to move on and take away those feelings of guilt?

2007-12-16 20:14:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am in love with a woman that I can not have which she is married with children. She is not happy in her marriage as the reason we sneak around to see each other. We have not have sex since seeing each other for the past month.

She says if she gets involved with me she will loose everything. We still see each other only if I insist. I leave notes of kindness for her but the last few notes she have ignored them. We work 3rd shift together and once that end she will go back to first shift and I may not see her again.

I am not sure if she is confused as to what she wants. I know she loves her children but not her situation. She seems to be doing everything on her own and never mentions her husband.

She is a beautiful and kind woman and I do not know what to do. I came to her second job at the advise of my friend and I believe that was a mistake.

How do a win a woman (hispanic) that is uncertain of things in her life. I will see her tomorrow night, what shoudl I do or say.

2007-12-16 20:01:49 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

The short and skinny of my situation is that I have a slight addition to pornography. I do not look at it often but every once in a while I will click on a website that I know about to see, lack of a better word, what is new. I have never tried to seek satisfation elsewhere but I do find myself pulled to this world. I have, not that it is a valid reason, been able to track the episodes to points where levels of stress are elevated and sexual relations have decreased between my wife and I. I have made major improvements in the amount that I use to watch but I have not been able to completely remove it from my life (either through spam or easy access to free sites).

Now that you know some of the history of my situation. I know that I have stumbled (and I do every 1-2 yrs) but does this make bad Husband and partner. There is nothing else that I do that one would view as unfaithful. Am I wrong and to what level would you consider it?

2007-12-16 19:59:57 · 13 answers · asked by ChaRiaLer 4

The ones who REALLY ARE miserable with thier wives, and they REALLY ARE stuck. and they REALLY DO wish they could dump thier wives for you? many say its an excuse, a lie,b ut arent there some situations where theyre telling the truth? if so, how do u know the difference?

2007-12-16 19:59:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom cheated on my dad and I'm so angry at her, I feel like I never want to talk to her or see her again, but we're close. What should I do? This is the second time and I forgave her for the first time, she's also not being responsible when it comes to the younger kids in the family that need her. The holidays and are coming up so it's going to be really hard. What should I do? She can't keep doing this to my dad.

2007-12-16 19:43:36 · 10 answers · asked by Agnostic 4

2007-12-16 19:34:39 · 15 answers · asked by chris 1

My cousins dad is getting a divorce, he stares at me a lot and compliments me on my looks. I told my cousin a while ago that I thought his dad was hot, you don't think the divorce is happening because he wants to be with me do you? It would be flattering but the guy is twenty years older than me! Maybe he is just being kind to my compliment about him? I don't want to be the cause of a happy relationship to end!

2007-12-16 19:24:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My sister in law knows all my bedroom secrets and i mean all.

2007-12-16 18:13:00 · 19 answers · asked by Billy Hughes 1

My husband and I were talking about a certain situation or more like massacre that happened to a certain country in 99 and many people were dead, and anyway, as the conversation went through I just wanted to test and see what he would say so I said, "They deserved it all,." but I actually didn't mean it, now he's looking at me in a different way, and I feel HORRIBLE but it was only a joke to start with, I couldn't wish anything like that to happen to even a fly, yet alone people. I'm trying to get over this and I cant...

No stupid answers please! I posted it here for a good enough reason!

2007-12-16 18:03:52 · 11 answers · asked by NY0120 2

As you may know from my previous questions, I am been dumpd by my husband who wants me out of the house when he comes back.
Im accused of adultery by his sisters who just hate me, and hes stupid enough to believe them, even though I have done everything for him for 7 years.

My dont have any clothes that fit me anymore, sad to say.
I always thought it better to spend on the house and him and our child now.

We have a shared account with about 35,000
If I went on a spending spree to buy the things I have gone without all these years, would it look bad to the judge when we finally get a divorce?

Im tempted to go out and buy a new wardrobe because Im going to have to start looking for a job.

And since we have 2 cars, one with a payment of $450 I know hes going to want to keep his precious truck and sttick me with the SUV payments.
So Im thinking of paying off the entire $12000 left on the SUV.

This way the judge wil se we have 2 cars and split them down the middle

2007-12-16 17:54:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-16 17:51:46 · 3 answers · asked by Sharon H 1

2007-12-16 17:50:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, bare with me here. I was seeing this girl, let's just call her Nina. Her and I went out several times and always had a good time. The problem is that she is married, but she always complained about her marriage to me. She kept telling me that she was going to leave her husband and that she was going to file for divorce. I kept waiting for that to happen, so I could take our relationship further. She finally said that she was going through with it, but she backed out from doing it. I was really getting fed up with this, but my feelings for her were stronger than they were before. I was actually in love with her. A few days later, we go to the office christmas party and I decide to tell her how I feel. I got shot down hard and she never really intended on getting divorced. Since we work together, I have to see her everyday and that makes me feel worse. I've been out with other girls since this has happened, but I cannot seem to get over this no matter what I do.

Thx

2007-12-16 17:48:37 · 7 answers · asked by R e a v e r 2

lets say you were out on a girls night without your husband and went back to your friends house and fooled around, would that be cheating or just some innocent girl on girl action?

2007-12-16 17:32:11 · 55 answers · asked by hilly 1

Two years ago my husbands ex-wife sent my him papers stating that she was ammending their divorce papers for supervised visitation only. She did this two months after our child was born, I assume because she was mad because she thought we would lower her child support.
The allegations for the supervised visitation were that he was not taking his anti-psychotic medication and that he did illegal drugs and drank alcohol. Me, not ever having been involved in this sort of thing thought that if we just showed the judge the actual medicine labels printed from the pharmacy to show that the drugs that he took were not anti-psychotic but actually sleeping pills (along with his medical records) and agreed to a hair drug test that this would prove all her allegations to be untrue and all would be good...boy was I wrong. We were pretty much treated like the most dysfunctional family in the history of time.
My husband feeling defeated (and we not really having the extra money for an attorney)

2007-12-16 17:06:41 · 6 answers · asked by kristilkleer 2

About 2 months ago, my mom left me in the car for awhile so she could use the ATM. I was bored or something, and I don't know why, but I checked her phone's inbox. There was a ton of messages, like "your breasts were delicious" and things like that. That kept bothering me. This week, she kept texting while she was watching tv. Yesterday, I grabbed her cell phone when she wasn't in her room and I checked her inbox. There were even more messages from the same number. They all said stuff like "sex with you is very good" or "I'm hard as a rock" and it mentioned having sex with two other people I think are from my mom's job. Her outbox had lots of texts like "was it good".
I told my older brother because we get along really well. I'm 13 and he's 18. My parents would always talk about divorce & I always wondered why they never did. But 18 yrs, 4 kids later (1 autistic), and after kinda abusing us, my mom has to do this.

It's the holidays so my bro & I don't know what to say, or when.
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2007-12-16 16:51:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband have been married for 7 months now and iam to the point where iam done with all of the b.s. Let me start from the begining, We got married everything was fine up untill i had my daughter then he completely changed. I dont know if its a coinsadense or not but the day after i had her while i was still in the hospital he left me to go to the movies because he thought his birthday was more important. A week later he left to go back to florida because he is in the marines so he only had leave for a short time, but we were use to not being around each other b/c of him being away for bootcamp. but ne way he has been rude, disrespectful, and just completely annoying. example 1. He came home for the weekend & he was holding her & asked should he lay her down n i said sure it was real late, then she started crying so he picked her up n she was still crying n he said to her you getting put down and just that. meanwhile iam folding clothes & she is still laying there n he

2007-12-16 16:43:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous