Marriage & Divorce - 16 December 2007

my fiance will take over his fathers construction company in the next five years. its a big company. and we have been together for a about 4 years but just recently got engaged. we love eachother and we both feel like we hit the jack pot with eachother and adore eachother. well, he asked me what i thought about a prenup. he says he knows nothing will happen to us. but really, if he wants me to sign one, doesnt that mean he thinks we will divorce later on? i know in my heart i will never do anything to hurt him and i dotn believe in divorce. unless he cheated on me or hit me. and he knows this and agrees. we are goign though premaritital counseling and we want to do everyhitn we can to be prepared for the future. we really love eachother. but i am really hurt by him asking me about signing one. he says he wants his brothers g-friend to sign one more than anyhting. but, i am really torn. what do you all think?

2007-12-16 13:37:12 · 17 answers · asked by drock 1

He kinda wants to quit but kinda doesn't and he knows he should. Hes quit in the past with AA, and has been thinking about going to AA again. The only way his addiction affects our relationship is financially. I know, thats bad enough. But he wants help and support from me also. Ive never dealt with an alcoholic or any kind of addict before so i have no idea how to help and support him. Any advice? Please be respectful!

2007-12-16 13:18:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

When do you know when its time to get a divorce? Ive been cheated on by my husband and he's always lying to me. Ive been through the mental and physical abuse with him. I just found out last week that he hasnt been paying the car note for 6 months (my name is on this car also). I believe that Im a good wife and mother. People have even told me before that he's so lucky to have me. I try and I try.... but when do you know that you need to stop trying and leave??? And when you got your divorce..... were you happy?? Or did you wish you never left??

2007-12-16 13:14:27 · 22 answers · asked by Amethyst 1

This is a very long and sad story it could have been beautiful but my husband didn't help me when he could! Long story short after 2 yrs together I sold my house from a previous marriage. I spent the money on getting my husband legalized because he worked under fake ids for government and i didn't agree plus we just had a baby. Well i buy him a car so we can work and go towo seperate directions. After a yr and a half of him staying at home and me working he gets his greencard and ss card I pretty much straighten his life out which i wanted 2 do because i love him and we have a baby together. Well he works only one week and leaves me then a month later goes into the military.When he is gone i go with the police to his family members house and get my truck it is in his name but i bought it for him to work and give money to the family not leave me and ride around in. If that was the case i never would have bought it as i already have a car. Well he comes back we meet to talk sleep togethe

2007-12-16 13:13:48 · 8 answers · asked by poo~poo 1

Our divorce was finalized on August 31 2007. We own a home that are currently on the market. It says in the decree that we are equally responsible for the mortgage until the home is sold.

Now I can't stand being a "roomate" with him and need to move out as soon as possible. If I do move out, do I still need to pay half of the mortgage? Especially when he asked me to move out?

The jurisdiction state is Iowa. Thanks

2007-12-16 13:13:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just wondered how long it takes a man to wander when his wife is not "giving it up"? He knows why and he seems fine with it, but I dont think he really is fine with it. I thnk he knows that I am going to leave him anyway and how do you know if you spouse is crazy enough to hurt you? I recently found out his ex-wife had a PPO against him during their divorce because he threatened to shoot her in the head!!!! Who does one turn to for help if they need it, when there isnt any family in the picture? And are there really men who would rather hurt their wives, even kill them than to have their wives leave them?

2007-12-16 13:06:53 · 19 answers · asked by statz 2

Should I divorce my wife and marry this new one? Haven't even spoken to the new one but i am sure she wants me too. What should I do?

2007-12-16 13:05:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

They call each other bi(ches and are more critical/judgemental of each other.
If women dont respect each other then how can we expect respect from men?

2007-12-16 13:03:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-16 12:57:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My son and his wife, married 2 years, have new computers, big screen TV, new car, etc, all of which they probably bought on credit which has left them with no money for Christmas presents. The past year, I gave him money to pay for extensive dental work as he could not afford to have it done otherwise. I also gave them generous gifts of money on every occasion, and now for Christmas I have done the same. They gave me a card but told me they will not be buying anyone any Christmas gifts as they cannot afford it. I have not let it bother me up til now and I feel kind of petty that it is in the back of my mind that they could get me some little thing. What do you think?

2007-12-16 12:54:39 · 18 answers · asked by Lean_on_Me 1

Did you know when you met them that you would fall in love and be to gether for a long time?My friend told me the other day that she "just knew" the first time that she saw her sweetheart that they would be together. They got married and have two cute little ones.Have you experienced this?
Unfortunately I have not ) : ) : ) : )

2007-12-16 12:53:23 · 8 answers · asked by DO YOU LOVE ME♥*´`*•.¸★｡ 3

2007-12-16 12:49:35 · 28 answers · asked by Harry Monk (18 'til I Dry) 5

My ex boyfriend says that he makes 8 grand a week collecting signatures to put on a ballot. I told him I am getting married, and I think he is using this to try to get me back. How can petitioners make 8 grand.

2007-12-16 12:47:41 · 5 answers · asked by Bride2Be 4

2007-12-16 12:47:21 · 4 answers · asked by Lean_on_Me 1

My husband and I were married in NY in 1997. I thought we were happily married until last Feb. he came to me and told me he no longer wanted to be married. After a huge mess - I found out that he has been messing around with a close friend of ours.

He moved out of our home in April and let it go to foreclosure. I have been a stay at home mom for 8 years and trying to get on my own 2 feet now.

I just recently (within a couple of weeks) got a place to live for my children and I.

We have both gotten lawyers and have been going through the visitation/child support/alimony thing....which is almost settled.

I have talked to my lawyer about this and it seems like she just keeps putting it off. I want this divorce - I want to file now but Im not sure how to go about doing it. Where do I go? Also, due to me being a stay at home mom for 8 years, funds are really low while I get my feet on the ground - is there something out there that will help me?

Thanks!

2007-12-16 12:25:40 · 2 answers · asked by Un-happily married 1

why are some people are willing to leave who they are with becuse of what they get them.. me and my bf are more concern with getting for the kids than us. for the last 3yrs we gotten each other nothing

2007-12-16 12:23:42 · 5 answers · asked by vis 7

I have everything I have ever reasonalbly dreamed of...

lots of friends
lots of family
A house
A wife
2 beautiful healty kids
3 cars
No bill worries
I live in NYC
We Travel at least twice a year
I have health
my wife is hot
I get and do what I want
I play with my kids all the time, take them to baseball and play Wii and just have fun...

I'm in my 30's and will do charity when I'm a litle older.....

Why is it that I don't feel satisfied?? I've been with my wife for 10 years, and we love eachother...

2007-12-16 12:21:14 · 19 answers · asked by Latin G 5

I use the word "infatuated" because only time will tell if it's actually "love". -- I'm playing with fire I know, and my family, friends and probably any stranger would say to just leave it alone. But when you're really, really... really interested in someone, you just can't move on to somebody. This man is literally my "perfect man", from his looks, to his profession, to his personality, even the sound of his voice is perfection to me. Not only am I playing with fire because he's married and older, but because he's in law enforcement, with a rather high rank too.
What do I do? This kind of thing (which I've never felt before) doesn't just go away...
Any advice?

2007-12-16 12:20:52 · 29 answers · asked by Sofia 1

My ex went in for a possible heart attack, should I take my kids to see him. they are 5 and 4 and don't like doctors at the moment. My ex will be out in one day.

2007-12-16 12:19:34 · 14 answers · asked by rtzy79ldybug 2

and he was out on bail and i allowed him to come home and my old friend called the cops to inform them that he was there... (*****) and he was arrested. but first of all when he was arrested to begin with i didnt write a statement please help me and be supportive i need helpful answers

2007-12-16 12:07:32 · 13 answers · asked by Cheryl o 1

2007-12-16 12:02:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Since marriage is something instituted and ordained by God, and the bible speaks adomantly against homosexuality, why do gays feel the need to get married? Why don't they just shack up and be happy seeing that they are living in sin anyway?

2007-12-16 11:51:49 · 18 answers · asked by cave man 6

how long before it is acceptable to date again. I have been split for 8 months and have the kids with me, should I try something ne or sit answering questions every night for a few months longer??

2007-12-16 11:49:03 · 11 answers · asked by Ylang-Ylang 6

We had just bought a new house and 2 new trucks. Everything seemed to be on track. I'm mean we didn't have the greatest marriage but who does?

2007-12-16 11:48:08 · 6 answers · asked by "RAW" 1

My husband and I have just found out that my 14 year old stepson with ADHD has been touching out 4 year old daught. She is my only child and my little girl. I feel like I hate him he is no longer aloud to spend the night! Hope am I suppose to feel or react.

2007-12-16 11:41:55 · 19 answers · asked by krispix 2

my husband &i got married for a couple of years last christmas his ex send christmas card w/picture to my husband parents.his ex doesnt like his parents my husband parents doesnt like her too.last christmas when his parents receive card from his ex they told my husband that shes sending card and my husband didnt care about it nor his family either.this week my husband visit to his parents &his dad told him they recieve again card w/photo his ex & some other girls mybe those are lesbian too.my husband come home told me his ex sending again my husband told me that his ex did that b4 to his real mom to mke her jealous my husband and his real mom not close b4.i told my husband this christmas we gonna take picture together w/our child and send to my husband real mom &give some card w/picture to his ex mom coz my husband real mom and his ex live in the same town.what do u think of this guys?give me ur opinion.sorry its long story for those of u have experience like this i wana hear ur opnion

2007-12-16 11:35:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why does a man state that he really wants to get with a person? Then when the person reciprocates, the person who "gushed" all over themselves, "acts" as though he has no clue. This has not been done "once" but multiple times. When he appears, he is all "happy" to see me. He even pretended he didn't say that he cared for me, to all of those people. What is going on here. The way that he acted, it almost sounded like an advertisement. He "kissed me" on the cheek at a "party" and no alcohol was served there. He "hugged me" in the aisle at church. This is very strange behavior.

2007-12-16 11:29:05 · 6 answers · asked by In God We Trust 7

I just moved because my husband got transfered. I was happy where i was living, i had my job and my friends and it is a safe and beautiful city. Now I live in a bigger city, more dangerous, i dont know anybody and i feel very depressed. I know that i should support my husband but i really want to go back. So, I have to decide between my marriage and the place where I want to live. We have been married four years, we dont have kids because he doesnt want any YET, he has is own daughter. I dont know if I should forget about everthing over there and start over here just for my husband even tho I wont be happy as I used to be. HelP!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-16 11:27:40 · 18 answers · asked by Sofy 4

Yet, I know that we decent guys are simply everywhere. Throw a dart out the window and chances are you'll hit one of us. Are these women just full of it? Where would a decent guy, like me fr instance, go to meet one of these women who are supposedly seeking a decent guy? Are these women for real? Is there somewhere I don't know of, where these women hang out waiting for a decent guy to walk through the door? Or, as I suspect, are these women just full of it in one way or another?

2007-12-16 11:20:40 · 17 answers · asked by lmspencr 4

I was pregnant 3 years ago and due to complications we had to remain abstinant till after baby was born. So for the past two years we have been ok for a sex life. We are both 30 years old However it has slowley gotten worse. Since May i can count on my fingers the anount of times we have been intament. i feel like i am a horrible disgusting person that he must not want me. When i bring it up he tells me to stop begging. He comes up with new excuses every night. I have tried to talk to him and he tells me he doesnt see what the problem is as far as he is concerned there isn't one.He takes medication for his back but has for many years with out this problem. I asked him to speak to his doctor and he got mad and said there was no reason to. He said that it is normal. I have tried everything i can think of i don't know what to do. The rest of our relationship seems fine to me. I just cry myself to sleep tyring to figure out what is wroung. I would really like some good advice. Thank you

2007-12-16 11:19:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous