does this mean he plans on a divorce?

Question

my fiance will take over his fathers construction company in the next five years. its a big company. and we have been together for a about 4 years but just recently got engaged. we love eachother and we both feel like we hit the jack pot with eachother and adore eachother. well, he asked me what i thought about a prenup. he says he knows nothing will happen to us. but really, if he wants me to sign one, doesnt that mean he thinks we will divorce later on? i know in my heart i will never do anything to hurt him and i dotn believe in divorce. unless he cheated on me or hit me. and he knows this and agrees. we are goign though premaritital counseling and we want to do everyhitn we can to be prepared for the future. we really love eachother. but i am really hurt by him asking me about signing one. he says he wants his brothers g-friend to sign one more than anyhting. but, i am really torn. what do you all think?

when i say unless he hits me or cheats on me. ... i mean like really beats me up (he never would!) or had sex with another woman. i would still love him, but i couldnt forget about that. i woudl try, but would never be able to trust him again....

Answer 1

Have you seen or heard of how many men come out of a divorce on the loosing end? Where the women get it all? He just doesnt want to end up that way. He isnt thinking of divorce, noone really ever does plan that before they are actually married, but it does happen to the best of us. If this is a family owned business and has been for some time, the last thing they want to see happen is for it to get lost in the big D IF it does happen. Dont worry. Its not a big deal. (Not as big as everyone makes it.) If it has to be done, make sure that there is something in it for you; in writing. It can all work out for the best and it will set minds at ease.

Answer 2

Getting a prenup is not just about you and your fiance. His father worked hard to have his own company, and probably wants it protected for his children. It's just smart to address this before getting married, for everyone's sake. Your signing a prenup would also show what your intentions are, and what they aren't...

Nobody ever gets married with the idea that they will get divorced later on, but you can't ignore the stats. More than 50% of couples eventually do split up. They probably all think it will never happen to them.

Even people you know well can surprise you with their behavior. Prenups are the only way you can protect yourself and your family where there are no guarantees.

Answer 3

If you think you will never get divorced then what is the harm in signing the prenup...it would be just a useless piece of paper. He is just protecting his company on the off chance in the future things don't turn out as hoped. Believe me you think you love him now and would never hurt him, but realistically if you were married to him a long time and he turned around and said he wanted a divorce there is the chance you would be so angry you would try and get half his business that his family worked so hard to build. If you believe this will never happen, sign the prenup and forget about it.

Answer 4

I don't think the prenup is a sign of a divorce to come. Think of it as you all securing your future and the future of your children. The construction company is his fathers and it should stay in that family, it is only right. The only thing is that I would make sure that you are taken care of if the prenup ever has to be used. Get your own lawyer, tell him to get one drawn up and take it to your lawyer. If he agrees that it is fair then sign it and if not tell him that you want it to be more fair and this is what you want. Also, in those you can put stipulation about adultry and abuse. If you both want them in there then put them in there. The best thing to do is to be honest and up front with each other and don't let this be a point of contention between the two of you.

Answer 5

Prenups are pretty standard these days when significant assets are involved. I can understand how you would take offense by him mentioning it, but it will protect both of you and is understandable considering the situation with a family business. Nothing is ever certain and it certainly can't hurt to have it. And it isn't like the prenup will be staring you in the face everyday. You can sign it and forget about. I'm sure he was very uncomfortable asking you to sign it. The choice is yours but it just isn't a big deal these days. Congratulations on your engagement!

Answer 6

A prenup doesn't mean he plans on a divorce. It just a protection for his family business. You never know you might want a divorce in 10 years, not him. I would just sign it and forget about it.

Answer 7

Since this is a family business handed down from father to son....I feel your fiancee and his family have every right to ask for prenup agreement...It does not mean he is planning on divorce..just keeping the family business in tact.....Best of luck

Answer 8

It sounds like he's just trying to cover himself should the marriage fail (and let's be real, more than half of them do). I would agree to sign the prenup ONLY after my lawyer (not one you have together but one that is only yours) has gone over it and made sure that I won't be getting screwed.

Answer 9

I think a pre-nup is a way of protecting his fathers business and I think you should sign it's nto about thinking you will divorce or not it is about a family heirloom and if his brother fiancee has to sign one then you should too... don't be hurt it is a part of protecting your belongings just incase... if you don't get divorced thats good but if you do then it is his fathers business in your hands and you could take everything and ruin it all

Answer 10

Well, if YOU love him enough you will sign the prenup. You can't say you will never leave him. Circumstances change. Feelings change. Money dominates. I would probably do the same thing. If you want to stay with him, you sign.