Ok, bare with me here. I was seeing this girl, let's just call her Nina. Her and I went out several times and always had a good time. The problem is that she is married, but she always complained about her marriage to me. She kept telling me that she was going to leave her husband and that she was going to file for divorce. I kept waiting for that to happen, so I could take our relationship further. She finally said that she was going through with it, but she backed out from doing it. I was really getting fed up with this, but my feelings for her were stronger than they were before. I was actually in love with her. A few days later, we go to the office christmas party and I decide to tell her how I feel. I got shot down hard and she never really intended on getting divorced. Since we work together, I have to see her everyday and that makes me feel worse. I've been out with other girls since this has happened, but I cannot seem to get over this no matter what I do.
Thx
2007-12-16 17:48:37 · 7 answers · asked by R e a v e r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I realize that I can't get the girl that I want at this point, but how do I get over her when I have to see her everyday at work. When she flirts with other guys, my stomach cringes in pain.
2007-12-16 17:49:10 · update #1
You don't do anything accept...
Realize already that in life, we really do reap what we sow.
Good luck.
2007-12-16 17:56:06 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being realistic in noting that you cannot get the girl you want. You are right. You cannot get the girl that you think or feel you want at this point in your life.
However, time will pass and so will some of the pain of this loss of the dream you had about a possible life with her.
She was cruel for playing you along like she did; and if you see her flirt with others at work now, you know she is only going to try to do the same with any other man who gives her attention.....
This woman does not seem capable of sincere affection, so in the end, you have lost some time and some dreams, but there isn't much real loss in a woman who cannot be a faithful partner to anyone, is there?
It may not be something you even want to consider at this point, but you may at some point decide to find another job so you do not have to interact with her on a regular basis.
If you cannot get your feelings under control, there is no reason to prolong the pain of being near her.
If your stomach is really bothering you, please see your doctor about it......people do develop ulcers when under
stress, you do not need one more problem at this time.....
Give yourself time to heal. If you are truly the nice guy you
seem to be in your email, the right woman will come along and you will be happy again---but this time it could be the
genuine thing---not someone just playing games with your heart and mind.
All the best,
Doris
2007-12-17 02:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Doris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly the reason why we say don't date anyone from work.
First, you shouldn't have told her how you felt...and since you're at work...not good.
What to do?
Reality check...
Do you like the job?
Yes...then stay
No...then go
Are you going to die a gruesome death from seeing her everyday at work?
"No" should be your answer.
So what the hell am I saying...
Just like tell other people in your situation
...go back to work, head up, back straight, and smile like nothing bothers you. Stop moping about how worse you feel just because you see her everyday. You telling her how you feel and then walk around the office with the sad face...do you think she's going to change her mind when she now sees you acting like a hurt dog?
Almost done...don't ever tell a married woman you love her. Expect either two things from this...
1. Expect to get flushed down the toilet because she just used you.
2. Expect to get flushed down the toilet if her husband finds out.
Lastly...stop drinking that wine or fruity drinks and grab a beer.
Best of luck to you.
2007-12-17 02:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by stonehands 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man I know excattly how ya feel...I'm in the same sisuation but don't work with her she lives accross the street from me...shes the most amazing woman in the world...I don't know your age or hers but im 20 and shes 32 but it's tought cause I've know her for years...but I just would say Hi to her whenever you see her but woudn't say for then that...Don't feel like an idiot for telling her I told this chick my feelings for her and if you don't tell her they'll never now man it sucks
2007-12-17 01:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be thankful that you are not feeling the pain of a bullet that you deserve, Stay out of other peoples marriages.
2007-12-17 01:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by chubbiguy40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's why you don't get involved with a married woman/man. Give it time and you will be fine, just try to avoid her as much as possible and remember she has a family and maybe kids!
2007-12-17 01:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Success ............ takes your mind off things and makes you a better person.
Just set your mind to it and quit thinking about it.
Good Luck!
2007-12-17 02:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Queenie` 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋